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UK-based, 40+ woman navigating midlife, perimenopause, chronic illness, trauma therapy & healing. Sharing personal & sex blog updates, BDSM/FemDom/male chastity interests. Spoonie. deaf 🦻 She/her. LGBTQIA+ πŸ³οΈβ€πŸŒˆπŸ³οΈβ€βš§οΈ Blog & links https://carasutra.com/start-page/

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Parenting in a Neurodivergent Household: A Mother’s Reflection A personal reflection on parenting in a neurodivergent household, raising autistic teens while navigating motherhood, illness and emotional labour. Intro to my Motherhood in Motion series.

β€œWhilst other mothers were jokily complaining online about their child's incessant chatter, I was trying to come to terms with perhaps never hearing my son call me Mum.”

New on the blog this week:

Parenting in a Neurodivergent Household - A Mother’s Reflection

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Parenting in a Neurodivergent Household: A Mother’s Reflection A personal reflection on parenting in a neurodivergent household, raising autistic teens while navigating motherhood, illness and emotional labour. Intro to my Motherhood in Motion series.

"Life is complicated, then parenting comes along, and parenting neurodivergent children adds a whole new layer of complexity."

Something new and intensely personal on the blog this week.

Parenting in a Neurodivergent Household: A Mother’s Reflection

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#autism #ADHD

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International Women’s Day Articles A collection of International Women’s Day articles exploring women’s sexuality, empowerment, equality and lived experience.

🧡 Check out all my articles related to specifically women's pleasure, empowerment, and sexuality, for #InternationalWomensDay.

International Women's Day articles πŸ‘‰ carasutra.com/my/iwd

You'll find some highlights in the thread below.

#IWD2026 #IWD #Blog

08.03.2026 12:52 β€” πŸ‘ 6    πŸ” 3    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0

Thank you πŸ™‚

08.03.2026 12:53 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 1    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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Lad Culture: How Sexist Phrases About Women Are Still Thriving A deep dive into sexist phrases about women, and how lad culture is ensuring these terms & their inherent misogyny stay alive.

Lad Culture: How Sexist Phrases About Women Are Still Thriving

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#internationalWomensDay #IWD #Blog

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How to Have Sex with Yourself: Self-Pleasure Beyond Masturbation Discover how to have sex with yourself in ways that go far beyond masturbation… Explore mindgasms, sensuality, erotic breath play & tantra!

How to Have Sex With Yourself Beyond Masturbation

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#masturbation #IWD #InternationalWomensDay #Blog

08.03.2026 12:52 β€” πŸ‘ 2    πŸ” 1    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0
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Your Guide to Buying Comfortable Sexy Lingerie So many lingerie recs out there, but how do you know it will fit YOU & be comfy? Welcome to my guide to buying COMFORTABLE sexy lingerie!

Your Guide to Buying Comfortable Sexy Lingerie

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#InternationalWomensDay #IWD #Blog

08.03.2026 12:52 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 1    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0
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BDSM Empowers Women: Reclaiming Sexual Control and Desire BDSM empowers women by transforming shame into strength. Discover how power exchange, sexual control, and kink can help women reclaim their desire.

How BDSM Empowers Women to Reclaim Sexual Control and Desire

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#BDSM #InternationalWomensDay #IWD #Blog

08.03.2026 12:52 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 1    πŸ’¬ 2    πŸ“Œ 1
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Celebrating Women-Led Sex Toy Brands: Female Industry Leaders Discover women-led sex toy brands redefining pleasure and wellness. Meet the female industry leaders shaping the future of intimate products.

Celebrating Women-Led Sex Toy Brands

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#IWD #InternationalWomensDay #Blog

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Women’s Sexuality: Fighting Shame and Embracing Pleasure Women’s sexuality is often clouded by shame. This guide explores how to fight stigma and embrace pleasure, empowering women to reclaim erotic confidence.

Celebrating Women’s Sexuality: Overcoming Shame Through Pleasure

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#InternationalWomensDay #IWD #Blog

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Why International Women’s Day Still Matters | IWD Info Hub Do we still really need an International Women’s Day? Find out all about IWD, why it still matters & how you can support it, in this info hub

Why International Women’s Day Still Matters

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#IWD #InternationalWomensDay #Blog

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International Women’s Day Articles A collection of International Women’s Day articles exploring women’s sexuality, empowerment, equality and lived experience.

🧡 Check out all my articles related to specifically women's pleasure, empowerment, and sexuality, for #InternationalWomensDay.

International Women's Day articles πŸ‘‰ carasutra.com/my/iwd

You'll find some highlights in the thread below.

#IWD2026 #IWD #Blog

08.03.2026 12:52 β€” πŸ‘ 6    πŸ” 3    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0
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Dominance in BDSM: FemDom and D/s Relationships Explained Explore Dominance in BDSM through FemDom power dynamics, D/s relationships, consent and control, with practical domination techniques explained by an experienced Domme.

Dominance in BDSM: FemDom Power Dynamics, D/s Relationships and Control

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#TopicHubs #DominanceInBDSM #BDSM #Kink #Dominance #Domme #FemDom #submission #Blog

06.03.2026 15:03 β€” πŸ‘ 6    πŸ” 1    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0
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Fetish Psychology Guide: Why Kinks Turn Us On A practical fetish psychology guide exploring why kinks develop, fantasy vs reality, shame, consent, and how to explore safely.

