☁️ Holly Ann 🌩️ i-lectro*cute ⚡

YouTube video by Psychology with Dr. Ana Communicating harder won't fix the relationship. Do this instead

If the ppl I have chosen to stop talking to in the last year are still lurking this page for some reason, I recommend watching this video. Have a nice life losers.

YouTube video by Dr. Shanté The Hidden Advantages of Being the Underdog

How I'm tryna be lately with my hobbies/side hustles.

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YouTube video by HealthyGamerGG Why You Struggle to Act

The environmental change up to change up your behavior strategy does work... I been able to look forward to working on my laptop (famously evil boring tasks that I hate) now that I found a tea shop with a comfy environment I actually like and can relax in it when I'm off work.

"The beauty in things taking time to come to fruition, is that it gives you time to build the capacity/infrastructure to sustain the thing that you want to have in your life including the capacity to get rid of things that don't belong there and make room for things that do."

YouTube video by Dr. Shanté Trusting the Timing of Your Life: 3 Criteria for Making BIG Life Decsions

This channel has been very refreshing for me to stumble on lately compared to rest of my self-help channels.
"That could be you defaulting to a place of dysfunction because that's what you know, that's what you're used to."
"Check your heart, check your capacity, but also check your baggage."

start putting REAL pockets in my girls pants though istfg

YouTube video by Tara Mooknee Tomboys: Where Did They All Go?

"Why does one's appearance always have to be a statement?"
First time learning the historical legacy of the term and yeah idk we don't got much progress in society but I'm glad no one expects a girl/woman in modern day to wear dresses/skirts at all times.
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YouTube video by Therapy in a Nutshell Restoring your Internal Sense of Safety after Trauma w/ CPTSD Expert Dr. Arielle Schwartz

damn too long for me rn i'll have to watch later but lol at "restore" gurl I've never had that we have to build it from scratch as I am near 30 years old ig????

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YouTube video by Therapy in a Nutshell Connection as a Biological Imperative

sighhhhhh trying to beat into my brain that I need to have proper socialization time with people I enjoy more regularly. Peopling is hard.

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YouTube video by Elena Carroll What I Needed As An Autistic Child (That No One Noticed)

Very helpful video for parents/families, but also oof cathartic watch for being that child.

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YouTube video by Dr. Shanté Why We Can't Agree: How Personal Experience Shapes Reality

great vid! Very timely.
"For some people, hearing your experience destabilizes theirs. They don't wanna look at it through a new lens. They don't wanna believe that somebody that they love or esteem so much could do that."

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An illustration of Megurine Luka posing with rainbow cotton candy. In the background is more cotton candy and wrapped strawberry hard candies.

THEY GAVE LUKA THE GRANNY STRAWBERRY CANDIES IN THE MIKU EXPO NA SUBVISUALS I’M YELLIN

YouTube video by That One Time with Adam Metwally San Holo: Why Outcasts Make The Best Art + How To Stay Authentic When Everyone Wants A Formula

Ayyy i was listening to DJ sets on youtube so now it's influencing my podcast recommendations. This one is feeling very perfectly timed for me creatively though.
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YouTube video by Big Think Clips The uncomfortable question you should ask on every first date | Alain de Botton

"it's not particularly esteemed to know yourself"
"the real problem is how long it takes to work out who we are."
Love listening to this guy's insights. -w-

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YouTube video by Dr. Shanté Four Lessons from Dating a Future Faker

I slowly figured out how to avoid this trap/dealing with ppl like this by:
1)Paying attention to actions(speak louder than words)
2)Raising my own personal bar/capacity for reliability because why should I expect other ppl to be reliable if I myself am unreliable

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YouTube video by Heidi Priebe How To Figure Out Your Feelings & Relational Needs As An Avoidant

I clicked on this video so fast this lady is my GOAT for therapy content. www.youtube.com/watch?v=CHk9...

YouTube video by pearlieee If Being Yourself Feels Uncomfortable, Watch This.

I love Pearlie's pep talks!

"People do not resist authenticity, what they resist is what it demands of them." "It's not that this person is wrong for 'being', it's that I do not have the capacity for what being in community with them demands."

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YouTube video by Hank Green My Childhood Learning Disability

"Creating an entire world for myself in which it is not a problem to have ADHD." That's been my goal! I think it's beneficial even if you are an adult my aged or older to consider that you may be nuerodivergent and you can benefit from life tips/supports.

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YouTube video by Dr. Shanté The Single Stigma Is a Lie: Why Society Needs You Coupled (And Why You Don't Have To Be)

This was a great video from a smaller creator!

"People see the benefits package and are like 'yeah, sign me up for that.' and at no time does that mean that that person has /chosen/ YOU... but rather chosen the resources that come with you."

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YouTube video by Elena Carroll Why You’re Always the One Who Tries Harder in Friendships (Autism)

"You may have learned that any kind of conflict historically has cost you the 'belonging feeling' within friendships. And so you do everything you can in order to avoid that conflict."

"You don't have to erase yourself in order to find acceptance in a friendship."

Sighhhh

The mind is the first and most important battlefield in modern warfare. Taking care of yourself mentally is radical opposition to the enemy.

Like I hate feeling like I have to police my natural inclinations just because someone else might find it to be ‘too much’ but it’s a legitimate concern to have considering being consistent is considered abnormal nowadays.

YouTube video by The Thought Spot Why Do Autistic People Seem So Selfish?

Ugh her rant about reciprocity at the end and other people deciding you have ulterior motives because they wouldn’t do the things without expecting anything is too real. It is actually more work for me to try to be ‘inconsistent’ just to ‘match other ppl’s energy’

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YouTube video by penguinz0 Did Discord Just Destroy Itself

Me playing Dispatch accidentally got me into the occasional Moistcritikal vid ig

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This is the downstream effects of being conditioned by an abuser.. So I'm at least role-playing as not-pathetic now on behalf of the public in interactions even if I don't always feel it.

I feel like one of my foundational life problems is people could pick up on the fact that I was pathetic... but they were deeply confused on why the hell I was pathetic. The ones that weren't going to take advantage of that fact at the very least didn't want me-being-pathetic to be their problem.

YouTube video by elliot sang again Bad Bunny and the tragedy of Latinidad

Great history lesson in this stream... I will patiently await the 3 hr video essay on bad bunny that Elliot is also working on.

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YouTube video by HealthyGamerGG Negative Emotions Are Important @FrontRowSeat

chaser

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