Piper

Also most forms of child abuse are not crimes at all

YouTube video by Delilah Bon Dead Men Don't Rape - Delilah Bon (Live at Colours London)

m.youtube.com/watch?v=kcfa...

FRFR though when I had to be in the office all the time I was completely unable to have any social connections outside my partner sooooooo

I just try to be like "no thanks!" repeatedly haha

Also I think friend has me convinced I nearly never unmask even alone and there's a lot a lot to unpack there.

Don't tell me this is good I mean too weird for me I don't enjoy it

I actually do want you to interrupt and show me things or else I get Too Weird.

don't listen harder, I'll check in if I for some reason need to make sure you're following its fine. I just gotta do a little detour about this one specific historically important perfume while we get back to talking about manufacturing.

Best brain situation is actually unmasking with someone who (mostly) listens to my way too many ideas but interrupts them periodically to be like "look at this" about their special interest so I stay grounded

Amazing what a bit of access to power will do to a motherfucker. I'll quote them back to themself:

"...you will continually produce “crazy bitches” you then have to work to shut out.

You will never find peace."

My only you gotta hand it to him is ruining national monuments.

Violent communication includes contradicting, second-guessing, and assuming that a person either doesn't know what they're talking about or don't mean what they say.

The patriarchal family is the core building block of oppressive systems I’ll die on this hill

I think a lot about how profoundly unfair childhood trauma is.

It gives you a disability for effectively the rest of your life, AND can make you underearn, struggle with stability, become abused later in life, on top of impacting your physical health for years.

Yeah tbh I find the using other marginalized people to obscure that the source is a white person especially gross.

This is my deepest held belief honestly

This is not some claim I have no faults or I am always good, but the things that I like most about myself are what make me most vulnerable. I don't want to crush those. So I guess I need to ask my friends to physically fight me next time I consider breaking my own safety rules or something instead

And well, something that is just really rough about this world of normalized domination is that good qualities: empathy, love, generosity, giving the benefit of the doubt are all easily exploitable. People want to believe goodness wins, but it doesn't, we don't live in a just world. Do it anyway

But I have already had to come to terms with the fact I have serious weaknesses baked into my brain wiring. That's why I have hard rules about resource dependency for myself. I almost broke them this time, turns out I am very vulnerable to someone constantly telling me a child is in urgent danger

I thought I had found people and a space that was anti-power, and it turned out it was a recruiting ground to get vulnerable people to do some scene monarchs' dirty work and I fucking fell for it. It's embarrassing to me I can spend so much time learning about coercive control & still fall for it

"Piper, this is really bad strategy to just post one off issues with people who are doing a whole campaign they workshop in a discord" yeah I know, I am not doing a strategy I am doing processing.

But like, a lot of people are very, very in denial that they have a Cop Brain, and some of those people also really, really like to show off their exercise of the Cop Brain and claim that they're only doing it out of necessity/solemn obligation and I do not believe that

Similarly, when you have very little social capital you have very little capacity to punch back or disrupt free floating accusations. This is true. But I want to note something specifically about that: It’s far easier to box someone out of communities with something other than a callout of rape. Even beyond the present ubiquity of rape culture, such that someone will get a volunteer defense army upon accusation, a rape callout puts you personally on the line. It exposes and risks your own skin. Even if you claim it happened to someone else and you’re just relaying, you’ve taken a concrete and major action. Most people who want to marginalize someone else instinctively use far more efficient tools that are also nebulous. “Hahaha, let’s all make fun of this person.” “Oh she’s so problematic.” “Wait, you actually hang with them? Oh, wow…” Unfortunately, at almost no time in history has “rapist” been a more cutting barb than the local equivalent of “poseur.” Anyone with eyes can see that people will collectively shower far more active harassment, cruelty, and outright violence on people for a nebulous crime like “cringe” than they ever will for actual concrete ethical infringements.

When you’re striking from above in a social capital landscape, you have far more efficient tools that do not bother to contest in the realm of crude facts and thus expose you. And what are you gonna do when targeted like this, write a counter-callout about how someone incorrectly spread the claim that you were “deeply unserious”? Are you going to meet someone in court and litigate the claim that you have “loser taste in music”? Are you going to write a defensive thread on twitter about how the scene queen derisively refers to you with the nickname “Stunty”? Even “it’s sad and my heart goes out to her, I wish we could provide her help, she’s really unhinged and has a lot of STIs” can be devastating. These are impossible to contest or even acknowledge and FAR more effective at boxing people out from a position of social capital because they carry overwhelming implicit threats around having anything to do with you. Even when you’re threatening someone, in this age of screenshots it’s easier to work in the realm of nebulous implication. You absolutely do not want to show your hand or get into an actual argument with them over nerd shit like values and facts.

From their partner, William Gillis' own piece:

"Most people who want to marginalize someone else instinctively use far more efficient tools that are also nebulous. “Hahaha, let’s all make fun of this person.” “Oh she’s so problematic.” “Wait, you actually hang with them? Oh, wow…”"

Of course there are different definitions of poor—I was always housed as a child for instance—but claims I lied about it would be really easy to refute because I simply did not. So they don’t provide evidence that can be refuted. Easy as pie.

I can’t actually think of a single nonwhite person they have beef with they *didn’t* do this about, and I really just do not believe there are that many people faking that! I think nobonzo is just a racist. About me, they claim I faked growing up poor and I have never experienced abuse.

Anyway nobonzo’s favorite tactic against their targets is to demarginalize them and claim they’re lying about it. They know it’s a bad look, especially as a white person, so they keep it to back channels or launder it through nonwhite folks.

I mean lol the person I know who does this constantly is a famous anarchist

A race-vestigator?

What's the term for when someone (a white person, obviously) constantly investigates people's ethnic background?

Oh no season 3 white lotus maybe Chelsea?