Suman

it is so draining to engage with people who think i’m arguing or personally attacking them every time I try to solve an issue or express my emotions. it creates mental exhaustion. if someone can’t tolerate you asking clarifying questions and sharing how you feel, keep your distance.

i love conversations mixed with lil flirting and joking

i respect a "talk to me, what's wrong" person 😲

i be on tiktok laughing, ignoring all my life's problem

overthinking is such a silent killer

life goes on with or without whoever

Indeed!

Top tier >>>

Having a mom who still looks out for you even as a grown adult is truly a blessing

🤣👌🏿

People who cheat are morally weak
Any relationship that is built on lies and betrayal will never last. It doesn't matter how much you forgive each other, that shit will kill slowly, emotionally and mentally.

I avoid eggshell type of relationships, can’t express yourself, can’t be yourself, can’t ever be straight forward, can’t be comfortable, can’t talk like adults, can’t be heard, can’t respond with love without it turning into something negative…

I do think if you really like someone you naturally just won’t be interested in anybody else

i don’t think your parents should meet your partner till you know this is the person you actually want to settle down with & get married to. i’m so big on that. i can’t bring just ANYBODY to my parents.

A soulmate is not going to know how to automatically handle you. BUT….A soulmate is going to learn and grow with you through your flaws and insecurities. A soulmate will choose to stay when things get tough. They will look for solutions & communicate instead of running & quitting.

Good for you .

cheating is unforgivable in my book, but that’s just me. i don't want you anymore, i'm never going to look at you the same, i'll never be able to trust you again, my guard is always going to be up & i'm going to make you pay for it every single day and that's not a sane way to live.

aftercare in relationships in general isn't discussed enough. if we get into a huge fight or disagreement, there needs to be aftercare. if we have some wild sex, there needs to be aftercare. if we have a series of super deep conversations, there needs to be aftercare

for relationships to last you really gotta see your partner’s point of view of things .and be considerate. And be willing to grow. people can learn from their mistakes it’s all about compromises, communication & understanding .

Dating someone who gives you,, best friend vibes, good laughs, deep conversations, great sex, reassurance & loyalty >>>

“Hey babe, imma be really busy today and can’t talk much, but i love you and i will hit you up as soon as I’m available to talk” 🟢🟢🟢🟢🟢🟢🟢🟢🟢🟢🟢🟢🟢🟢🟢🟢🟢🟢🟢🟢🟢🟢🟢🟢🟢🟢🟢🟢🟢🟢🟢🟢

Giving me the bare minimum and acting like its top tier is the biggest insult ever.

I think when you’re transitioning from being a people pleaser to someone with more boundaries it’s so weird, because it’s hard to tell if you’re being mean or if you’re just listening to your own feelings because you’re so used to this & only thinking about others

normalize seeing someone's lack of effort as their lack of interest in YOU and your lack of importance to them regardless of what they tell you or how much you love them

Bro, you can’t get mad at your partner for expressing what upsets them..... Even if it isn’t deep to you, it may be a serious matter to them. Genuine consideration is always key.

I like dates. I like healthy communication. I love room to grow. I like quality time. I like reassurance. I like reciprocated energy.

Lack of communication can kill a dope ass relationship.

If we date, we both gotta push each other to become a better us

Getting a gift from someone based off of details they've learned about you from just listening, is top tier

I’m definitely a “they can have you” type of person idc. I’m not competing