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The semi-residential toddler has taken to asking her mom to leave (the country) so I can go over and breakfast with her.

Our Sunday mornings are for IHOP pancakes in our jammies, followed by a walk around the neighborhood.

Next time diaspora wars start, I want yall to remember that playing too much is a trait that connects all African-descended ppl.

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I make a point of asking one specific nephew what he did over the weekend that his mama does not know about.

The answers NEVER disappoint.

If you engage in diaspora wars in 2026, I’m just going to assume that you’re an idiot.

There are over 200 million Nigerians and over 40 million Black Americans. No, they didn't all sell us into slavery. No, we're not all ignorant and uneducated. Yes, we are distant cousins and kin!

Again, I'm literally too old for this, I think. Maybe if I were 20 years younger, I'd feel differently.

It's not a diaspora war when a handful of loudmouths on all sides are representing millions of people.

"Nigerians hate Black Americans" when we grew up with Nigerian Americans in Detroit, including my baby sister's bestie. They all married Black folks! So I'm supposed to take your word for it? Nah.

From 1969 to 1977, the Park government instituted a "no rice day" (無米日) twice a week on Wednesdays and Saturdays. On these days, rice was not to be sold in markets, cooked in restaurants, and consumed anywhere. Schoolteachers used to inspect lunchboxes to see if you brought rice and could punish you

rice is life, and I got a thread to share about rice: Park Chung-hee's obsession to make South Korea rice self-sufficient in the 1970s changed everything about the country, including your favorite Korean foods and the urban environment 🧵

(8/11) Now, we’re going back to the Bazaar. But this time you’re not up against a shopkeeper. You’re up against a massive digital infrastructure calculating your personal price tolerance.

(7/11)This individualized targeting marks a departure from a 150-year old retail standard. Since John Wanamaker popularized the price tag in 1861, fixed prices have functioned as a de facto social contract. It ensured a market standard: the same cost for every customer, regardless of background

I am so open to this!!

I am in an African women’s group where someone has been posting the most misogynistic takes.

Today…

I. Had. The. Time.

YouTube video by Evan Edinger Why The Internet Is Terrified of London

“The next time someone shares with you some anti-London b******t, be sure to send them this video"

Excellent explainer from @evanedinger.bsky.social, countering hate and lies about London www.youtube.com/watch?v=uDky...

#racism #hateforprofit #stopfundinghate

I love that adults can still make silly faces at kids on a Wednesday morning in this town.

I shaved my head and the semi-resident toddler is not happy.

Her: you removed your hair? Why? Why? Why?

a little girl is hugging a blue monster from monsters inc Alt: a little girl is hugging a blue monster from monsters inc

For the African girlies who are deconstructing (and rebuilding faith) …

May we be whole.
May we be happy.
May we healthy.

I may have a stroke.

Someone said protests don’t belong in church and it took every ounce of self-censure within me not to say “Deborah you are literally a Protestant.”

A PROTESTant.

I assume they think Luther was nailing Bed, Bath, & Beyond coupons to the door.

Why are libraries so tall? Because they have lots of stories.

it is never a question of "need"

need is the investment of bare minimums ...

we are not invested in bare minimums ...

it is about delight

we are making grand investments in delight!

Rules called the Pie

Settings > Content and Media > Autoplay Video and GIFs

Turn it off, now.

This is a reminder that if you’ve just seen something traumatic, playing 15 min of a visually demanding game (Tetris is the go-to here, but maybe Set? Mah-jongg?) can impede memory formation and help stop it from developing into a trauma.

(This doesn’t work for complex trauma but discrete events)

Pastors working for ICE

Sex workers running mutual aid for immigrants

Which one looks more like Jesus???

Small joys.

Drawing of a banana dancing in heels.

The most expensive nephew gave me this a few years ago.

If I am to do nothing, let me do it gallantly.

Vertigo came knocking at 3 am

😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫

And that emoji is 💯

Part 3 - More on your sympathetic nervous system’s fight/flight response

Learning what your body looks like and feels like when things are about to go down is key

https://queeringpsychology.com/2023/04/24/connecting-with-your-intuition-body-via-somatic-work-deeper-on-that-fight-flight-response/

You don’t have to keep watching any death videos. It doesn’t make you more empathic or connected

Atp, I’m suspicious of all these news outlets replaying the video & showing us new angles

You know what happened already. This is not for your benefit

Protect your nervous system

A Black woman gave me my flowers at work. Listen… it has been summer all day over here since 9:53 am.

💐💐💐