Oontz Oontz

Very succinct and real, I hear you

Yeah mannn but I put him on to that coffee shop and I out him onto my neighborhood that shit suuuuucks

Is posting about this messy, unsightly, and cringe? 100%

I’m just so pissed
5 year relationship down the drain with no warning or talks ab him feeling dissatisfied and now I can’t grab coffee in my own neighborhood without running into them while they’re on dates

Update for those who perceived me talking ab my breakup

He had an affair, asked to be poly “bc theres less pressure on you to be perfect” and when I said no he left me for the other guy

Theyre still together and they go to all my neighborhood spots but says “it’s up to you if we can be friends”

I feel like ai probably could which has me shaking in my booties

Some divas I collaged today

Hope you have a good comic con!!!!

Omg hey!! I knewww your name was Tyler but was looking on Twitter!

Oh my goddd

Helllll yeah

🙃

Sending good energy friend 💛

Everyone’s very sweet and supportive thank you for everyone who engaged with me and help me collect my thoughts a bit

I don’t think that’s fair to say across the board even if some situations DO play out like this one

Some prize indeed..

Thank you for the kind words friend :)

So true

I only wanted the opinions of people who would engage in good faith

Thank you for this!!

Having known poly people of varying ages and experience throughout my life
this is sort of what I thought/ took away from their experiences, like it’s about expanding upon bountiful love not like “here’s my other boyfriend so you don’t feel pressure to be adequate”

That’s the vibe and it’s frustrating to me that he thinks he’s being reasonable and fair

He does not hence why I’m talking about this here..

Also -almost- no one here knows me irl

Thankfully I know the answers to all of these questions and we’ve dug into all of it, we spent 4 hours talking about it last night

I mean I don’t wanna just take that much of your time and attention on a whim but any and all thoughts are welcome friend 😌

I agree it is fraught this these two conversations are happening in tandem

You may be on to something but Im trying to extend him the same grace he is hopefully extending me

Well he wants me to have a new job that makes enough money that I can move in with him and split bills, like he wants a traditional partnership in that sense

Well one argument is that it gives me more wiggle room to do things at my own pace while he feels less trapped waiting for me to make progress

I’ve been moving towards applying for grad school but it’s been hard getting the prof refs bc I graduated in 2020

Well he says he wants to be able to root for me and help me with career moves but I’ve had decision paralysis on which direction to head in