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We're Sonay, James and Sylvie. Sonay is an AuDHD coach, lawyer, and professional speaker, whilst James is a techie and part-time geology student. Sylvie is a dog. Dedicated to raising awareness and providing support for the neurodivergent community.

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I understand a certain millionaire politician from the limited company known as Reform is saying that SEN children, shouldn't have sensory accommodations in classrooms. He's specifically taken issue with ear defenders. I want to know why he has an issue with disabled kids, to be honest.

18.11.2025 09:33 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 5    ๐Ÿ” 0    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
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New episode! Listen here on Spotify. I know it's intermittent, but pregnancy, coursework and life don't respect a podcasting schedule.

open.spotify.com/episode/6ZIu...

#AuDHD #Podcast #NewEpisode #DivergentlyMarried

02.11.2025 16:25 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 3    ๐Ÿ” 1    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

All the different shades, all the races, all the religions, all the cultures added together, mixed in a melting pot, to make this beautiful land, even more beautiful! This is what makes me proud to be British!

16.10.2025 20:26 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 207    ๐Ÿ” 44    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 4    ๐Ÿ“Œ 2
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Reeves plots ยฃ1bn cut to Motability scheme for disability benefit claimants cars The scheme provides cars and tax breaks to more than 800,000 users

I see the chancellor is having another crack at making disabled people's lives worse again.

Why should we have to pay for their financial mismanagement?

www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/poli...

18.10.2025 21:07 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 3    ๐Ÿ” 1    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 1    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
Two people standing indoors against a green wall. The person on the left is wearing a green coat over a black outfit and white trainers. The person on the right is wearing ceremonial red and black robes with a white lace collar and a gold chain of office. Both are smiling at the camera.

Two people standing indoors against a green wall. The person on the left is wearing a green coat over a black outfit and white trainers. The person on the right is wearing ceremonial red and black robes with a white lace collar and a gold chain of office. Both are smiling at the camera.

A woman wearing a green coat and black top stands smiling in front of a banner for โ€œBromley Experts by Experience,โ€ a Deaf and Disabled Peopleโ€™s Organisation. The banner lists types of disabilities and lived experiences supported, and there is a table in front with plates of apples and various packets of crisps

A woman wearing a green coat and black top stands smiling in front of a banner for โ€œBromley Experts by Experience,โ€ a Deaf and Disabled Peopleโ€™s Organisation. The banner lists types of disabilities and lived experiences supported, and there is a table in front with plates of apples and various packets of crisps

A group of people are dancing inside a hall with green walls and a wooden floor. Several people wear matching light blue hoodies, while others wear casual clothes including a pink top and black dungarees, and a green hoodie

A group of people are dancing inside a hall with green walls and a wooden floor. Several people wear matching light blue hoodies, while others wear casual clothes including a pink top and black dungarees, and a green hoodie

Had a great time attending Bromley Disability Pride this afternoon - a lovely afternoon of poems, songs, dances (including one where I joined in!) and an allotment talk.

Also got to meet the Mayor of Bromley (a fellow neurodivergent lawyer) and chat about neurodiversity and disability inclusion.

18.10.2025 16:07 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 5    ๐Ÿ” 3    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
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Happy 2nd birthday to the hairiest member of our team, Sylvie!

12.10.2025 17:00 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 1    ๐Ÿ” 0    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
Divergently Being logo with the text "Divergently Being supports world mental health day Friday 10th October 2025" with a green ribbon to the left.

Divergently Being logo with the text "Divergently Being supports world mental health day Friday 10th October 2025" with a green ribbon to the left.

We here at Divergently Being support #WorldMentalHealthDay 2025 and would encourage anyone who needs help to reach out, and for the rest of us to help and #BeKind.

10.10.2025 13:46 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 4    ๐Ÿ” 2    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

We will be talking about this in our next episode.

06.10.2025 21:11 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 0    ๐Ÿ” 0    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

Just watched this, and it really is enraging how much of a non-answer the government gave on improving #SEND provision for #Neurodivergent children. Absolutely infuriating. My wife and I are both #AuDHD with a baby on the way, and I worry what it will be like for us.

06.10.2025 21:09 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 2    ๐Ÿ” 2    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 1    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

So the Orange Wrecking Ball (thanks @scaramucci.bsky.social) says #Paracetamol causes #Autism.

The MHRA, NICE, NHS, and anyone with a functioning brain says otherwise.

We all know what causes autism. #Autistic parents.

24.09.2025 08:57 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 2    ๐Ÿ” 1    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
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We've got a new episode up! It's been a while again, but when there's a baby on the way, and everything else, well, we try our best. In the meantime though...

