Clare Lavery

'Tutto si calma di memoria
e resta il confine più dolce della terra
una lontana cupola di festa'

'Everything calms in memory's wake
only the sweetest trace-edges remain
as distant observance'

Alfonso Gatto #BarriereFragili Di Tempi Perduti

Night Night

We put on ourselves by creating pedestals
If we think someone is perfect
If we make mistakes we can’t confide in an Angel on a pedestal.

We build our own barriers to Love #BarriereFragili

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With the #accesstojustice agenda on #IWD2026 we are looking to remove barriers for women & girls to become their best selves #CSW70

an un-becoming of who we have been expected to be since birth

Divenire - L.Einaudi
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Sundown in Durham
Image

Love blows moonlight through the ruins #BarriereFragili

Sky with glowing full moon behind a bird of prey silhouetted on tree branch

“In this world things are beautiful only because they are not quite seen, or not perfectly understood. Poetry is precious chiefly because it suggests more than it declares.”
― Anthony Trollope
writingforwellbeing.co.uk
#writing #WritingCommunity #WritersCommunity

Make hay
When the sun shines
Flask of tea
A favourite stile
The stripping away of Winter
Warmth in the bones

Here Comes the Sun
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Following sunlit paths
A lone deer hesitant
On the city’s verges
But light years away
Keep the darkness
of this current world
at bay
Nature’s barrier protects

#BarriereFragili

We are drawn to each other
Magnets

“I should feel the air move against me, & feel the things I touched, instead of having only to look at them..we can neither hear nor feel nor understand.”

D.H. Lawrence, Women in Love
#benedettaUmanità

Gravity
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Like seeds in a potting shed
We grow
With sunlight and watering
We take up Space
Then shatter the Walls
Blossoming

#BarriereFragili #VentagliDiParole

The Glass House
youtu.be/8md1m6C5Dvw?...

Susanna Ussing- 'The Greenhouse'
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Respect the effort. Support the progress. Not just on 1 day #IWD #8Marzo #8mars

Respect & Progress. Not just on 1 day #IWD26 #IWD2026 #CSW70
#DomesticAbuse #CSA

Nurture the flame 🔥
Bring Equity with Peace 🫒
Access to Justice for Women
Access to Justice for their Children

Not just one day
Every day
We live it
We speak it
We write it
We sing it
We nurture it

Every society an alchemy
A synthesis of contrasts
The power dynamics
The games people play
The Light and Dark
The Love and the Underworld

We barely scratch the surface as a tourist
A whole Lifetime is needed to SEE the surface and deep structures

If I could tell you…
though I told you so
In so many ways
I told you so
Carrying harvest apples
I told you so
Banging on your doors
I told you so

W.H.Auden- Villanelle

Door-knocker Florence 🇮🇹

“You’re going to reap
Just what you sow”
Lou Reed

Helibores, blossom and the trumpeting Narcissis on a restorative walk to welcome a blood moon
There’s war on the airwaves but Life is bursting out of every verge

Thoughts for today

Three panels showing a bench on a small hill in London on a grey drizzly day. A man in a fedora carrying a suitcase arrives, then he is joined by a woman carrying an umbrella and a man in dark glasses reading a newspaper. They all look shifty and hurriedly converse: "Good." "Very." "Agreed." Then they all walk off down the hill. Caption: Every month, the Espionage Book Club discuss a classic work of spy fiction at a clandestine meeting. To minimise the risk of exposure, infiltration or surveillance by hostile agents, conversation is restricted to the essentials.

My cartoon for this week’s @theguardian.com books.

A recipe column with a central image of an apple, honey & poppyseed loaf cake, partially sliced.

Away from all this *gestures* comfort is to be found in @rachelaliceroddy.bsky.social musing on honey and apples.

Durham’s foot-worn paths across the moors
hidden & derelict farmhouses, cottages & barns
look through the windows to the wild landscapes
worn interiors
hints of Pennine ghosts
painted dwellings of imagination

Paul Stangroom-The Windows Collection
Favourite Hexham artist

Love it!! Staying with our Chicago cousins in Summer '75 we saw Jaws
Great memories

Your LENS on friendship & solidarity will change during & after betrayal

People you trusted will protect the status quo
People you cared for deeply will distance themselves
Your ‘normal’ is no longer their ‘normal’
Their conflicts of Interest get in the way of integrity
Good hearts will find you

This March UN focus is on Impunity
The UN Women conference focus is on Access to Justice

Impunity for all States, Institutions, Leaders who impede access to fair & equal process in Domestic Violence cases, child sexual abuse crimes & cross border assistance when fleeing violence

Clean your LENS
Make an inventory they say
Photograph it
untouched for years
Film it
Live it again at our convenience
Fixture & Fittings
Walls & Doors
Tell us what you SEE
The condition
The Value
The State it's in
@seacharity.bsky.social
⁩@samsmethers.bsky.social
#EconomicAbuse #CoerciveControl

The Fact Finding myth explodes
A Factual Matrix in flames
#LanguageMatters

‘findings of “FACT” made by judge…were in reality a finding based on a MISTAKEN FOUNDATION’.
'The judge FELL INTO a basic error by not establishing THE FACTUAL MATRIX'

Translate: Not facts
lawgazette.co.uk/news/family-...

Take your time
In your stillness
Measure the Power
Balance the probability
Then knock them down
With a feather

After sitting on that chair for months & months
And gorging on all that Italian cake
A Bootcamp of Power Walks
is all it takes
Yeah
Yeah
Yeah

For some friends in Texas & Turin
youtu.be/sBSSPiRsprs?...

Great training this week
Thanks @unwomen.bsky.social

Access to Justice is our focus this year
A gendered lens is vital to guarantee just process
#LanguageMatters are a key part of access to Justice for #VAWG but also for all children in the home
We are here
Progress
Take up Space for Peace

Focus of #CSW70 gendered lens is vital to guarantee just process

Contextual considerations are paramount

Cross-border cooperation & regulation of Child Protection standards, in domestic violence in homes, must conform to International Human Rights standards of Equity of Arms & Child's Voice

#LanguageMatters

Lover
Wife
Mother

Then you are judged ‘alleged victim’ in a system that requires victims to be soft, gentle & not strident or mortified

But you learn to inhabit your activism softly to survive
You inhabit the space
In stillness
You are not going away

The pursuit of Justice
a lonely path
Facing narratives created
They said
Battles of Words
Storm clouds of defamation
Misogyny knitted-systems
Stuck on a witness chair

No Woman defending herself & her children should endure such darkness

Marquee Moon
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#CSW70 #VAWG #IWD26

Plant your seeds
As lightly as a breeze
Wait for your seeds to grow
with patience
Remove those swords
from your back silently
They will feel as light
as a feather

Elio De Luca- 'Fragility'