this gave me uncomfortable chills and made me deeply sad because it's just so true...

I see it every fucking day.

And then trans mascs are told they don't suffer as much. Even their discrimination is erased by their own community.

when i die they will cut me open and the secrets of your bad behaviour will come spilling out. they're engraved on my bones.

was on a call the other day with a bunch of authors; the topic of "feeling like i have to stay on the hamster wheel and if i don't my career will tank and i will die"

and let me tell you as the empress supreme of inconsistency... that is just not true.

you can stop today. breathe & take a break.

i want a silly day. we deserve a silly day.

Getting to go to L.A. next week to celebrate my husband's nomination for VA of the year at the #GaymingAwards and also celebrate all the other incredible nominees in all the categories?

I never thought this would be my life, but I am glad I never gave up. The dip delivers.

And I cherish in return. I am SO lucky to be in the company I keep now. I wish that for everyone else.

May you find your path, your people, and your purpose.

The best part was going to an event, looking around the room and thinking "I'm not happy here. I am not valued here. I am leaving."

Then sliding into a zoom meeting the next day with my crew and every single one of them said "they don't deserve you. Stay here, with us, instead."

I felt cherished.

We're not in competition with each other, we're helping each other. Hands up, ladders down, questions answered, celebrating every win with each other.

And it didn't take much. Just me picking up the phone. Now I'm on calls every week with other creators just like me.

Life is unkind, but we don't have to be. Life is unfair, but we don't have to rip apart the people around us trying to help us find a path.

Now I spend my days creating amazing fulfilling things with other people of ALL stripes; I feel welcome; my expertise is honoured, and I am learning tons too.

I am grateful for a friend turning to me and saying "you need to focus on you." And another friend saying "what are these people doing except trying to destroy you because they can't handle the harshness of reality? That life will never be fair or kind, but they must find a way through regardless?"

My life has been so peaceful, happy, better, since I stopped trying to help a group of people insistent on staying in a victim mindset. Now I spend time helping others who are excited to create new opportunities for themselves, and are happy to just chill together and work on our futures.

you might be better off doing the expatlaw.nl/dutch-americ... as it is likely to cost less money if you're wanting to do the express entry to Canada

I decided to get real consistent at the beginning of the month and the worst thing happened:

it worked. :O

i lost your number we need to hang out at some point!!!!!!

that's it, I'm on bsky, here I am, hello, what's up where are my other romance authors and readers at?