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Kinky Q&A | Answering Questions from IG YouTube video by Loving BDSM

It's Wednesday, March 4 and we're going live at 3pm ET!

This week's episode is a kinky Q&A. We asked for questions on IG and YouTube, and we might ask for questions during the live stream.

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Reconnecting and Building Our Love Maps by Answering Relationship Questions YouTube video by Loving BDSM

It's Wednesday, February 25, and we're going live at 3pm ET.

This week, we're taking the opportunity to reconnect in our relationship, while working on our love maps, by answering random, silly, and/or lighthearted relationship questions we found on IG.

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Emotional Intelligence, Emotional Regulation, and Power Exchange YouTube video by Loving BDSM

We're going live at 3pm ET today (Wednesday, February 18). This week's topic is on emotional intelligence, emotional regulation, and power exchange.

If you can't watch live, the video playback will be available, and the audio podcast will be out on Friday.

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Chatting and Taking Questions from Live Chat YouTube video by Loving BDSM

It's Wednesday, so we're going live starting at 3pm ET.

No topic. We'll chat and take questions from YouTube live chat.

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If you can't watch live, the video playback will be available, and the audio podcast will be out on Friday.

BDSM Reddit Response YouTube video by Loving BDSM

It's Wednesday, and we're going live at 3pm ET.

I know I (Kayla) could use a good rant, and I'd love to see if JB might get ranty, too - so let's do a BDSM Reddit episode.

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Let's Talk About *Gestures Broadly at the World* (Episode 470) • Loving BDSM Consider this a political episode, but instead of going over headlines, we try to offer options for how to get involved (and more).

In this week's episode, we talk about *gestures broadly at the world* and share resources and ideas for anyone who hates what's going on but feels overwhelmed by what to do.

We also answer: Can you do D/s with someone when you don't agree with their politics?

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*Gestures Broadly at the World* YouTube video by Loving BDSM

We're going live at 3pm ET today

Consider this our "political" episode but we're NOT debating politics. Instead we'll share resources/ways to get involved to help people affected by *gestures broadly at the world* & answer a question about D/s relationships & politics.

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The Importance of Friendship in Long Term Power Exchange YouTube video by Loving BDSM

It's Wednesday, January 21, and we're going live at 3pm ET.

This week's topic is on the importance of friendship in long term D/s relationships.

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If you can't watch live, the video playback will be available, and the audio podcast will be out on Friday.

Self Control and Power in Dominance YouTube video by Loving BDSM

It's Wednesday - we're going live at 3pm ET!

This week we're discussing a fear some new Doms have: that they might get carried away with big D dominance, either with their partner or outside of their relationship.

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We haven't tried their cages, but we like Oxy as a shop in general and they have a lot of cages.

www.oxy-shop.com

@stockroom.bsky.social is also a good option for gear in general, and they have chastity items

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BDSM Reddit Response Happy New Year! We're back from our winter break and starting 2026 with a Reddit response episode! In this episode: Thanks to silentwinged for sending over most of these Reddit posts. Am I the only one who enjoys caregiving dominance more than sexual dominance? We tried BDSM for the first time, and my partner was sad afterwards. I feel disconnected from my submissive.

BDSM Reddit Response

Happy New Year! We're back from our winter break and starting 2026 with a Reddit response episode! In this episode: Thanks to silentwinged for sending over most of these Reddit posts. Am I the only one who enjoys caregiving dominance more than sexual dominance? We tried BDSM…

BDSM Reddit Response YouTube video by Loving BDSM

We're back from our winter break and coming in strong with a BDSM Reddit response for our first episode of 2026!

The stream starts at 3pm ET today (Wednesday)

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If you can't watch live, the video playback will be available and the audio podcast will be out on Friday.

Answering 10 Silly Relationship Questions It's the last episode of 2025, so we're keeping it casual and chaotic with a bit of silliness. In this episode: This month's virtual munch live stream is this Friday, December 19 starting at 9:30pm ET! We’re taking two weeks off for the holidays. The last newsletter of 2025 will be emailed this Friday, and we have a couple of Patreon events over the weekend.

It's the last episode of 2025, and we decided to keep it chaotic and weird, so we're answering 10 silly relationship questions and exposing each other's weirdness, lol.

Answering 10 Silly Relationship Questions (that we found on IG) YouTube video by Loving BDSM

It's the last podcast live stream of 2025, and we're keeping it silly and chaotic! The stream begins at 3pm ET.

This week we're answering silly relationship questions we found on IG.

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Our D/s Life in 2025 We made a goal to reconnect and become more intentional in our power exchange this year. Now that we're near the end of the year, let's talk about how it went! In this episode: The Kinkery is having a sale! Get free shipping when you spend $35 or more (US orders only). Our 2025 Links from the episode: Shop at The Kinkery…

At the beginning of the year, we decided to focus on our power exchange and reconnect. This week, we're talking about what we did and learned, and where we go from here.

Our Power Exchange in 2025 | An Update YouTube video by Loving BDSM

It's Wednesday, December 10 and we're going live at 3pm ET!

