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@phoenixashes76.bsky.social

Gay and trans. MSLS, herder of library kids. I’ll read anything once. Proud cat dad. ko-fi.com/phoenixashes76

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Next we can try going up against a Sicilian when death is on the line

01.03.2026 16:45 β€” πŸ‘ 2    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

Iraq war: in college, must drive four hrs home w gas prices skyrocketing

Katrina: on vacation, must get home w gas prices skyrocketing

Arab Spring: family emergency, have to drive six hrs w gas prices skyrocketing

This nonsense: mid move, have to drive a Uhaul w gas etc

I should just stay home

01.03.2026 11:24 β€” πŸ‘ 7    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

Can’t wait to wake up tomorrow and see if we’re still just bombing or going full tilt into the classic blunder of a land war in Asia

01.03.2026 04:16 β€” πŸ‘ 9    πŸ” 1    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0

I’m currently rereading it now! I was listening to the audiobook when I moved up north, tomorrow is the last drive of the move back south, I’m listening to it again so nature can heal

01.03.2026 04:13 β€” πŸ‘ 2    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

The Lord of the Rings is one book, right? The Red Book of Westmarch?

The Once and Future Witches by Alix E Harrow would be up there too, though

01.03.2026 04:08 β€” πŸ‘ 3    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0

🀣

01.03.2026 04:00 β€” πŸ‘ 2    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

I’m very curious to know what you think of this one

01.03.2026 03:55 β€” πŸ‘ 3    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0

This is perfect, thank you, it lets me just skim headlines in between boxes πŸ€¦πŸ»β€β™‚οΈ

28.02.2026 18:44 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

I’m moving and can’t monitor all the news, can somebody give me a TLDR on Iran? Or a link to a good summary

28.02.2026 17:39 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0
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26.02.2026 02:09 β€” πŸ‘ 13    πŸ” 7    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 1

And. This is the second move in 5 years. State A was looking sketchy in anti-trans stuff, moved to state B, state B went red and started making concerning changes, now I'm in state C. So *how many times* should we move? Since I see people talking about moving in my mentions πŸ€¦πŸ»β€β™‚οΈ

26.02.2026 05:01 β€” πŸ‘ 72    πŸ” 3    πŸ’¬ 2    πŸ“Œ 0

And this is my second time. Moved from state A which was making extremely concerning anti-trans moves, to state B, which was fine, state B started going backward, we are now in state C *within five years* so how many times should I have to?

26.02.2026 04:48 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

And ANYONE who has ever moved between states - or done ANY of those things, knows that you need a valid license. So if you're still saying "just move," well, that was never acceptable but now it just sounds like "fuck you" because all it tells me is you can't be bothered

26.02.2026 04:43 β€” πŸ‘ 103    πŸ” 12    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0

I'm sure there's more

OH. Transfer healthcare and start with a new practice

Not to mention MY JOB REQUIRES DRIVING TO OUTREACH

26.02.2026 04:41 β€” πŸ‘ 66    πŸ” 3    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0

1) send to my new employer in my new state to document legal residency
2) rent a UHaul
3) drive same
4) give to the new apartment to verify identity
5) will automatically grant me a drivers license in the new state
6) used to start a new bank account

26.02.2026 04:39 β€” πŸ‘ 111    πŸ” 16    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0

The things that gets buried talking about the Kansas thing is... everyone says "just move" every time something like this comes up. And to loose your license? You can't move.

I am currently moving from one state to another right now. Thus far I have used my old state license to:

26.02.2026 04:36 β€” πŸ‘ 257    πŸ” 95    πŸ’¬ 5    πŸ“Œ 7

This is basically right, but there’s variations (a darker stout has finer bubbles and thicker liquid, etc). But basically - imagine a fountain soda but the carbon is off juuuuust enough that you get lots of foam on top and that’s beer

25.02.2026 13:43 β€” πŸ‘ 3    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0

A recorded statement with zero pressure and unlimited takes to be played at the ceremony comes to mind, I'm sure there are others. Instead the attitude was "we know this could happen and you're just going yo have to deal with it" and THAT is the major problem

23.02.2026 19:28 β€” πŸ‘ 4    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

... there's just no way for everyone's needs to be met. And that's a failure on a planning level where "that word hurts people and so we're going to protect people however we need to while taking steps toward disability inclusion" didn't happen. There were ways around this...

23.02.2026 19:27 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0

... prioritize others' needs in a decision to attend. At *best*.

There's a concept in disability work where two people's needs are just incompatible - think about someone who needs a guide dog and someone who's allergic to dogs. Sometimes you can take steps (meeting outdoors) and sometimes...

23.02.2026 19:25 β€” πŸ‘ 2    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0

The other thing that's wrong here is that there's no meaningful mention of the depth of harm that was done, let alone centering that harm or any kind of reparations (if possible). So... I don't think we can blame all this on a condition. At best, this is someone who didn't sufficiently...

23.02.2026 19:21 β€” πŸ‘ 3    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0

... and in that explanation is no mention of what was done or factors in the decision to participate (eg: I thought I could get through the ceremony without saying something inappropriate). I would probably have accepted that. You can do everything right and just... be wrong about your capabilities

23.02.2026 19:19 β€” πŸ‘ 2    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0

... unless it's a new diagnosis, someone with Tourette's should know some level of steps to make sure that the chances of this happening was as close to zero as possible. That might not be very low! But the problem I see in this statement is twofold: it explains, it doesn't apologize...

23.02.2026 19:16 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0

... factors that are within my control. So if I needed to give a presentation like this, I would try to schedule extra time to settle in, communicate with the organization about maybe needing a place to step aside to. I don't know what managing Tourette's involves. I DO know that...

23.02.2026 19:13 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0

... celebrating you specifically. I'm just saying that sometimes things do come out. That said, I know that in a high energy environment, or if I'm out of my routine, or frustrated, those things are more likely to slip out. So it's my responsibility to do everything possible to control those...

23.02.2026 19:11 β€” πŸ‘ 2    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0

I've been holding off to see how the episode was handled before getting into this.

For background, I'm autistic. I sometimes say things that other people don't consider to be normal or polite. IN NO WAY is this to diminish the nature of having to hear slurs of what's supposed to be...

23.02.2026 19:09 β€” πŸ‘ 4    πŸ” 1    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0

I regret to inform you it is less fun the Foucault thought it would be

23.02.2026 17:49 β€” πŸ‘ 6    πŸ” 1    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

I liked Judah but did not want to be BJ (or AJ, my first choice of first name started with A). And I had recently read a sweetly beautiful book that I knew was going to be imprinted on my soul and the hero had exactly the sort of nontoxic masculinity I wanted for myself. So that's the name

23.02.2026 16:23 β€” πŸ‘ 3    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

Really interesting article about UVA’s approach to preserving provenance and archival control for institutions investigating potential use of AI to speed up digitization.

23.02.2026 14:07 β€” πŸ‘ 2    πŸ” 2    πŸ’¬ 2    πŸ“Œ 0

You are correct, reports were consistent and I declined the opportunity 🀣

23.02.2026 13:28 β€” πŸ‘ 2    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0