Fetish Psychology: Why Kinks Turn Us On and What They Mean

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#TopicHubs #FetishPsychology #Blog

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BDSM Foundations: Safety, Consent and Risk Awareness Curious about BDSM but want to explore it safely? Discover consent, limits, safewords, risk awareness and aftercare, explained by an experienced BDSM Domme.

BDSM Foundations: Safety, Consent, Communication and Risk Awareness

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#TopicHubs #BDSMFoundations #Blog

06.03.2026 15:00 β€” πŸ‘ 2    πŸ” 1    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0

NEW: TOPIC HUBS 🧡

I am creating new topic hubs at Cara Sutra. These pages collate articles and resources on the same subject.

I’ll add them to this thread as they go live.

Each hub acts as a resource page to help you find all related content on the blog in one place.

#TopicHubs #CaraSutra #Blog

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The Cara Sutra Newsletter Sign up to the Cara Sutra Newsletter to receive all the latest updates, giveaway announcements and other fun news from the blog!

Subscribed to my newsletter yet?

I send one email a week, mainly as I HATE when I subscribe to a newsletter & they start attacking my inbox on the daily (or more!)

I send on Fridays; this week's will be in a couple of hours. Life stuff & blog stuff. Sign up here πŸ‘‰

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06.03.2026 09:07 β€” πŸ‘ 4    πŸ” 2    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

Sadly I doubt this will change any time soon, and I'll have to correct the assumption as kindly as I can when these 'opportunities' hit my inbox.

#blogging #blogger #marketing #ProductReviews

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The Tremor Sex Machine Review: Comparison With Sybian and MotorBunny In-depth Tremor sex machine review covering performance, comfort, attachments, and how it compares with Sybian and MotorBunny.

The Tremor Sex Machine Review:
Power, How It Really Feels, Comparison to Other Sex Machines

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#SexMachine #SexTech #SexToys #SexPositive #Blogging #ContentUpdate #EvergreenContent #Affiliate

05.03.2026 12:32 β€” πŸ‘ 3    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

Despite blogging professionally as my full-time job, I'm consistently approached as 'inferior' by other businesses. Been the same over the 17+ yrs I've been doing this. There's this assertion that all bloggers are hobbyists, happy for any freebie tidbit thrown their way. Not to be taken seriously.

05.03.2026 12:31 β€” πŸ‘ 4    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 2    πŸ“Œ 0

I'm not in the 'getting freebies' game; if I want something I'll work hard, then buy it with my wages. After paying my bills. With money, not vibrators. πŸ€·β€β™€οΈ

05.03.2026 12:27 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0

I don't know how to say this in a kinder way, but offering me a 'sex toy to review, absolutely free!' isn't the amazing opportunity you think it is.

So you mean I'll get:

- yet another vibrator
- weeks of work
- to permanently link to you from my blog

without having to pay a penny? Oh boy!

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Anorgasmia Explained: Why You Can’t Orgasm and What to Do Struggling to orgasm? Learn what anorgasmia is, why it happens, and realistic ways to explore pleasure, sex toys and treatments that may help.

Anorgasmia Explained: Why You Can’t Orgasm and What to Do

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#SexEd #SexualHealth #OrgasmEducation #SexPositive #Blogging #ContentUpdate #EvergreenContent #Affiliate

04.03.2026 12:32 β€” πŸ‘ 4    πŸ” 3    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

Thanks!

03.03.2026 19:30 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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Every time I open the BBC News app

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MotorBunny Sex Machine Review: Real Test vs Sybian Honest hands-on MotorBunny Sex Machine review with real testing, noise measurements, demo video and direct Sybian comparison.

MotorBunny Sex Machine Review, with Comparison to The Sybian 🫨

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#SexMachine #SexTech #SexToys #SexPositive #Blogging #ContentUpdate #EvergreenContent #Affiliate

03.03.2026 12:32 β€” πŸ‘ 4    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

Turns out our son (13, #autism dx lvl 3) is a #gestalt language processor, something we had no knowledge of until his #EHCP annual review last week! Been looking into it and it's *exactly* how he started verbal comms & how he speaks now. So interesting! We thought it was just a him thing πŸ˜‚

#GLP

03.03.2026 10:56 β€” πŸ‘ 2    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

That feeling on Saturday when I told my therapist I'm worried because there are times when I'm not actively upset or grieving about personal past events and she said maybe it's that you're at peace and I was like oh. OH. Fuck. That's weird.

#Therapy #cPTSD

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Best G-Spot Toys Guide for Intense Internal Stimulation Discover how to choose the best G-spot toys for targeted pleasure, expert tips, and top toy recommendations for every experience level.

G-Spot Toys Guide: How to choose the best vibrators and dildos for G-spotting success πŸ’¦

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#SexToys #SexEd #OrgasmEducation #SexPositive #BuyingGuide #Blogging #EvergreenContent #Affiliate

02.03.2026 19:21 β€” πŸ‘ 3    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

Meanwhile my son's cold is worse, he's now lost his voice πŸ˜”

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