Listen here on Spotify: open.spotify.com/episode/4RF9...

#AuDHD #Podcast #NewEpisode #DivergentlyMarried

17.09.2025 09:02 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 3    ๐Ÿ” 1    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

Two years to the day since our first podcast episode!

The time flies by. For now, we're just working on our next episode which will be out soon!

16.09.2025 16:52 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 3    ๐Ÿ” 2    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
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New Lowestoft school rules are overly strict, says parent The rules around classroom behaviour include a countdown from three to one.

Absolute nonsense these new rules.

www.bbc.com/news/article...

Not ND-friendly in the slightest.

12.09.2025 17:40 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 4    ๐Ÿ” 1    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
An image with the Divergently Married logo, which is two penguins facing each other above the word "Divergently Married", with "New Podcast Episode" in large letters coming out of a megaphone.

An image with the Divergently Married logo, which is two penguins facing each other above the word "Divergently Married", with "New Podcast Episode" in large letters coming out of a megaphone.

We've got a new episode up! Sorry it's been a while, life got in the way a lot, but in this episode, we sort of explain why.

Listen here on Spotify: open.spotify.com/episode/5Ga8...

#AuDHD #Podcast #NewEpisode #DivergentlyMarried

31.07.2025 18:37 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 5    ๐Ÿ” 2    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
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We have an announcement - huge, the biggest! Divergently Married ยท Episode

Sorry it's been a while, life sort of took over. Have a listen to our latest episode as to why...

open.spotify.com/episode/0QBj...

21.06.2025 21:46 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 4    ๐Ÿ” 1    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
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New episode coming soon!

16.06.2025 23:01 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 4    ๐Ÿ” 1    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 1
"News article headline reads: 'Chris Packham says autism does not need a cure: โ€˜We are not brokenโ€™.' Subheading explains that Packham opposes curing autism, responding to US Health Secretary RFK Jrโ€™s pledge to find its causes. The article is by Lauren Del Fabbro, published May 12 and updated May 13. Below is a photo of Chris Packham wearing a camouflage jacket, bright red zip-up top, and colourful checked scarf, standing in front of a blurred architectural background."

"News article headline reads: 'Chris Packham says autism does not need a cure: โ€˜We are not brokenโ€™.' Subheading explains that Packham opposes curing autism, responding to US Health Secretary RFK Jrโ€™s pledge to find its causes. The article is by Lauren Del Fabbro, published May 12 and updated May 13. Below is a photo of Chris Packham wearing a camouflage jacket, bright red zip-up top, and colourful checked scarf, standing in front of a blurred architectural background."

02.06.2025 09:26 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 5    ๐Ÿ” 2    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 1    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

Watching Walking with Dinosaurs. Interrupted by the dog growling at the carcharodontosaurus.

#gooddog

26.05.2025 20:49 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 6    ๐Ÿ” 1    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
A megaphone with the Divergently Married Logo (Two Penguins over the text) and text also saying New Podcast Episode.

A megaphone with the Divergently Married Logo (Two Penguins over the text) and text also saying New Podcast Episode.

NEW EPISODE!
RFK Jrโ€™s terrifying autism registry plans, Amnesty exposes DWP cruelty, RSD when others are hurt, and finding small joys (like rhubarb!) in tough times.

๐ŸŽง Listen now: open.spotify.com/episode/4NfE...

#Podcast #ADHD #Autism #DisabilityJustice

15.05.2025 16:19 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 5    ๐Ÿ” 1    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
A bright yellow road sign with the text โ€œNo eye contact at any time.โ€ The image humorously represents a common autistic or neurodivergent experience of discomfort with eye contact.

A bright yellow road sign with the text โ€œNo eye contact at any time.โ€ The image humorously represents a common autistic or neurodivergent experience of discomfort with eye contact.

02.05.2025 11:03 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 2    ๐Ÿ” 0    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
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๐Ÿ“น Trusting Intuition: When to Dislike Someone
In this reel from the latest episode, we talk about that gut feeling โ€” and how neurodivergent folks often spot things others miss.
๐ŸŽง Listen on Spotify: buff.ly/RConpYX
#Intuition #NeurodivergentWisdom #TrustYourself #DivergentlyBeing

02.05.2025 07:02 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 1    ๐Ÿ” 0    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
Two people stand in a music performance setting. The person in the foreground smiles and is captioned, โ€œme thinking itโ€™s normal to Listen on Spotify to the same song 272 times.โ€ Behind them stands a shadowy figure with a mask labelled โ€œautism,โ€ suggesting the behaviour is connected to autistic traits like repetition and routine.

Two people stand in a music performance setting. The person in the foreground smiles and is captioned, โ€œme thinking itโ€™s normal to Listen on Spotify to the same song 272 times.โ€ Behind them stands a shadowy figure with a mask labelled โ€œautism,โ€ suggesting the behaviour is connected to autistic traits like repetition and routine.

01.05.2025 11:03 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 4    ๐Ÿ” 0    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
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๐Ÿ“น Sonayโ€™s PIP Update
This clip from the episode shares Sonayโ€™s personal PIP journey.
๐ŸŽง Listen on Spotify: buff.ly/RConpYX
#PersonalIndependencePayment #DisabilitySupport #ADHDAwareness #DivergentlyBeing

01.05.2025 07:02 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 0    ๐Ÿ” 0    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
A chaotic battle scene inspired by the video game DOOM. A powerful armored character labelled โ€œHIGH MASKING AUTISMโ€ fights off many enemies, each labelled with life tasks like โ€œManaging depression,โ€ โ€œHousehold chores,โ€ โ€œBeing a loving, supportive parent,โ€ โ€œ40h workweek,โ€ โ€œPersonal hygiene,โ€ โ€œManaging family budget,โ€ and โ€œMaintaining relationships.โ€ The image shows the effort required to function while masking.

A chaotic battle scene inspired by the video game DOOM. A powerful armored character labelled โ€œHIGH MASKING AUTISMโ€ fights off many enemies, each labelled with life tasks like โ€œManaging depression,โ€ โ€œHousehold chores,โ€ โ€œBeing a loving, supportive parent,โ€ โ€œ40h workweek,โ€ โ€œPersonal hygiene,โ€ โ€œManaging family budget,โ€ and โ€œMaintaining relationships.โ€ The image shows the effort required to function while masking.

30.04.2025 11:03 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 2    ๐Ÿ” 1    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
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๐Ÿ“น MPโ€™s Disappointing Response
In this reel from our latest episode, we talk the disheartening reply to Sonay's email about the upcoming benefit changes, and what it reflects.
๐ŸŽง Listen on Spotify: buff.ly/RConpYX
#PIP #DisabilityRights #NeurodivergentVoices #DivergentlyBeing

30.04.2025 07:02 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 0    ๐Ÿ” 0    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
A quote graphic with a pastel yellow and teal background. The quote reads: โ€œThe diagnosis isnโ€™t the end โ€“ itโ€™s the missing piece that helps us thrive, not just survive.โ€ Hashtags: #DiagnosisJourney #SelfDiscovery

A quote graphic with a pastel yellow and teal background. The quote reads: โ€œThe diagnosis isnโ€™t the end โ€“ itโ€™s the missing piece that helps us thrive, not just survive.โ€ Hashtags: #DiagnosisJourney #SelfDiscovery

29.04.2025 16:06 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 1    ๐Ÿ” 0    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
Two cartoon characters stand in front of tall platforms with ladders. The left character is labelled โ€œAllisticโ€ and has a full ladder, making it easy to climb. The right character is labelled โ€œAutisticโ€ and has only a partial ladder, making it impossible to climb. The allistic character says, โ€œDonโ€™t be lazy, just do it,โ€ highlighting the lack of understanding of different challenges.

Two cartoon characters stand in front of tall platforms with ladders. The left character is labelled โ€œAllisticโ€ and has a full ladder, making it easy to climb. The right character is labelled โ€œAutisticโ€ and has only a partial ladder, making it impossible to climb. The allistic character says, โ€œDonโ€™t be lazy, just do it,โ€ highlighting the lack of understanding of different challenges.

29.04.2025 11:03 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 4    ๐Ÿ” 2    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
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๐Ÿ“น James Talks About the Change in Understanding
In this clip from our newest episode, James reflects on the dangers of using outmoded diagnostic criteria.
๐ŸŽง Listen on Spotify: buff.ly/RConpYX
#NeurodivergentGrowth #SelfDiscovery #ADHDAutism #DivergentlyBeing

29.04.2025 07:02 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 1    ๐Ÿ” 1    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
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A man is happily pouring an enormous bottle of olive oil onto a salad. The bottle is labelled โ€œRandom and sporadic bursts of song lyrics caused by words you said.โ€ The salad is labelled โ€œNormal conversation.โ€ The man is labelled โ€œMe.โ€

A man is happily pouring an enormous bottle of olive oil onto a salad. The bottle is labelled โ€œRandom and sporadic bursts of song lyrics caused by words you said.โ€ The salad is labelled โ€œNormal conversation.โ€ The man is labelled โ€œMe.โ€

28.04.2025 11:03 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 1    ๐Ÿ” 0    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

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