Dizz. ♥️

I love how Jasmine Crokett's voice, fire, and fortitude are being elevated right now, but I am also so weary bc you know the ✋🏻's loooooove a sassy BW they can support and quote and digitally high-five - until they don't.

It happens. Much respect for reading the thread! ♥️

Yes! In many of these conversations no alternative is proposed because too many men just don’t want to be obligated to support their child. They want to show up quarterly with a pair of sneakers or a trip to an amusement park while ignoring the child’s daily needs.

Respectfully, you two are talking about completely different things. Unmarried women who aren't partnered with men enjoy all those benefits. Women who are in relationships, living with the man, and having his babies are in more danger than married women.

This. Exactly this…

Would love to discuss. I’m speaking from the angle of my legal practice and the lack of financial supports for unmarried SAHMs as barriers to rebuilding their lives in the event a marriage fails. I understand the inequity of marriage and that single childless women are better off.

One of my favorite mom memories was being a mystery reader on my daughters birthday! She was so hype!

HAPPY VALENTINES DAY 💌

Do y’all go out on v-day? My husband and I don’t go out on the day of because everything is mobbed and overpriced. We celebrate at home and go out the day before or after..

I can’t do this. I just survived the DLC 😩

It seems like more and more folks on the left thing talking about their utopian ideas and scenarios is going to make them appear.

In case this isn’t clear, it’s going to take more than snappy takes to change the world. The only people who can make change are the ones willing to interact with institutions and systems that are harmful, racist, ableist, etc.

There’s a reason people say “the person you marry is not the person you divorce.” I can’t do fantasy island with y’all today..

Off to a good start for Valentines Day ♥️ Even though we’ve been on opposite schedules and have barely seen each other in two days 😆

My question stands if you’ll answer it, what are you doing to make it safer for women since we know that at least *some* women will partner with men and have children anyway?

I get the whole if you experience any level of privilege your opinion is invalid thing in leftist circles but you’re barking up the wrong tree. I understand people have to grandstand for validation from the peanut gallery but my boots are on the ground. What are you doing exactly?

See, that’s where you lost the plot, I started my career in legal aid in a major east Coast city. I also served for years as a union lawyer with working class folks.

And yeah, as a kid who grew up with a single mother, in section 8 housing, I did take my place in the system to help my people

Yes, this does happen but most women do make it to alimony. So — as an analogy — just because some people react to a vaccine I wouldn’t recommend that people not be vaccinated..

I’m a candy ADDICT and strangely, I can’t get w/ these…maybe my palate is too unrefined 😩

I deal with women on an individual basis as a family law attorney, so sure, I don’t have stats handy. I have helped numerous women gain access to assets (even hidden assets) and had their husbands pay apl or assist with attorneys fees. This IS my lived experience..

And also — even though abuse is all too common, not every woman is abused. But if the marriage just isn’t working after she’s dedicated her life to her kids and family, I want that woman walking away with her fair share! So many women have been left with nothing except child support..

No, never. In fact, I believe we need to do a better job of building women up in their homes and childhoods so that they have more self worth and RUN when they see red flags. But if I can’t wave a magic wand to stop abuse, I want women to be more secure when they leave than less.

Never thought the girlies would be on the side of the “c’mon girl, marriage just a piece of paper” dudes 😩

It feels dystopian..

In some states men even pay APL (alimony pendente lite) which is alimony while the divorce is ongoing which incentivizes them against dragging out the divorce as an abuse tactic.

Child support alone vs child support, alimony, and a mortgage contribution can mean the difference between feeding and clothing your children and not. Yes, it’s inconvenient either way but imo having access to more resources is better for the woman and children involved.

Well in an unmarried SAHM scenario with financial abuse; the woman must financially rebuild to get financially stable; a married SAHM can access resources by filing for divorce…this is crucial when women are leaving abuse.

Right, a dispute is when two people are at odds. Yes, women are protected through equitable distribution (of all assets — not just income), alimony, child support, and the mechanisms for enforcement like requiring life insurance in the amount of support owed etc;

I never disagreed with the fact that partnerships posts risks to women. But when you couple abuse with no financial protection to damage to women and their children is amplified.

My point was made… you criticized it, remember? I missed your overall point? Are you saying if women are going to be with men and have children they are better off not getting married? I just want to make sure we’re not in an unnecessary dispute..

Acknowledging that abuse occurs in marriage doesn’t hurt my point. Because it occurs in unmarried partnerships as well…and those women are left in financial ruin. Hope this helps.

We have to fight tooth and nail against that. Two things can be true: 1) women should be financially protected if they choose to partner with men and have children AND 2) they should not be trapped in bad and/or abusive marriages.