Aigerim Alpysbekova

Wasn’t part of my plan, but here’s a short version of my speech: Who Am I....

Why Most People Can’t Handle Their Own Company Personal Perspective: Most of us fill our lives with people we don’t truly need. Choosing to be alone, fully, honestly, can be the bravest thing you do.

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Acculturation Through an Ecological Perspective and the Emergence of Eco-Acculturation Theory This article introduces Eco-Acculturation Theory, which incorporates climate, natural ecosystems, and environmental challenges into existing models of migrant adjustment. Drawing from my personal m...

Started this autoethnography in 2023. Rejected 4 times. Finally published in 2026.
It’s my own story of Eco- Acculturation.
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The Selves We Show the World Explore how identity, repression, and creativity shape who we are and where the line between growth and pathology lies.

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Should You Start Dating Right After a Breakup? Discover what happens to your brain, why heartbreak feels unbearable, and how long it really takes to heal before moving on.

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Inner Death: The Death We Don’t Talk About Discover how facing what dies inside you can free your true self, reshape your relationships, and help you feel fully alive again.

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The Psychology Behind Repeating Relationship Patterns This article is about boundaries in relationships and repeating relationship patterns

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I Am No One, and That's Changed Everything Feeling defined by roles and expectations? Letting go of fixed identities can free your mind, creativity, and relationships.

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Why Do I Feel Lonely With People I Love? Identity shifts and connection styles shape intimacy. Being seen matters more than being surrounded.

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The Silent Revenge That Slowly Kills Relationships Unspoken anger doesn’t vanish; it reshapes relationships. Silence, control, and quiet resentment slowly replace connection. Choosing honesty can create change.

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Are You in a Situationship With Your Life? Remaining stuck in your relationship, job, or life can feel complicated, but you start living fully again.

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Who Am I? The Quiet Identity Crisis Almost Everyone Has Feel trapped by expectations? Learn how your roles shape you and how noticing discomfort can help you act from your true self.

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Why We Are Afraid to Love Fully and How It Shapes Us Personal Perspective: Why avoiding pain keeps us half-alive in love, and how embracing vulnerability can transform your relationships and personal growth.

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The Adulthood Dilemma of Staying True to Yourself Personal Perspective: Sometimes the quiet we create to keep others comfortable costs us our own truth. This is what it takes to find yourself again without walking away from love.

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The Science of Affecting Others Without Words Your silent presence shapes others’ emotions, influences relationships, and becomes one of your most powerful human skills.

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Escaping the Safety of Distraction Ever wonder why we binge-watch, scroll endlessly, or cheer for teams we don’t know? Discover what our love of entertainment reveals about who we really are.

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The Hard Part of Parenting Is Seeing Yourself in the Mirror Personal Perspective: Raising a teen challenged everything I believed about parenting—until I realized I wasn’t just guiding her, I was healing the girl I used to be.

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How Ego Tricks You Into Believing It's You What if the things you spend most of your time on don’t actually matter in the end? This is a wake-up call to rethink what you’re nurturing—your ego or your core self.

Originally titled “If You Died Tomorrow, Would Your Soul Be Light or Heavy?” — it got REJECTED.

This version made it through, and it still resonates.

An essential read in Psychology Today.

Give it a moment. You might need it.

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Am I Being Toxic in My Relationship Without Realizing It? Ever wonder why you swing between feeling deeply connected and shutting down in relationships? Discover how trauma shapes these patterns—and how to heal.

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Alpysbekova et al., 2025. Anticipatory grief and perseverative worry: Psychological impacts on Ukrainian migrants from the 2022 Russian invasion. Psychological trauma : theory, research, practice and policy, 10.1037/tra0002024. Advance online publication. doi.org/10.1037/tra0...

Anticipatory grief and perseverative worry: Psychological impacts on Ukrainian migrants from the 2022 Russian invasion - PubMed Ukrainian migrants face a complex spectrum of trauma and emotional distress, influenced by their ongoing connection to a conflict zone and by constant worry for their families' safety. (PsycInfo Datab...

Our new study (Alpysbekova et al., 2024) explores anticipatory grief and perseverative worry in crisis migrants displaced by the war in Ukraine — and why naming them matters.
#wartrauma #mentalhealth

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Who Are You Without the Job, the Culture, or the Passport? What if your mind isn’t in your brain, but in the quiet awareness beneath all roles, labels, and noise? This piece explores who you are when all identities fall away.

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Does Having More Friends Mean You're More Loved or Lost? Personal Perspective: Are your friendships feeding your soul—or just filling space? The quiet truth about outgrowing people and why fewer, deeper connections may matter most.

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How Far Should Compassion Go—Even Toward the Abusive? What if the people we label as “too much” are really just wounded souls in disguise? This post explores how love, presence, and boundaries can reach even the hardest hearts.

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The Science of Intuition What if your gut feeling wasn’t just emotion, but real intelligence? Discover how intuition works through your body and mind.

Why Your Gut May Know the Truth Before Your Mind Does. My new piece :)

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Presented at IAIR & IACCP 2025 Conference (Brisbane, Australia). Grateful to contribute to global dialogue on trauma & migration!

Spiritual Rituals and Coercive Relationships When love feels heavy, confusing, or controlled by rituals, it may not be love at all. This is the hidden trauma behind spiritual manipulation.

The original title was “This Isn’t a Love Spell. It’s Trauma,” but it got changed. We need more research on how spiritual practices show up in relationships. There’s often no proof—just a feeling. Maybe we need new language or frameworks to talk about them.

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(1/2) Can acts of kindness be things that we already planned to do, and still be effective? 🤲🏼🧐

Acts of kindness are most effective if we don't already have to do them (for example, if one already agreed to take a family member to an appointment).

Thank you!!!

Love Thrives When We're Open to Pain Avoiding pain might feel like protection—but it could be the reason you’re not feeling love fully. Here’s how pain can be the key to deeper connection and healing.

My new piece just went up on Psychology Today. I originally titled it "Love Thrives in Pain", but they always tweak the titles—part of the editorial process, I guess. Still, the heart of it remains.

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