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Happening TOMORROW! Still time to sign up for the Kink & Non-Monogamy Conference — I will be presenting RACK, RASH, & RJ, a workshop on creating safer spaces within BDSM/kink community from a restorative justice perspective.

Register here: www.kissandtellmagazine.com/shop/confere...

Sex, Lies, and The Telepathy Tapes Facilitated Communication, Abuse, and Magical Ableism

Have you heard The Telepathy Tapes? This wildly popular podcast seems to present compelling evidence that non-speaking autistic people can communicate telepathically, but what’s really going on, and how might it be promoting potentially harmful practices?

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Have you ever wanted to go to a sex positive event, but aren’t sure how to find them or what to expect when you get there? Check out my latest Substack post to learn more!

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I often find myself wishing there was an antidote to all of the garbage advice about dating geared at men. So I decided to roll up my sleeves and offer some advice myself.

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When most folks hear the word "consent," they often think it's mostly about some version of "getting permission". That is important, but it's also a bare minimum for relating.

When we say "consent" we mean something much richer!

It’s a rough watch! I found it to be a lot heavier than season one.

♾️💜

In my Sexuality and Society class last semester, we covered the topic of fantasy. Most people are fine with having fantasies and never acting them out. Your fantasies are fine, even if you’d never do it in real life!

"He wouldn't do that to ME..." What years of studying trauma and domestic violence have taught me about survivor psychology - and what to do about it.

Yes, this! I wrote about this exact thing recently: open.substack.com/pub/jmpurnel...

Curious about how to navigate having a genuinely pleasurable sexual experience but not sure where to start? I share some insights and tips based on my years of experience as a sexuality professional!

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Customers at the Stonewall Inn in 1969. They are notably young and many of them are people of colour.

Pride Month commemorates the Stonewall Riots, which began in the early hours of 28 June 1969.
Patrons of the Stonewall Inn, a mob-run, low rent gay bar in the West Village of Manhattan said, “Enough!” to Police raids.
Prominent among the rioters were trans women, drag queens, dykes and sex workers.

Say hi to the Mid-Atlantic for me!

These issues often get collapsed together, but it’s possible to both oppose trafficking and support rights for sex workers! ☂️❤️

Damn it’s almost like this shit is always a losing proposition for women…

The story of Adriana Smith and her medical autonomy and choice to give birth (or not) being taken from her is deeply disturbing, however is very much situated in the historical roots of anti-blackness and misogyny (misogynoir) in the medical field. open.substack.com/pub/jmpurnel...

My heart is broken by the decision to allow states to ban trans care for young people. However, I’ve lived long enough to see tides turn over and over, and this isn’t the end. Trans people are here, trans youth are loved. This regime can’t permanently change that, just throw up temporary obstacles.

Yay! Thanks for the post 🌈

So exciting to get a shout-out from @cuddlist.bsky.social! 😁

The loneliness epidemic has made the world feel smaller, but touch and connection can give a sense of belonging and being seen.

Detransition fear mongers often skip over this point.

Absolutely surreal to be in LA for a wedding today of all days. My family and I are gonna at least tune in for the livestream!

Not able to march with us tomorrow? Tune into the livestream!

June 14th starting at 9:30am PST, hosted by Jessica Denson of Lights On.

Everyone has a role in this fight: tinyurl.com/50501LiveStr...

#lightson #iceoutofla #fiftyfiftyone #socal #losangeles #losangelesprotest #live

This looks awesome!

What am I up to the next few months, you ask?! It’s so exciting to be working with such awesome orgs and collaborators! If you’re interested in having me come to your org for a workshop or are looking for a keynote for your upcoming event, please reach out: julesmpurnell.com or linktr.ee/jmpurnell

Love Dr. Eli Sheff’s work!

What is the triadic model? Simply put, it’s when two professionals and a client collaborate on the client’s goals. This is broadly applied to touch therapy when a client’s “neck-up” therapy requires additional support from a touch pro.

Exciting announcement! I’m launching my new intimacy coaching practice and can’t wait to book new clients! Feeling adrift and like you could use some time to connect with your body? Hoping to overcome shame/anxiety related to touch? Check out my new website and book with me! julesintimacycoach.com

Next Week! Register for Understanding Non-Monogamies: ENM & Libido Differences. Great for therapists and educators or folks who are curious to understand more about the intersection of things like polyamory and asexuality. June 12th, 6:30-8pm EST

Link: www.eventbrite.com/e/understand...

YouTube video by Jules Purnell Sexuality Mini-Lecture Series - Agriculture & Monogamy

If you’ve been around me for longer than 45 minutes, you’ve probably heard me (very glibly) say “Agriculture was a mistake!” In this video I dig into the connection between agriculture and monogamy with a side quest into the roots of patriarchy:

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