John Predmore

Communicating when angry

Communicating when we are angry

The marathon training continues

I was on the local NBC news for gift wrapping

May we offer you a gift? Please let us at Chorus North Shore sing for you as we prepare for Advent, Christmas, or Hanukkah. Come celebrate in song and joy as 120 voices and orchestra make your season a little brighter. It is a gift that you will delight your senses.

Ignatius at Advent

Sold. I will miss this painting and yet I’m glad that my friends will have it.

Use exploratory questions for your Thanksgiving conversations. Set the groundwork for what and how you discuss.

Let’s recognize that control is an illusion

November First Friday: Come on down

If you compare, you despair

Seeing the alternatives when someone says No

With a compassionate request, make the request answerable “now.”

Make your compassionate request as specific and clear as possible.

Let’s turn our demands into compassionate requests and see the positive results.

Slow down the conversation by asking for more time.

When we are angry, the brain puts us in a position to do something rather than to think. We must slow down so we can think clearly.

Whoa! Slow it down.

When you analyze someone's words or actions, you are not practicing empathy.

When people try to explain or defend, they are not practicing empathy.

Enough with the questions. Interrogation and Fact Finding are not practices of empathy.

Sympathy is distinct from empathy.

Empathy does not try to fix or to counsel people.

Discounting and Dismissing is not Empathy.

Give advice only when you are explicitly asked for it.

Comparing and one-upping is not empathy

Things we do when we think we are empathetic.

Empathy is the practice that brings me to compassion.

Repetition and Practice make it easier for us to identify our needs and feelings.