Dr. Tom Murray, Author, Sex and Relationship Therapist

As a lifelong Democrat, I’m focused on what Dems will do next. Where’s our Project 2025 for 2028? Trump won by also appealing to moderates, while progressives push ideas that feel extreme to moderates. We must coalesce around progressive values that resonate broadly. Let’s get a grip and plan ahead.

AI in relationship counselling: Evaluating ChatGPT's therapeutic capabilities in providing relationship advice Recent advancements in AI have led to chatbots, such as ChatGPT, capable of providing therapeutic responses. Early research evaluating chatbots' abili…

ChatGPT as a relationship therapist? A recent study shows it provides empathy, clarity, & actionable steps but struggles with personalization & safety. Could AI fill therapy gaps? 🤔 Let's talk about the pros & cons! www.sciencedirect.com/science/arti...

#AIinTherapy #MentalHealthTech

Human vs. AI counseling: College students' perspectives Transitioning to college life while navigating the complexities of emerging adulthood can be stressful. In some instances, it may even lead to the ons…

👀 Did you know students rated AI chatbots better than human counselors in a recent study? 🤯 Is AI the future of therapy or just a handy tool? Let’s talk about it. 💬 #AI #MentalHealth #Counseling www.sciencedirect.com/science/arti...

“Dicks aren’t dildos.” 💡 It’s normal not to get an erection 100% of the time. Expecting perfection can fuel anxiety-induced ED (AIED). If a partner takes it personally—feeling rejected or angry—it adds pressure, creating a cycle of withdrawal, disappointment, and tension. 💬 Thoughts?

Tom Murray, Ph.D. on LinkedIn: Iclepertin Trial Results: Insights on Schizophrenia Treatment - Shrinks In… 🚨 Are we rethinking recovery in mental health? 🚨 Imagine this: People diagnosed with schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, or major depression achieve long-term…

💡 Recovery is personal, not one-size-fits-all! Newer research reveals that hope, emotions, and purpose are critical, often more so than meds. Are we ready to embrace person-centered mental health care? 🤔 www.linkedin.com/posts/tommur...

It's okay be uninterested in sex, but it isn't okay to expect your partner to also not be interested in sex. This is called forced celibacy. If monogamy is "sex with one person," and you're not having sex, then the monogamy contract was broken. (But, the ability to say no gives the yes meaning.)

“I’m trying” without any evidence transmutes hope into despair.

"How one reacts to people and situations, especially when challenges arise, is the best indicator of how deeply one knows oneself." E Tolle.

The truth is...you're not entitled to any particular person's love and affection. Genuine love must be freely given.

Obligatory love is soulless.

Might Trump be the 21st Century Manchurian Candidate who, rather than a puppet for Russia, is doing the bidding of Incels, Technocrats and Evangelical Nationalists?

(This shouldn't be confused with accountability or blame.) The windshield is larger than the rear-view mirror because where you're going is more important than where you've been--not unimportant, just more important.

If your therapist won't help you to take responsibility, fire them. Responsibility--the ability to respond--is about what you will do.

We need more anti-fragility therapy: learning to grow stronger in the face of challenges. Life is a series of problems to solve. Having problems is evidence of being alive. In any given situation, there are aspects you can’t control and there are aspects you can control. Focus on the latter.

🚨Selficide🚨

Many couples are in a constant dance to annihilate in the other whatever causes one anxiety. Over time, the couple can appear more similar. But, what has happened is that one person committed “selficide;” they cleaved away parts of themselves to “go along to get along

The truth is…you have no value.

Psychotherapists aren’t healthcare professionals. There. I said it. We are far more similar to attorneys, accountants, financial advisors, clergy, etc. in that we talk to people—that’s it. We are human services professionals, and there is no shame in it. Be proud.

Victim Mentality vs. Survivor Mentality. In a study by Shelby Swanson, 94% of those with a Victim Mentality were later revictimized. 100% of those with Survivor Mentality experience no revictimization. (This was a relatively small study.)

Psychotherapy uses the biopsychosocial model to understand mental health problems—emphasis on biology. Yet, debilitating mental illness rates continue to rise. I argue for the socialpsychobio model. Start with family and environmental effects on psychology and their respective effect on biology.

Pre-existing neuroticism best predicts whether someone develops long-lasting effects from trauma, according to psychiatrist, Joel Paris.

Adulting is when you no longer see your parents as authority figures but as ordinary humans, walking this earth, trying to survive...and with whom you still may never again wish to associate.

Psychiatric engulfment is when one’s identity becomes overly defined by their mental health diagnosis or therapeutic process leading them to see themselves primarily through this lens. It limits personal growth, reduces agency, and hinders a broader sense of self beyond their condition.

#Psychiatry relies too heavily on opinions of those with excessive letters after their name rather than on those who've actually navigated through the darkest hours of #humanity. These are our true #experts. Their opinions about what best worked for them matter most. Let us replicate their findings!

Believing one must validate your beliefs and feelings, regardless of how maladaptive they might be, exemplifies narcissism. #Narcissism

Mental health symptoms are much more a product of poverty, inequality, and discrimination than faulty biology.

Out of 70 trillion possible humans, only 117 billion have ever lived. Humanity will likely vanish long before all DNA variations are used. You and I are incredibly lucky to exist—countless others will never get the chance to experience life, making our existence a rare and precious lottery win.

“The job of a parent is to become irrelevant.” This is where psychotherapy and parenting overlap. #psychotherapy #parenting

Parents, it's not your children's responsibility to alleviate your anxiety about their future.

Rigidity is for pensis, not personalities.

Regret is the delusion that you're entitled to only positive outcomes. #regret #delusion #goals

That children’s behavior can be fixed with drugs blinds us to the deeper solutions they truly need. Medications offer an easy escape for adults—politicians, scientists, teachers, and parents alike—but leave children to carry the burden of unresolved struggles and oppressive and abusive environments.