@lovingbdsm.bsky.social
We help kinksters have happy, healthy power exchange relationships by focusing on the reality of what being in a D/s dynamic can look like. Hosted by John Brownstone (he/him) and Kayla Lords (she/her) Find everything here: https://linktr.ee/lovingbdsm
It's Wednesday, February 25, and we're going live at 3pm ET.
This week, we're taking the opportunity to reconnect in our relationship, while working on our love maps, by answering random, silly, and/or lighthearted relationship questions we found on IG.
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We're going live at 3pm ET today (Wednesday, February 18). This week's topic is on emotional intelligence, emotional regulation, and power exchange.
If you can't watch live, the video playback will be available, and the audio podcast will be out on Friday.
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It's Wednesday, so we're going live starting at 3pm ET.
No topic. We'll chat and take questions from YouTube live chat.
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If you can't watch live, the video playback will be available, and the audio podcast will be out on Friday.
It's Wednesday, and we're going live at 3pm ET.
I know I (Kayla) could use a good rant, and I'd love to see if JB might get ranty, too - so let's do a BDSM Reddit episode.
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In this week's episode, we talk about *gestures broadly at the world* and share resources and ideas for anyone who hates what's going on but feels overwhelmed by what to do.
We also answer: Can you do D/s with someone when you don't agree with their politics?
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We're going live at 3pm ET today
Consider this our "political" episode but we're NOT debating politics. Instead we'll share resources/ways to get involved to help people affected by *gestures broadly at the world* & answer a question about D/s relationships & politics.
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It's Wednesday, January 21, and we're going live at 3pm ET.
This week's topic is on the importance of friendship in long term D/s relationships.
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If you can't watch live, the video playback will be available, and the audio podcast will be out on Friday.
It's Wednesday - we're going live at 3pm ET!
This week we're discussing a fear some new Doms have: that they might get carried away with big D dominance, either with their partner or outside of their relationship.
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We haven't tried their cages, but we like Oxy as a shop in general and they have a lot of cages.
www.oxy-shop.com
@stockroom.bsky.social is also a good option for gear in general, and they have chastity items
bit.ly/38hj8TG (full disclosure, this is an affiliate link)
BDSM Reddit Response
Happy New Year! We're back from our winter break and starting 2026 with a Reddit response episode! In this episode: Thanks to silentwinged for sending over most of these Reddit posts. Am I the only one who enjoys caregiving dominance more than sexual dominance? We tried BDSM…
We're back from our winter break and coming in strong with a BDSM Reddit response for our first episode of 2026!
The stream starts at 3pm ET today (Wednesday)
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If you can't watch live, the video playback will be available and the audio podcast will be out on Friday.
It's the last episode of 2025, and we decided to keep it chaotic and weird, so we're answering 10 silly relationship questions and exposing each other's weirdness, lol.
19.12.2025 11:00 — 👍 1 🔁 0 💬 1 📌 0
It's the last podcast live stream of 2025, and we're keeping it silly and chaotic! The stream begins at 3pm ET.
This week we're answering silly relationship questions we found on IG.
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At the beginning of the year, we decided to focus on our power exchange and reconnect. This week, we're talking about what we did and learned, and where we go from here.
12.12.2025 11:00 — 👍 2 🔁 1 💬 0 📌 0
It's Wednesday, December 10 and we're going live at 3pm ET!
This week, we're giving an update on the goals we set for our relationship this year, primarily our goal of reconnecting.
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How to Achieve Your Kink Goals for 2026
This week, we're looking forward to 2026 to how to achieve some of the kink goals a lot of kinksters have (including us!). As always, you don't have to wait for an arbitrary date to work towards new goals. In this episode: We actually have a plan for the…
We're going live at 3pm ET today!
This week, let's talk about how to actually achieve some of your kinky goals for next year - or whenever you're ready to work on them.
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The video playback will be available, and the audio podcast will be out on Friday.
We're going live tonight at 8pm ET because we aren't doing a regular episode this week. We expect to be bleary-eyed and delirious which should make this interesting, lol.
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For this week only, we're not going to have a Monday Q&A episode or a Wednesday stream/Friday podcast episode.
We WILL go live on Wednesday night at 8pm ET for a chaotic, Thanksgiving Eve stream. No topic, just vibes. Hope you can join us!
You can thank YouTube and it's weirdness for the lack of topic this week, lol.
Plus we share some of the thoughtful and helpful comments we received on previous podcast episodes.
We're going live today, Wednesday, November 19 starting at 3pm ET.
This week we'll go over some of the thoughtful responses shared from recent episodes while also making this a bonus section episode.
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Thank you! We do our best to make paddles and any other toys out of wood that can stand the test of time and many, many, many scenes.
19.11.2025 14:06 — 👍 0 🔁 0 💬 0 📌 0
After trying to do some research on this term, I (Kayla) am left with a question: WTF is soft BDSM?
It's definitely used by some kinksters but trying to piece together a clear, consistent definition and origin wasn't easy.
It's Wednesday, so yes, we're going live at 3pm ET.
This week's topic is on the concept of soft BDSM.
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If you can't watch the live, the video playback will be available and the audio podcast will be out on Friday.
This week, we share our thoughts on soft kink shaming, play vs abuse, heartbreak and breakups, and more.
07.11.2025 11:01 — 👍 2 🔁 1 💬 0 📌 1
It's Wednesday, and yes, of course, we're going live at 3pm ET.
This week, we're responding to posts from the kinky side of Reddit.
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If you can't watch live, the video playback will be available, and the audio podcast will be out on Friday!
The term "love maps" used for non-kinky relationships, primarily marriages. We wondered if it could be applied to power exchange, too.
31.10.2025 10:00 — 👍 0 🔁 0 💬 0 📌 0
It's Wednesday and we're going live at 3pm ET.
This week we're talking about the concept of love maps and if/how they might work with power exchange.
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If you can't watch live, the video playback will be available and the audio podcast comes out on Friday.
A kinkster asked for our take on D/s, domestic discipline, and trad wives. So we compare and contrast them in this week's episode.
24.10.2025 10:00 — 👍 2 🔁 1 💬 0 📌 0
It's Wednesday and we're going live at 3pm ET.
This week's topic is from a question sent to us. A kinkster wanted to know our take on power exchange vs domestic discipline vs trad wives so that's what we're talking about.
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