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Inconsistent writer, Jing Yuan and Kaeya enthusiast, i play genshin and hsr :D

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๐Ÿ”ฅ
#pokemon

29.10.2025 16:30 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 781    ๐Ÿ” 265    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 7    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

ive heard ppl call em gravesin

09.10.2025 09:40 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 1    ๐Ÿ” 0    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 1    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
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ใ‹ใ‚ใ„ใ„ใŒใ‚ใคใพใ‚‹ใ€€#ๆ’ๆ™ฏ

06.10.2025 16:47 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 87    ๐Ÿ” 50    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 3    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
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#ๆ™ฏๅ…ƒ
General, I miss you so much ๐Ÿฅบ๐Ÿฅบ

06.10.2025 16:01 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 87    ๐Ÿ” 62    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 1    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
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#lycahugo movie date

19.09.2025 22:51 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 26    ๐Ÿ” 9    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

i feel like nod krai story more than makes up for it. i went it w low expectations and had them blasted out of the water

02.10.2025 00:09 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 1    ๐Ÿ” 0    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
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#luckae is it a cuddle if he has his head under his arm like a ball

11.09.2025 00:32 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 40    ๐Ÿ” 16    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 2    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
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Hmmm

29.09.2025 20:56 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 185    ๐Ÿ” 60    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 1    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
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ON RESPECTABILITY IN DRESS Every once in a while, people here will get mad at me. And it often involves the same issue: respectability in dress. Or its related cousin: dress codes. Judging someone's deeper, more important qualities based on attire often feels so natural; people get upset when I refuse to engage in the same judgment. To them, it feels as though I'm denying something so obvious, I'm dishonest. I've written about dress respectability no fewer than half a dozen times in my 15 years of writing about menswear, but never so thoroughly and comprehensively on Twitter. This post will be long, but I hope it is engaging. And I hope you stay with me because I find this sentiment to be so noxious โ€” so antithetical to any notion of "good," whether religious or secular โ€” that I hope I can convince a few people to resist such temptations. What is respectability in dress? It's the idea that you can show respect through clothes, such as wearing a suit to a wedding. Or the idea that people in certain clothes are more deserving of respect, such as a man in a suit versus another man in a hoodie. I will address each in turn. I believe dress is a form of social language. And thus, you can signal certain things through clothes. For instance, if I were to attend a wedding, I would wear a suit as an outward expression of a sentiment in my heart (e.g., "I'm happy for my hosts and wish to honor them on this day"). The suit is simply a representation of my sentiment, which already exists, even if I was in jeans. However, if I arrived at a wedding and saw someone not wearing a suit, I would not judge the person's more important qualities based on their attire. Perhaps they didn't have time to buy a suit. Perhaps clothes shopping gives them great anxiety. Perhaps they can't afford a suit that fits. If I wanted to know whether that person is of good character, I would judge this off their more direct actions, such as how they treat the people around them. Are they genial to gโ€ฆ

ON RESPECTABILITY IN DRESS Every once in a while, people here will get mad at me. And it often involves the same issue: respectability in dress. Or its related cousin: dress codes. Judging someone's deeper, more important qualities based on attire often feels so natural; people get upset when I refuse to engage in the same judgment. To them, it feels as though I'm denying something so obvious, I'm dishonest. I've written about dress respectability no fewer than half a dozen times in my 15 years of writing about menswear, but never so thoroughly and comprehensively on Twitter. This post will be long, but I hope it is engaging. And I hope you stay with me because I find this sentiment to be so noxious โ€” so antithetical to any notion of "good," whether religious or secular โ€” that I hope I can convince a few people to resist such temptations. What is respectability in dress? It's the idea that you can show respect through clothes, such as wearing a suit to a wedding. Or the idea that people in certain clothes are more deserving of respect, such as a man in a suit versus another man in a hoodie. I will address each in turn. I believe dress is a form of social language. And thus, you can signal certain things through clothes. For instance, if I were to attend a wedding, I would wear a suit as an outward expression of a sentiment in my heart (e.g., "I'm happy for my hosts and wish to honor them on this day"). The suit is simply a representation of my sentiment, which already exists, even if I was in jeans. However, if I arrived at a wedding and saw someone not wearing a suit, I would not judge the person's more important qualities based on their attire. Perhaps they didn't have time to buy a suit. Perhaps clothes shopping gives them great anxiety. Perhaps they can't afford a suit that fits. If I wanted to know whether that person is of good character, I would judge this off their more direct actions, such as how they treat the people around them. Are they genial to gโ€ฆ

