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blocking and unblocking me to see my posts is really funny. please get a hobby.

my own personal social media shouldn’t be stalked to try and catch me in the act of talking bad about someone. i’m a lesbian. i have a nonbinary partner. i live in america. stop policing me. stop hanging onto every fucking word i have to say. it’s. not. about. you. LET. ME. LIVE.

mind you the majority of people ostracizing me are nonbinary, lesbians, trans, etc. insanity.

If “social media” is your ONLY hobby, I get genuinely worried about you and your perspective.

Social media is designed to keep you locked into microcosms of moments. You’re not processing anything, you’re knee-jerk reacting to rapid-fire information.

You need to experience something outside this.

this is why women never speak up. this is why people don’t come forward about bad dudes because you’ll be made to feel crazy.

i will never ever speak up and let people know someone is a bad egg in a community ever again. i’ve had my shit stalked for almost two years, every post of mine screenshotted, and for what? a white straight cis man who platforms bad men knowingly gets to thrive. sick.

All the other stuff going on, I don’t know. I don’t care. I’m not participating, I’m not egging anyone on. No one speaks for me. No one represents me. I’m my own person. This is getting ridiculous. All of it. I don’t know what else to say. I’m confused, I’m annoyed. I don’t know. That’s all I guess.

How this has blown up into what this has is beyond me. I deactivated to keep my mental in check, and probably will again. I don’t know what else to say but that. Thanks!

Haven’t deleted my posts, and won’t. I don’t talk, I don’t post and if I do it’s rarely. I’m nothing more than a lurker the last year and a half. I don’t tweet, I don’t bsky, I rarely talk in streams.

I personally do not like having my name drug through the mud for something I know I didn’t do. Or people speaking for me. No one speaks for me but me. I talk i’m damned, I leave im damned, i speak up, im damned. I cannot win and I’m not going to try.

It’s weird behavior. I’m sorry, it is at least to me. You can hate me, whatever. My posts are free to browse. I stand by everything I said and that’s that. Rico, I’m sorry if you felt is was slut shaming, never my intention not even in the slightest. But I’m not sorry for pointing out your behavior.

I want it to be very clear: I would never, and have never slut shamed anyone. It goes against me and my morals and that’s not me.

The only thing said on my end is read the room. Don’t go in and dig and dig at someone, post a semi nude, and then continue on belittling someone or egging it on.

i’m aware of the discord and what went down there. the only thing that ik sparked this here on bluesky was some subposts about chatters. how it escalated from that to a banning + a dog pile was like 0-100 really fuckin quick. and i agree! i hope edgy is taking the time they need.

btw not mad at you or anything, 😭 or trying to come off as a bitch, i’m just very worried about my friend and hope they’re doing okay. ik if i was treated the way they were i’d spiral badddd.

then that context needs to be said instead of everyone subtweeting. straight up. if we wanna publicly shame someone we can also add some context. all i see is someone struggling and a dog pile landing right on them.

i didn’t see any encouragement of help come out of bluesky the other day. maybe behind the scenes, in a private way that’s none of our business, but publicly? no. high and mighty for what? now they’re gone with zero community or friends to help in their lows. im not mad at you, just frustrated.

i also know what addiction looks like. and you will never get someone in addiction any help by belittling them. addiction makes people nasty, mean, makes them say shit they shouldn’t. no excuse. should they be held accountable? absolutely 100%. they were absolutely in the wrong.

I don’t know who was enabling them. i wasn’t, seems like taking them out of the discord helped stop anyone from enabling. no one encouraged help on here. how can you look at what has been said and think that’s help in any way? tough love comes from close family, not some dude comin in hot

Not sure you could even pay me to give a shit about men’s feelings tbh

not posting a semi nude in the middle of thinking you’re doing a cunty lil move belittling someone clearly going through addiction and bipolar mania who needs help. time and place. empathy and care. no one is slut shaming. we’re saying read the room.

i’m proud of you and happy to see you back!!! we’ve missed YOU!

and yes this is about this nasty ass post.

congrats, y’all bullied someone into leaving. your lack of empathy is crazy. all of the people liking let’s just be kind posts, this isn’t twitter, we can see the shit you like including the shitty ones. you’re two faced. you’re not a good person no matter what you tell yourself at night. yall SUCK.

A thought I've been chewing on today & need to share.

It's ok to take sides. Sometimes we need to protect those who are being mistreated. It's ok to "get out of your lane" if it's standing up for someone who needs it.

And the person who needs it doesn't need to be fucking perfect.

there is so much i could say about grown fucking adults and their childish ass behavior right now. you people have never dealt with someone in addiction or recovery and it shows. and if you have? i feel horrible for the people who were struggling and came to you because i can only imagine.

this summer is sponsored by Big Mosquito i’ve had ENOUGH

UHHHH HELLOOOO

the ‘kindness is free’ crowd needs to take a page out of their own book. quickly.