Sam!

I had to

Yeah, nah, you don't have to be comfortable with anything that distresses you! You have to look after your own wellbeing ^^

Thinking about how good the British Insektors is and now. Nothing the American dub is

Abdl and littles are both folks playing pretend around the themes of childhood; both pretending to be kids with other folk pretending to be kids. If you insist “we’re not like that” you lose solidarity with people who want the same things you do against people who would see you both suffer.

Look, you might make the distinction but it’s not a meaningful difference to the people coming for all of us; we all burn just as well. Both things still play with the same themes and both as still being played with by consenting adults.

City of Meowscaradas
(Mass meowscarada transformation)

#tf #transfur

If you’re part of any creative groups, unions or other organisations in the uk you should be passing news like this along and spreading the world. News like this gets has the chance to be overlooked but if enough organisations kick up a fuss things can change.

woke up kinda stunned by the positive response, a lot of people have reached out to either express gratitude for the support to express support of their own, y'all are lovely ToT

Well, ideally no one will get hurt, haha, I only ask that room is made for difference ^^

We gotta say no even when it doesn't affect us *personally* - because things deserve to be fair for all of us but if we let it slide, so much of this will continue to happen and expand until it affects all of us.

Honestly I've been thinking about how folks have given constant push back lately to Discord and they're walking back some things but we need to keep pressure on.

But I've also thought "people did not actually do this when it was *just* affecting British people" so we just had to fucking deal.

Its okay! I would not have talked about this if I did not want to. I've been mulling things over for a couple of weeks and I had a good night with friends and I felt, yeah. I should speak up. The world is rough and if we don't stand together, its going to get worse for us.

Ultimately I think its best to approach things with compassion and curiosity, to ask questions and be open to trust others when they speak on their feelings and experiences.

And, like, I and others have talked to folks in mental health who expressed this was also completely normal. I’ve known people who asked about the art as well and they felt it did no harm. Again, anecdotal but, like, I am more inclined to trust them over internet randos.

Also like, this is anecdotal but uh, like, 90% of the littles I’ve ever known are traumatised trans people, often looking for comfort And wouldn’t you know, this did include me back then.

the folks you think are weird have your back even if they don’t know that you’ll have theirs so maybe make it clear you will when it comes down to it. Like it or not, we all really are in this together and we have to stand with each other or fall alone.

more people than you think are into stuff you find might find objectionable, including people you love and care about! you wouldn‘t know tho because the climate is so hostile they’re scared they’ll lose you or be outed if they confide; but they Will see you calling them disgusting by proxy at times

You all recall that pay-pros make no distinction in what sexual material you choose to buy, right? we all remember the bans on hypnosis and female presenting nipples and disordered eating, yeah? None of you are safe, not even if you like it as Christian as missionary.

Oh yeah a couple of other points struck me.
You gotta stand up for art even art you find gross.
Cos, uh, the dictators that control or are aiming for control of our countries? They think all this shit is gross and objectionable and they *will* come for your stuff too.

Well that was a bit of a ramble. I feel like I had a lot to get off my chest, a lot of stuff I've said before but bared repeating. I feel solidified at least. I'm sure I'll take flak but I'm sure whatever happens, I will survive. I'm not doing anything to anyone and I'll keep my chin up.

so, yeah, abdls and baby furs and quadrapeds and what have you, I don't know that you'll want me around with all the baggage that comes yoked to me but I'm here for y'all haha

So now I'm here and I know Ko'pe who is cool as hell and my best friend and she's awesome and I feel. Better. I feel at least okay. As much as things are sill a struggle, in some ways I'm happier than I've ever been. I really want to be done with fear an stop letting it rule my life.

Reading other things, I overcome the sexual repulsion I'd suffered badly from and made me miserable around sexuality because I finally met people who took sexuality seriously and cared about it and I realised where I'd been abused. Things I didn't even realise were damaged could be repaired!

When I'd spent half a decade being publicly torn apart for being part of something I loved whilst *also* surviving on kink art, nobody had known what that was like. Reading Flora I finally felt like "oh, someone else gets this. someone has been here too". I stopped feeling alone and began healing.

I learned how to both handle my harder feelings better, so they didn't just burst out of me or leak out and poison my other emotions. I realised how badly I wanted to repair relationships with my family and now I have a relationship with my brother again after years of aversion. I got better.

The reason I volunteered to become a moderator for flora is because people would sometimes come in and spam porn or harmful images and someone needed to be around to clean that up. I do what I do because I want to help it be safe an caring place, like anyone would for their community.

I know they have complicated histories but they've worked so hard to make things better. They're composed of a lot of people who have struggled and strived, who have pain and who have caused pain and who are trying do better together and I deeply want to care for those people and places!

As much as I struggle and as much as I'm deeply traumatised by how I've been treated online, there's so much in me that I care about that's grown and bloomed over the last few years. I inch closer to who I want to be. I'm proud of the bonds I've forged and the communities I care for.

Like, yeah, it sucks for us both that their friends gave them shit about caring about me at all and I wish them well on their way. I do think, like... I don't know. I felt like some folks came with minds made up that weren't going to change unless I decided to just abandon folks I cared about.