Kim Crayton [She/Her]

Life Beyond The Supremacy Myth - Winter 2025

Compassion isn’t softness...it’s strength.

It’s choosing to stop harm, even when you don’t understand it yet. That’s where accountability lives.

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If white men want to meaningfully engage in any culture not their own, the first step is dismantling the myth, not performing “allyship”, not borrowing aesthetics, and definitely not rewriting the rules of a community that existed long before they arrived.

The one who heads back to white spaces, clean cut, safe, and unscathed, the moment cultural reality becomes too real.

This is the entitlement Mediocre warns about: the belief that white men deserve space without responsibility, voice without context, and influence without accountability.

artistry, and cultural memory of non-white people, then acting as if expertise comes from proximity rather than lived experience.

The “guest turned squatter.”
The one who profits from a culture they never had to survive.
The one who demands comfort inside a genre created to document discomfort.

When “Guests” Decide They Own the House

2025 has not been a good year for white men in hip hop spaces. Over and over, they continue to show exactly what Mediocre names: the parasitic nature of the myth of white male supremacy.

We see the same pattern Oluo outlines, white men stepping into spaces built from the survival strategies,

YouTube video by Therese Scott Galloway Always Gets It WRONG

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White men must redefine masculinity for themselves.

Not as mere providers, protectors, or procreators dictated by a culture built to serve supremacy. But as human beings capable of connection, empathy, and accountability.

Until that happens, every “solution” like Galloway’s is a danger.

The work is uncomfortable.

It requires To Learn. To Heal. To Engage. in spaces where mistakes are expected and growth is intentional. It requires confronting the truth that much of what you’ve been taught to call “strength” is actually conditioning rooted in fear, scarcity, separation, and violence

This is why learning to live beyond the supremacy myth is critical.

Masculinity isn’t defined by who you dominate or what roles you play in someone else’s life. It’s about reclaiming your humanity, learning care, accountability, and emotional fluency, without harming others in the process.

from themselves, from each other, and from the collective work of healing.

And then “thought leaders" like Galloway present “solutions” that doubles down on the exact roles that created isolation in the first place: compete, control, dominate.

From 14 weeks facilitating Conversations with Kim Crayton – Mediocre, one truth keeps surfacing:

White male loneliness isn’t new. It’s engineered.

A culture built on supremacy, coercion, and control cannot produce authentic community, trust, or emotional maturity. White men are left disconnected:

It encourages men to define themselves solely by roles that protect their dominance rather than their humanity. And until white men confront the system that shaped these expectations, no “advice” or “framework” can fix what isn’t broken…it can only perpetuate harm.

repackaged as modern masculinity, and it’s actively harmful.

Why harmful?

Because it maintains the very systems that isolate white men, punish vulnerability, and leave the work of emotional labor, on women and marginalized folx, unaddressed.

Scott Galloway Isn’t Just Wrong About Masculinity...He’s A Threat To It

Scott Galloway’s new book, Notes on Being a Man, leans on the same familiar framework: provider, protector, procreator. On the surface, it reads like advice for men, but dig deeper, and it’s far more insidious. This isn’t guidance. It’s a reinforcement of the myth of white male supremacy,

And discomfort is not liberation work…it’s the beginning of the bill coming due.

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It requires white people to interrupt their own mythology and confront the ways they weaponize redemption to maintain supremacy.

If MTG wants to be different, she can start by dismantling the very myth she still depends on for protection.

Until then, she’s not transformed.
She’s just uncomfortable

And anyone running to embrace her, or worse, demanding others do, is signaling that they are not committed to collective liberation, only to the preservation of whiteness.

Because collective liberation requires more than emotional displays.
It requires material change.
It requires consequences.

If your apology does not come with a full-throated denunciation of the myth that shaped your violence:
You are not safe.
You are not accountable.
You are not changed.

You are simply repositioning yourself for continued dominance.

back into the protection whiteness guarantees.

White women have perfected this choreography because systems, institutions, and policies continue rewarding it.

But here’s the truth that Gross names and that too many still refuse to confront:

according to the myth she’s been groomed to obey, she believes she should never experience that violence herself.

In her mind, and in the mind of many who benefit from the myth, an apology is supposed to reset the narrative.

It’s supposed to place her back into the center, back into innocence,

Not escaping consequences.
Not rewriting your character arc.

MTG did not “apologize” because she has shed the beliefs that animated her cruelty.
She apologized because she finally tasted the violence she has spent years unleashing on others and,

Redemption ensures whiteness doesn’t have to change and everyone else just has to “accept” the apology and keep moving.

But apologizing is not a path to redemption.
It isn’t even a path to forgiveness.

Apology and amends are processes of repairing harm, not erasing it.

especially Black people, non-white people, and anyone targeted by her violence, perform forgiveness so that whiteness can return to its preferred roles: hero or victim.

Never the villain.

Redemption maintains the myth.
Redemption protects power.

Which brings us to MTG.

White media is already bending over backwards to cast her as “self-reflective,” “evolving,” or “finally taking responsibility.”

But let’s be absolutely clear:

“Redemption” is a weapon of the myth of white supremacy.
It’s used to demand that others,

the deep, unexamined belief that white women must always be seen as good, pure, innocent, misunderstood, or redeemable, no matter the harm inflicted.

And this belief doesn’t live in isolation.
It is a feature, not a bug, of the myth of white supremacy.

Redemption Is Not Yours to Claim

If you’ve read White Women, Get Ready, you already understand one of Amanda K. Gross’s core truths:
Whiteness, particularly white womanhood, relies on the fantasy of endless redemption.

It’s baked into Post-Traumatic Mistress Syndrome:

Tools that help you build the kind of community you’ve been missing your entire lives.

And the kind of world we’re fighting for.

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They are not luxuries.

They are tools, critical, powerful tools, in your equity, justice, and liberation toolbox.

Tools that make you harder to manipulate.
Tools that make you more capable of connection.
Tools that return you to yourself.

Stealing your humanity while convincing you it’s a privilege.

So let this be your reminder as you continue the real, difficult, necessary work of building a consistent, demonstrated antiracist practice:

Joy. Play. Pleasure. Passion.
These are not extras.
They are not distractions.