In 1852, Cardinal John Henry Newman penned an essay, initially delivered as a university lecture, titled "Definition of a Gentleman." A gentleman, he says, is someone gentle and kind, considerate of others, humble in social relations, and respectful of boundaries. He compares a gentleman to "an easy chair or a good fire, which do their part in dispelling cold and fatigue." He writes: "The true gentleman in like manner carefully avoids whatever may cause a jar or a jolt in the minds of those with whom he is cast โ€” all clashing of opinion, or collision of feeling, all restraint, or suspicion, or gloom, or resentment; his great concern being to make every one at his ease and at home. He has his eyes on all his company; he is tender towards the bashful, gentle towards the distant, and merciful towards the absurd; he can recollect to whom he is speaking; he guards against unseasonable allusions, or topics which may irritate; he is seldom prominent in conversation, and never wearisome. He makes light of favors while he does them, and seems to be receiving when he is conferring." There is notably nothing in his essay about clothes. It's impossible to judge a person's deeper, more important qualities based on clothes because people are often just following social conventions. To go back to the wedding example, many people wear a suit not because they hold a particular sentiment in their heart, but simply because a suit is protocol. A friend who works as a wedding photographer revels in telling me stories about suited guests getting into fistfightsโ€”certainly not a way to honor your hosts. The irony of dress codes is that the stronger the enforcement, the less you can tell about someone's character based on dress.

In 1852, Cardinal John Henry Newman penned an essay, initially delivered as a university lecture, titled "Definition of a Gentleman." A gentleman, he says, is someone gentle and kind, considerate of others, humble in social relations, and respectful of boundaries. He compares a gentleman to "an easy chair or a good fire, which do their part in dispelling cold and fatigue." He writes: "The true gentleman in like manner carefully avoids whatever may cause a jar or a jolt in the minds of those with whom he is cast โ€” all clashing of opinion, or collision of feeling, all restraint, or suspicion, or gloom, or resentment; his great concern being to make every one at his ease and at home. He has his eyes on all his company; he is tender towards the bashful, gentle towards the distant, and merciful towards the absurd; he can recollect to whom he is speaking; he guards against unseasonable allusions, or topics which may irritate; he is seldom prominent in conversation, and never wearisome. He makes light of favors while he does them, and seems to be receiving when he is conferring." There is notably nothing in his essay about clothes. It's impossible to judge a person's deeper, more important qualities based on clothes because people are often just following social conventions. To go back to the wedding example, many people wear a suit not because they hold a particular sentiment in their heart, but simply because a suit is protocol. A friend who works as a wedding photographer revels in telling me stories about suited guests getting into fistfightsโ€”certainly not a way to honor your hosts. The irony of dress codes is that the stronger the enforcement, the less you can tell about someone's character based on dress.

Let's now turn to the idea that people in certain clothes are more deserving of respect. The sharpest, most pointed counterargument for this is Pierre Bourdieu, who in his 1979 book Distinction, pointed out that our notions of "Good Taste" are often nothing more than the habits and preferences of the ruling class. Edward Carpenter, a gay British reformer in the late 19th century, understood this a century earlier. He hated suits. In an essay about the "simple life," he compared suits to coffins, as they have "stiff layers upon layers of buckram," which he believed prevented people from getting enough sunlight and air. But more importantly, he hated suits because he recognized that Victorian dress codes weren't about dress codes at all โ€” they were about status signaling and social hierarchy. In May 1889, Carpenter wrote a letter to The Sheffield Independent about how 100,000 of the city's residents were struggling to find sunlight and air, enduring miserable lives, and dying of illnesses because of the thick, black cloud of smog arising out of factories like smoke from Judgement Day. Meanwhile, as Melton-clad plutocrats nattered on about proper dress codes, they concealed their cruelty and vulgarity under refined manners. They weren't concerned with virtue, but rather with showing their supposed higher moral status. And then those socially under them aped those manners to seem higher class. (A dynamic that German sociologist Georg Simmel recognized in his 1902 essay "On Fashion.) Our judgements of dress are often more about the person underneath the clothes, rather than the clothes themselves. We see this with the pre-war British Guardsmen, who dropped their Edwardian-inspired fashions as soon as they were adopted by the "ruffians" known as Teddy Boys (and some Teddy Gals). Or how the slacker hoodie became a symbol of meritocracy in the New Economy when (white) coders wore it in the early 2000s, but it symbolizes criminality when worn by black teens. Clothes indโ€ฆ

Let's now turn to the idea that people in certain clothes are more deserving of respect. The sharpest, most pointed counterargument for this is Pierre Bourdieu, who in his 1979 book Distinction, pointed out that our notions of "Good Taste" are often nothing more than the habits and preferences of the ruling class. Edward Carpenter, a gay British reformer in the late 19th century, understood this a century earlier. He hated suits. In an essay about the "simple life," he compared suits to coffins, as they have "stiff layers upon layers of buckram," which he believed prevented people from getting enough sunlight and air. But more importantly, he hated suits because he recognized that Victorian dress codes weren't about dress codes at all โ€” they were about status signaling and social hierarchy. In May 1889, Carpenter wrote a letter to The Sheffield Independent about how 100,000 of the city's residents were struggling to find sunlight and air, enduring miserable lives, and dying of illnesses because of the thick, black cloud of smog arising out of factories like smoke from Judgement Day. Meanwhile, as Melton-clad plutocrats nattered on about proper dress codes, they concealed their cruelty and vulgarity under refined manners. They weren't concerned with virtue, but rather with showing their supposed higher moral status. And then those socially under them aped those manners to seem higher class. (A dynamic that German sociologist Georg Simmel recognized in his 1902 essay "On Fashion.) Our judgements of dress are often more about the person underneath the clothes, rather than the clothes themselves. We see this with the pre-war British Guardsmen, who dropped their Edwardian-inspired fashions as soon as they were adopted by the "ruffians" known as Teddy Boys (and some Teddy Gals). Or how the slacker hoodie became a symbol of meritocracy in the New Economy when (white) coders wore it in the early 2000s, but it symbolizes criminality when worn by black teens. Clothes indโ€ฆ

I'm fundamentally opposed to any notion of respectability in dress, as I find it antithetical to a fundamental moral principle: you should treat everyone with respect unless they behave in a manner that suggests otherwise. And so, if John Fetterman lumbers through the halls of Congress in hoodies and shorts, you should object to him based on his politics, not his dress. If a student shows up at Oxford Union in sweats, you should consider his ideas, not his pants. I am perfectly fine with saying certain outfits are ugly. I'm deeply uncomfortable when people make moral judgments based on clothes. A person is not more or less deserving of respect based on dress; they can only do so based on more meaningful behavior. My guess is that you know this in your heart. As you travel through the world, look around you. Are your poorly dressed cousins and uncles bad people? Do shabbily dressed teachers or nurses on the train not actually serve society in positive ways? Do suited politicians not occasionally commit crimes? The idea that appearance doesn't always match character can be found more melodically in Fela Kuti's 1973 album "Gentleman." If you are already interacting with someone on a meaningful basis, you've hopefully already gotten enough information about them to form a judgement and thus can ignore dress. If you haven't interacted with them in meaningful ways, you can simply withhold judgement. I will end with an excerpt from Stuart Hall, a Jamaican-born British cultural theorist. In an essay about pluralism, he made a distinction between "common culture" and "common society," encouraging us to embrace differences. "It should not be necessary to look, walk, feel, think, speak exactly like a paid-up member of the buttoned-up, stiff-upper-lipped, fully corseted and free-born Englishman, culturally to be accorded either the informal courtesy and respect of civil social intercourse or the rights of entitlement and citizenship. Since cultural diversity is, increasiโ€ฆ

