Acacia Thay DëQueer - Fae/They/Xe/He/She

Acacia stands inside a green wooden box that comes up to their chest. They smile cheerfully at the camera. They are I side a wood shop, and wear woodworking goggles.

Making progress on the van!

#VanBuild #Woodworking #MakerWorks #VanLife

Apparently I’m worried about something going wrong when I hang out with friends.

#TherapyThoughts

I’m to the age where being called “young” is a complement. But still young enough that I call people older than me “adults.”

I’m not a poodle. I’m the ocean. You can’t train or tame me. You can only direct and redirect. And when my emotions spill out over whatever box you’ve put me in, you’d better be prepared.

I love teaching AP World History. Kids are usually learning seriously about the world and writing for the first time. I love showing them how to study history, gather evidence, and support their argument. 🥰🥰🥰

Book a lesson with me now:
www.wyzant.com/refer/tutor/...

#APWorldHistory

I’m like a human 4th wall break.

#Autism #Neurodivergent

Principal Intimacy Professionals Writer/Performer Amanda Jane Stern and Intimacy Coordinator Acacia DëQueer reflect on their collaboration on “Perfectly Good Moment”.

I help actors feel safe and supported in intimate scenes.
It’s called intimacy coordination—and it’s some of the most meaningful work I do.

I wrote about it here, through the lens of a compelling indie film I loved working on:
www.principalintimacy.com/blog/perfect...

#IntimacyCoordinator

6 paint swatches are arranged on a table. They are all light blue or green.

Decisions decisions. Which brand do you like better? Behr from Home Depot, Valspar from Lowe’s, or Dutch Boy from Menards?

#PickingPaint #HomeImprovement #Painting #Lowe’s #HomeDepot #Menards

a man in a suit and tie is making a funny face with his eyes closed and his hands folded . ALT: a man in a suit and tie is making a funny face with his eyes closed and his hands folded .

Tudor explains my frustration, saying genre “can only be isolated on the basis of ‘principal characteristics’, which can only be discovered from the films themselves after they have been isolated” (Tudor).

#GenreStudies #FilmStudies #TVHistory

#Gendernonconforming #Nonbinary #AFAB #Genderfluid #Testosterone #Survivor #Transition #HRT #Caterpillar #Chrysalis #Butterfly #Phoenix #Egg #Dragon #CrackedEgg

“How I thought my transformation from puberty would go:” from a caterpillar to a chrysalis to a butterfly. “How I’ve transformed since:” Phoenix to egg to dragon.

My egg cracked.

#Transgender

At 16, a boy told me he wouldn’t have sex with me even if it was the apocalypse - like I was a bad apple with a bitter taste. Now, at the age of 28, I know how to give people a taste they can’t get enough of. Some things take time. Personally, I plan on hitting my peak at the ripe old age of 60.

It might surprise people, but I don’t miss living in an apartment at all. The only thing I miss is have a kitchen - which should be remedied when the van build is finished! I can’t wait to cook and bake in my van. 🥰

#VanLife #VanBuild #TinyHome #Nomad #Cooking

That’s a documentary in the making lol.

Today I told my therapist I love her at the end of my session. She said it gave her “warm fuzzy feelings.” So obviously I am capable of developing healthy attachments with the people in my life.

#Therapy #AttachmentStyle #HealthyAttachment #TherapyJoke

Today I found my first shirt/binder combo that makes my chest look flat without obviously outing me. I’m so happy. I was beginning to worry that somehow my body was broken and I would never achieve any sort of masculine look in a cis way. YAY!!!!😊

#Transgender #Nonbinary #Genderfluid #Binder #AFAB

Instead of saying I want to “settle” someplace long term, I’m going to start saying “become part of the local ecosystem.” It decolonizes the idea of living someplace. It emphasizes my interest in community values. And it paints an accurate picture of the fae I want to be, living in nature.

Trans people get abortions

Friendly reminder to use inclusive language when talking about abortion, because trans, nonbinary, and gender-diverse people get abortions too. ☺️ #AbortionIsHealthCare #AbortionIsGenderAffirming

Exciting news: I’ve been selected as a Judge Fellow for the Arlington International Film Festival!!!! 😄😍🥰

#FilmFestival #FilmCritic #FestivalJudge

On this International Day Against Homophobia, Transphobia, and Biphobia, we not only stand with LGBTQIA+ communities — we work to amplify them. That means fighting for sets that mitigate risk, authentic representation, and space for queer artists to tell their own stories.

#IntimacyCoordinator

Diarrhea💩 ——> Menstrual Pad🩸 ——> Gender Dysphoria🧔🏻‍♀️ ——> Anxiety Attack😖

#💩 #GenderDysphoria #Nonbinary #Transgender

Ana (a person) and Zuko (a dog) sit on a mattress on the floor of a van.

Cuties enjoying cuddle time on the bed.

#VanLife #VanConversion #NovaScotiaDuckToller

A dark purple and pink sunset.

Sometimes things are dark, but that doesn’t mean they can’t be beautiful.

#Sunset #Purple #Pink

Our air mattress popped in the middle of the night. We took it as an opportunity to clean out and rearrange the van for our next phase. Feeling very happy with how we spun the situation into a good one. 😊

#VanLife #PositiveSpin

Ann Arbor is the kind of place, where, if you loose your wallet, you are likely to get it back completely in tact - and that makes me happy.

#AnnArbor #Michigan #Safety #Kindness #Honesty

I like the prewiring process. It was intimidating, but it’s actually going really well! We’re about a third of the way done. 😊⚡️🔌

#VanLife #PreWire #Electrical

Fifteen minutes. Three hundred fifty six steps. Thirty five floors.
That’s a three hundred and seventy five percent increase from two weeks ago! 😱💪🏼

#Workout #Exercise #PlannetFitness

A hand holds a dandelion with multiple heads and a finer stem about 1” in diameter.

Mutant dandelion. Or is it just a different variety?

#Plants #Dandelion

A watercolor painting of the Rio Grande winding through hills on its way to Albuquerque.

A picture of the Rio Grande winding through hills on its way to Albuquerque.

My third watercolor painting, and I can already see the improvement! I don’t know if this one is done yet or not, but I’m happy with it either way. 😊

#Watercolor #Landscape #RioGrande #Painting

New holes in the van means a step in the right direction. Electrical wiring, here we come!

#VanBuild #VanConversion #VanLife