Anne Tomkinson

I’ve been kind of quiet about this because I don’t feel like I have anything of value to add to the conversation but let me be absolutely clear - as a straight cis woman, I absolutely 100% support my trans siblings and I will stand with you publicly anywhere and everywhere.

My husband and I always had a food house, but over the past few years we’ve been making the switch to an ingredient house. I think we’ve succeeded - I’m sick, and he just instacarted stuff to make chicken soup.

@christieengler.bsky.social, this is so important! Part of his strategy is to push everyone into react mode. We can and must take a deep breath and make sure we are responding and not reacting, and not getting distracted from our true purpose.

Today I am trying not to despair of the future. I’m participating in mutual aid for MLK celebrations, and I’m going to do what I always do on MLK day - read his letter from a Birmingham jail and contemplate where in my life I’m showing up as a white moderate, and how I can do better.

There are a lot of places where people use the word transformation to mean ‘we made a few tweaks’.

Right? Why now? I mean, I guess better late than never, but not really.

Sometimes I see people post the silliest takes and for just a moment I want to weigh in and offer a new perspective (or correction when they are flat out wrong), but then I take a deep breath and remember that I should save my energy for better things.

I agree with what’s already been said in other comments, and would add they prioritize their own schedules over candidates. They are ‘too busy’ to efficiently interview and then they’re surprised when candidates don’t accept the offer they finally get around to making.

Antibiotics are messing with my sense of taste and smell and I’m really ready to be all better now.

I got a steroid shot in my shoulder yesterday. So far, no change at all. Let’s hope physical therapy next week is more effective than this shot!

Oh, that’s helpful. Choosing more of the better-for-my-particular health needs now, and moderation on the things that aren’t moving my health condition forward. FWIW I’d choose cava over chipotle any day!

How is going? I hope your health is improving and that you’re managing the food relationship well!

I need to make some dietary changes for health reasons. I hope the work I’ve done to heal my relationship with food will allow me to safely make these changes without spiraling back into disordered eating. There’s a fine line between ‘good food vs. bad food’ and ‘better for me right now’ food.

The year my son was born, we didn’t take our tree down until March. After that, the tree always came down before his bday. I spent the first weekend this year in the ER, so for the first time since 1986 the tree came down late. It would have been an easier cleanup if this tree was also artificial.

I have to be on a clear liquid diet for a few days. I’m fine, but did the nurse practitioner really think she was being encouraging when she said ‘at least with jello you still have food to chew!’?!?!

Laundry! And grocery shopping. Oh, and doing the dishes. I enjoy cooking if I don’t have to shop for food or clean up afterwards!

I dislike New Year’s resolutions as they always feel deficit based. I do like setting intentions for the year, and this section from Mary Oliver’s poem ‘Sometimes’ is going to be my intention for 2025:

4.
Instructions for living a life:
Pay attention.
Be astonished.
Tell about it.

If you’re required to be in the office 4 days a week, that’s not exactly really hybrid. Just saying.

Been thinking about “purpose” vs. “meaning” — particularly in relation to vocation. When I focus on a purposeful life I am more driven and less content, but a meaningful life feels more expansive - there’s room for curiosity, pleasure, and connection without needing to operationalize every choice.

When I first started with this practice I took the first open time slot - telehealth smack dab in the middle of my busiest day! When my therapist told me a 4pm Friday slot became available I jumped on it!

Therapy is so good and also leaves me feeling fragile. I’m glad I got a time slot at the end of the day on Friday so I don’t have to jump right back into life when it’s over.

I went nc/lc with my mother 3 years ago. For a while afterward, there were still times I felt abandoned by family in spite of it being my choice. This year my siblings all spent Thanksgiving with my mother and I saw pictures of them and thought oh, how nice for them. No regret, no sting. #growth

What are the best #HRConferences folks are attending in 2025? Not SHRM, obviously.

Thanksgiving being so late this year makes it easier to be a Thanksgiving weekend decorator.

I got to hold my niece’s 10 day old baby. All is right with my world.

I’m not usually an early Christmas decorator but this year feels like we need some intentional joy.

On Thursday we went to Thanksgiving mass in the morning so the whole day felt like a Sunday. Today has felt like Saturday. It’s pretty great to realize it’s only Friday and we still have a real Saturday and Sunday before us. Long weekends are the best.

Prepping so I can pace myself Thursday. Today I made pie crust and cubed bread for stuffing. Tomorrow I’ll bake the sweet potato pie and cook the cranberry sauce. Still quite a bit left for Thursday, but I’ll have my son as a sous chef and it’ll be fun.

1/ 90 Second Sermon:
Can we claim to “love our neighbour as ourselves” if we are willing to accept and pursue less for them than we would for our own family or ourselves?

It’s open enrollment season. Send me all your thoughts and prayers.