I'm fundamentally opposed to any notion of respectability in dress, as I find it antithetical to a fundamental moral principle: you should treat everyone with respect unless they behave in a manner that suggests otherwise. And so, if John Fetterman lumbers through the halls of Congress in hoodies and shorts, you should object to him based on his politics, not his dress. If a student shows up at Oxford Union in sweats, you should consider his ideas, not his pants. I am perfectly fine with saying certain outfits are ugly. I'm deeply uncomfortable when people make moral judgments based on clothes. A person is not more or less deserving of respect based on dress; they can only do so based on more meaningful behavior. My guess is that you know this in your heart. As you travel through the world, look around you. Are your poorly dressed cousins and uncles bad people? Do shabbily dressed teachers or nurses on the train not actually serve society in positive ways? Do suited politicians not occasionally commit crimes? The idea that appearance doesn't always match character can be found more melodically in Fela Kuti's 1973 album "Gentleman." If you are already interacting with someone on a meaningful basis, you've hopefully already gotten enough information about them to form a judgement and thus can ignore dress. If you haven't interacted with them in meaningful ways, you can simply withhold judgement. I will end with an excerpt from Stuart Hall, a Jamaican-born British cultural theorist. In an essay about pluralism, he made a distinction between "common culture" and "common society," encouraging us to embrace differences. "It should not be necessary to look, walk, feel, think, speak exactly like a paid-up member of the buttoned-up, stiff-upper-lipped, fully corseted and free-born Englishman, culturally to be accorded either the informal courtesy and respect of civil social intercourse or the rights of entitlement and citizenship. Since cultural diversity is, increasiโ€ฆ

I wrote something about respectability in dress over on Twitter. The topic is nuanced for me, so unfortunately the post had to be long. Since Bluesky (reasonably) has character limits, I can't easily import the text here. So I'm including screenshots, if you would like to read it.

18.09.2025 20:26 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 1732    ๐Ÿ” 175    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 48    ๐Ÿ“Œ 9
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#hsr #gorgo #mydei

15.09.2025 15:43 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 133    ๐Ÿ” 41    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 1    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
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#hengjing #jingheng #ๆ’ๆ™ฏ #ๆ™ฏๆ’

05.08.2025 09:09 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 15    ๐Ÿ” 6    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
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ใใ‚ƒใ‚......

#Danheng

08.09.2025 10:50 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 123    ๐Ÿ” 66    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 1    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
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#phaidei โ˜€๏ธ๐Ÿท

07.09.2025 03:44 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 253    ๐Ÿ” 123    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 3    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
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#ๅˆƒๆ™ฏใ€€#renjing

๋ธ”๋ ˆ๊ฒฝ์› ์ค‘์›์ ˆ์ด๋ฒคํŠธ ๊ทธ๋ฆผ~~

06.09.2025 12:32 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 57    ๐Ÿ” 28    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
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ใ‚ขใƒ™ใƒณใ‚ทใ‚ช๐Ÿฆš๐Ÿ›

30.08.2025 19:11 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 59    ๐Ÿ” 27    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
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#phainon

30.08.2025 15:15 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 103    ๐Ÿ” 62    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 2    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
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Shapeshifter AU
#phaidei #phainon #mydei

22.08.2025 14:55 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 78    ๐Ÿ” 21    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 1    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
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#phaidei โ˜€๏ธ๐Ÿทๅพ…ใกๅˆใ‚ใ›(1/2)

23.08.2025 17:21 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 65    ๐Ÿ” 22    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 2    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
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แผ„ฯ‡ฮฟฯ‚ โ€ข รกkhos (pain, ache)

#phaidei

28.08.2025 22:04 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 77    ๐Ÿ” 45    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 1    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
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โ“
#ใƒฉใ‚คใƒ’ใƒฅ #lycahugo

27.08.2025 17:05 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 41    ๐Ÿ” 15    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

Hi authors! Please remember to file a claim!

27.08.2025 17:30 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 10291    ๐Ÿ” 6855    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 85    ๐Ÿ“Œ 69

people love bringing up japan when it comes to deporting immigrants/ creating a homogenous society, but if you bring up japan's anti-gun laws it's "woah woah woah"

28.08.2025 00:37 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 12812    ๐Ÿ” 1483    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 206    ๐Ÿ“Œ 47
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ahhh df so handsome in the secon dpanel sfaysgsgg jl gonna beat his ass for distracting jy training lol

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