Drjoekort

"I'm here today for two reasons," Bill began. "The first is that I love my country. And America was built upon the idea that no person is above the law, even Presidents — especially Presidents." Bill Clinton.

Amen!

A reader recently left this review for Cracking the Erotic Code:

“LOVED THIS BOOK… Joe Kort gave me so many insights and information about myself as a gay man and cracking my erotic code, plus also showing me it is okay to connect socially and emotionally with other gay men like myself…”

Here are four ways you can accept love easier:

1. Simply say thank you.
2. Let yourself feel the pleasure of what’s given.
3. Acknowledge any old traumas that get in the way.
4. Remember you don’t have to give back right away, or at all.

Receiving love is a gift, allow it!

So you are scrolling dating apps and come across some that says, “I’m not into drama,” it often means drama is close by.

The same goes for someone telling you to “calm down” when you already are calm. Often, it is their own anxiety or intensity showing up, and they are projecting it onto you.

If a straight man has sex with a man, does that automatically change his sexual orientation?

In this free live webinar, I will break down what male sexual fluidity really means and why behavior does not always equal identity.

crsh.com/male-fluidity/

Prefer a teletherapy virtural appointment?

You can schedule a session with me or one of my associates by calling 248.399.7447 or by visiting The Center for Relationship Health at crsh.com to book online.

Teletherapy is a convenient and effective way to receive care.

Foreplay can be the main play!

Sex does not have to mean intercourse. Outercourse is just as valid as intercourse when having sex.

Many people cannot or do not want to engage in penetration because of medical conditions, trauma, disability, aging, identity, or personal preference.

You can build a happy, healthy, and sexually fulfilling life, and you do not have to do it alone. The therapists at The Center for Relationship Health in Royal Oak are here to support you in gaining a deeper understanding of your sexual health, .

Visit crsh.com or call 248.399.7447.

For years, I was told I just hadn’t met the right guy or hadn’t had it done right. I was called a virgin. Some even suggested maybe I wasn’t really gay if I didn’t want to top or bottom. But none of that resonated with me. I simply wasn’t into it.

Link to the full video in bio.

Does sex have an expiration date?

Absolutely not. Sexuality is ageless. Unless, of course, you want it to end and there is no shame in that.

Is aging affecting your sexuality? Let’s talk about it.

I’ve been a therapist for 40 years, and I still hear people say, “Therapy doesn’t work. You’re just talking. I could talk to anyone.”

But therapy is not the same as talking to a friend, your doctor, or your hairdresser.

C*ck Block is described as the world’s first product designed to combine the sensations of both penetration and frot in one experience.

Listen to the full episode with Justin DePew to hear the complete conversation.

It’s okay to acknowledge internalized homophobia, biphobia, lesbianphobia and transphobia. It doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you. It’s something we’ve been taught from childhood.

Watch the full conversation on the Coming Out Podcast!
www.youtube.com/watch?v=h3MA...

Romance scams don’t end when Valentine’s Day does. In fact, scammers take advantage of loneliness, hope, and the natural desire for connection all year long.

I know firsthand people have impersonated me for 15 years scamming women out of thousands of dollars.

Join our free live webinar with Reilly Barth for practical guidance on healthy sexual development, boundaries, and safety. Reilly will share simple, evidence based tools to help you recognize normal stages and spot warning signs of unhealthy sexual behaviors.

Registration link in our bio.

So many people do not realize how narrow our definition of sex has become.

In this clip, Justin Depow explains what frot is and why it matters.

Sex does not have to revolve around penetration to be real, connected, or satisfying.

The full episode with Justin Depow is available now, linked in bio

Erectile dysfunction is becoming more common in younger men, and it often brings a wave of stress, shame, and pressure to perform.

joekort.com/overcome-ere...

Have you ever been turned on by something that doesn’t match your values? Some gay men who are deeply progressive find themselves erotically attracted to “MAGA” type men, and it can feel confusing.

I talk more about this in my latest YouTube video on erotic orientation. Link in my bio.

Straight men who have s//x with men aren’t always motivated by attraction. Sometimes it’s money. Sometimes it’s power. Sometimes it’s the exchange itself. Sexual identity isn’t defined by one behavior, and it’s time we stop oversimplifying it.

Watch full YouTube video, linked in my bio.

“Your an*s doesn’t have a sexual orientation.”

Enjoying prostate pleasure doesn’t make someone gay, straight, or bi. Bodies respond to sensation, not labels. For some straight men who have sex with men, it isn’t about attraction to men at all.

Link to full video on YouTube in my bio.

We just hit 10,000 subscribers on YouTube!

This milestone reminds me that these topics matter, and that none of us are alone in what we’re working through.

Thank you for being here with me. I’m excited for what’s ahead.

Subscribe and join the community through the link in my bio on YouTube.

A reader recently left this review for Is My Husband Gay, Straight, or Bi? and it meant a lot to me:

“Gives the reader some very good perspective of what may be a life changing discovery for both sexes. I appreciate Joe's writing style, balanced explanations and clear way of communicating.”

Often coming out is not just about one experience. It is about that moment when emotional connection and physical experience come together and someone realizes their orientation is about who they love, who they are, and not just what they do.

Hotwifing is a consensual dynamic, and sometimes the erotic charge can feel homoerotic without it being about sexual orientation or attraction to men. The erotic mind is complex and creative.

Link to full YouTube video in bio.

I love when journalists write about kink communities with curiosity instead of judgment. I was interviewed by Jess Watts from Artefact for a recent article about the size fetish kink community, and one thing I want people to understand is this.

www.artefactmagazine.com/2024/05/17/t...

Imago Relationship Therapy is a powerful approach to couples work that helps partners understand why they chose each other in the first place and why certain patterns feel so familiar.

Today is International Holocaust Remembrance Day.

Today I am remembering. And I am holding the responsibility to speak, to teach, and to stay awake to what hatred can do. We are experiencing a rise in antisemitism in our world today and it is very distressing to me.

Join our free live webinar with Reilly Barth for practical guidance on healthy sexual development, boundaries, and safety. Reilly will share simple, evidence based tools to help you recognize normal stages and spot warning signs of unhealthy sexual behaviors.

Registration link in our bio.

People hear “two men in bed” and instantly jump to labels. That is when people’s minds get blown.

It can be true, but it is not automatically true.
Because sexual orientation is who you are attracted to.
Erotic orientation is what turns you on.

Full YouTube video, link in bio.

Winter is a common time for libido to drop, and a lot of people panic and assume something is wrong with them or their relationship. Usually, it is not. Less sunlight, more stress, fatigue, and low mood can all quiet desire.

Have you noticed your libido change in the winter?