This week, we're giving an update on the goals we set for our relationship this year, primarily our goal of reconnecting.

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How to Achieve Your Kink Goals for 2026 This week, we're looking forward to 2026 to how to achieve some of the kink goals a lot of kinksters have (including us!). As always, you don't have to wait for an arbitrary date to work towards new goals. In this episode: We actually have a plan for the month of December before we take our two week break for Christmas and New Year’s…

How to Achieve Your Kink Goals for 2026

This week, we're looking forward to 2026 to how to achieve some of the kink goals a lot of kinksters have (including us!). As always, you don't have to wait for an arbitrary date to work towards new goals. In this episode: We actually have a plan for the…

Planning Your Kink Goals for 2026 YouTube video by Loving BDSM

We're going live at 3pm ET today!

This week, let's talk about how to actually achieve some of your kinky goals for next year - or whenever you're ready to work on them.

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The video playback will be available, and the audio podcast will be out on Friday.

Thanksgiving Eve stream We're bleary-eyed and delirious, but we're here. Visit us at https://lovingbdsm.net Find all of the sites we recommend here: https://lovingbdsm.net/recommended-products/ BlueSky: https://bsky.app/pr...

We're going live tonight at 8pm ET because we aren't doing a regular episode this week. We expect to be bleary-eyed and delirious which should make this interesting, lol.

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For this week only, we're not going to have a Monday Q&A episode or a Wednesday stream/Friday podcast episode.

We WILL go live on Wednesday night at 8pm ET for a chaotic, Thanksgiving Eve stream. No topic, just vibes. Hope you can join us!

Bonus Section Episode Even though YouTube doesn't impact the podcast, what they do to our channel does impact our plans. That's why this week's episode is a bonus section episode, lol. In this episode: Join us for our virtual munch this Friday, November 21 at 9:30pm ET. YouTube grounded us but we’re back! Responses we’ve received to last week’s episode on soft BDSM …

You can thank YouTube and it's weirdness for the lack of topic this week, lol.

Plus we share some of the thoughtful and helpful comments we received on previous podcast episodes.

We're just happy to be here | A bonus section stream YouTube video by Loving BDSM

We're going live today, Wednesday, November 19 starting at 3pm ET.

This week we'll go over some of the thoughtful responses shared from recent episodes while also making this a bonus section episode.

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Thank you! We do our best to make paddles and any other toys out of wood that can stand the test of time and many, many, many scenes.

WTF is Soft BDSM? Trying to figure out what "soft BDSM" even is took us on a journey. Let's talk about it. In this episode: Our Holiday Cricket tier - and holiday party sign up - ends on Saturday, November 15! Disclaimer: We don’t have to like a term for it to be valid for someone else Why does this even matter? Common understanding of terms…

After trying to do some research on this term, I (Kayla) am left with a question: WTF is soft BDSM?

It's definitely used by some kinksters but trying to piece together a clear, consistent definition and origin wasn't easy.

WTF is Soft BDSM?? YouTube video by Loving BDSM

It's Wednesday, so yes, we're going live at 3pm ET.

This week's topic is on the concept of soft BDSM.

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If you can't watch the live, the video playback will be available and the audio podcast will be out on Friday.

BDSM Reddit Response This week, we're responding to situations shared on the kinky side of Reddit! In this episode: Join us through Patreon for a special holiday tier and get extra perks! Soft kink shaming Got dumped by my Dom who lied to me and his wife for three years The difference between intense play and abuse What is the "normal" amount of scenes to have in kink?

This week, we share our thoughts on soft kink shaming, play vs abuse, heartbreak and breakups, and more.

BDSM Reddit Response YouTube video by Loving BDSM

It's Wednesday, and yes, of course, we're going live at 3pm ET.

This week, we're responding to posts from the kinky side of Reddit.

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If you can't watch live, the video playback will be available, and the audio podcast will be out on Friday!

Love Maps and Power Exchange The idea of love maps comes from the Gottman Institute in their studies on relationships, specifically marriage. We wondered if it could be applied to power exchange, too. In this episode: Join us through Patreon for a special holiday tier and get extra perks! This week's trans-affirming resource is QueerMed. Who developed the concept of a love map? Dr. Gottman from the Gottman Institute…

The term "love maps" used for non-kinky relationships, primarily marriages. We wondered if it could be applied to power exchange, too.

Love Maps and Power Exchange YouTube video by Loving BDSM

It's Wednesday and we're going live at 3pm ET.

This week we're talking about the concept of love maps and if/how they might work with power exchange.

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If you can't watch live, the video playback will be available and the audio podcast comes out on Friday.

Power Exchange vs Domestic Discipline vs Trad Wives This week's episode is from a question a kinkster sent to us. They wanted to know our take on power exchange, domestic discipline, and trad wives. In this episode: It's the 5th Anniversary sale for the Kinkery! Join us for holidays on Patreon. Send in your questions for our Q&A episodes. This week's trans affirming resource is Trans Life Line.

A kinkster asked for our take on D/s, domestic discipline, and trad wives. So we compare and contrast them in this week's episode.