Andrew 🏳️‍🌈🍁

Omg I totally missed this, but holy crap thank you 🥹

Owen, you should definitely keep going 👀

Look, it's amazing art of my boyfriend!!!! 🥰🥰🥰

XXL Woofia was boring and no amount of hot Bara men could redeem it for me 😔

Wait wait wait, but here did you get that Goosebumps cutoff though 👀👀👀

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(bg3) unfortunately this game contains the two types of men I am actually attracted to. Depraved queen and Huge Guy

And the boy was RIGHT 😌

Call that pup charcuterie cause there's so much fine meat there 🤤

Kathy's a star and so are you ✨❤️

And looking it too, woof 👀🤤

also while we're talking about it the longer the beard the hotter a guy gets like no length is too long

AGREED ❤️

Add in my ADHD to the mix and you get one horny fucker who just needs to be the middle meat in a man sandwich already. Don't. Make. Me. CHOOSE.

Like....I'm not mad about it??? But I am desperately wanting to be railed (okay, it's been a while since bottoming last so "to be gently fucked" is more realistic) and told I'm a good boy by a Top that doesn't make me cringe into next week due to a god complex, toxic masculinity, or both.

Current Blurse: Being surrounded by beautiful, vibrant bottoms that want me to be their Dom Top and I can, in fact, do this happily because I am a Vers Switch but also feeling like I'm ignoring half of my sexual self more and more.

May I also propose a Cookie Swap Night?

I make a mean Snickerdoodle and am often socially anxious as fuck 😌

Being a Muppet makes you queer.
Its now LGBTQIAM+

Happy to help apply aloe as needed. With a back like that I can imagine some places are hard to reach 👀

Dear lord that is one sexy bear 🥵

Yes!!! I think that's a big part of why it can be so frustrating to deal with for me. Don't make me do your kink homework just so you can nut and move on.

Giving over full control of what you gain is also typically an attempt to live in fantasy as often as possible, which isn't sustainable or healthy. Perhaps some can thrive in that, but from what I've seen, most cannot.

Having a clearer idea of what you want out of this kink allows you to better define what aspects of it are sexy for you so you can actually communicate that and engage with it in an emotionally and mentally healthy way. It's tough to communicate boundaries when you don't know what they even are.

For most people I've encountered who want to give over control entirely, they don't really know what they want past submission. Gaining (and kink in general) is more fun, interesting, enriching, and safe when you actually know what you want.

If you have no goals in mind, it's a lot easier to slip into never being satisfied with what you've achieved. Always feeling "small" no matter what size you're at. And as much as people like to make it kinky, that's close to (if not just fully) body dysmorphia which is not good for your psyche.

That means the other person has to consistently be your main source of motivation, which is fun for a few evenings/days at a time, but not long term. For most folks, it's mentally and emotionally exhausting for all involved much like trying to extend ANY kink scenario past its expiration date.

Putting a transformation in someone else's hands that YOU have to deal with the realities of (a lot of which aren't fun or sexy for most folks) typically means you're primarily deriving satisfaction with that experience from a source outside yourself.

So, context of the thread to come: dude tells me he wants me to take full control of his gains. I love to encourage, but taking full control for more than evening or a few days is something I do not like to do. This is why: