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Jules (they/them)

@jmpurnell.bsky.social

Sexuality Educator | Intimacy Coach | Restorative Justice | Speaker & Writer πŸ–€πŸŒΏβœ¨ https://linktr.ee/jmpurnell

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Conference - K&NM - Jules - Kiss & Tell Magazine

Happening TOMORROW! Still time to sign up for the Kink & Non-Monogamy Conference β€” I will be presenting RACK, RASH, & RJ, a workshop on creating safer spaces within BDSM/kink community from a restorative justice perspective.

Register here: www.kissandtellmagazine.com/shop/confere...

16.10.2025 13:06 β€” πŸ‘ 2    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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Sex, Lies, and The Telepathy Tapes Facilitated Communication, Abuse, and Magical Ableism

Have you heard The Telepathy Tapes? This wildly popular podcast seems to present compelling evidence that non-speaking autistic people can communicate telepathically, but what’s really going on, and how might it be promoting potentially harmful practices?

jmpurnell.substack.com/p/sex-lies-a...

07.08.2025 18:24 β€” πŸ‘ 3    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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Have you ever wanted to go to a sex positive event, but aren’t sure how to find them or what to expect when you get there? Check out my latest Substack post to learn more!

open.substack.com/pub/jmpurnel...

01.08.2025 14:07 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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I often find myself wishing there was an antidote to all of the garbage advice about dating geared at men. So I decided to roll up my sleeves and offer some advice myself.

open.substack.com/pub/jmpurnel...

12.07.2025 14:29 β€” πŸ‘ 2    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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When most folks hear the word "consent," they often think it's mostly about some version of "getting permission". That is important, but it's also a bare minimum for relating.

When we say "consent" we mean something much richer!

11.07.2025 20:17 β€” πŸ‘ 2    πŸ” 1    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0

It’s a rough watch! I found it to be a lot heavier than season one.

12.07.2025 11:39 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0

β™ΎοΈπŸ’œ

07.07.2025 16:08 β€” πŸ‘ 2    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

In my Sexuality and Society class last semester, we covered the topic of fantasy. Most people are fine with having fantasies and never acting them out. Your fantasies are fine, even if you’d never do it in real life!

06.07.2025 11:54 β€” πŸ‘ 2    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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"He wouldn't do that to ME..." What years of studying trauma and domestic violence have taught me about survivor psychology - and what to do about it.

Yes, this! I wrote about this exact thing recently: open.substack.com/pub/jmpurnel...

06.07.2025 11:52 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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Curious about how to navigate having a genuinely pleasurable sexual experience but not sure where to start? I share some insights and tips based on my years of experience as a sexuality professional!

open.substack.com/pub/jmpurnel...

30.06.2025 15:16 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
Customers at the Stonewall Inn in 1969. They are notably young and many of them are people of colour.

Customers at the Stonewall Inn in 1969. They are notably young and many of them are people of colour.

Pride Month commemorates the Stonewall Riots, which began in the early hours of 28 June 1969.
Patrons of the Stonewall Inn, a mob-run, low rent gay bar in the West Village of Manhattan said, β€œEnough!” to Police raids.
Prominent among the rioters were trans women, drag queens, dykes and sex workers.

01.06.2025 12:07 β€” πŸ‘ 315    πŸ” 98    πŸ’¬ 10    πŸ“Œ 9

Say hi to the Mid-Atlantic for me!

26.06.2025 20:40 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

These issues often get collapsed together, but it’s possible to both oppose trafficking and support rights for sex workers! β˜‚οΈβ€οΈ

25.06.2025 00:08 β€” πŸ‘ 2    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

Damn it’s almost like this shit is always a losing proposition for women…

24.06.2025 22:03 β€” πŸ‘ 8    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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The story of Adriana Smith and her medical autonomy and choice to give birth (or not) being taken from her is deeply disturbing, however is very much situated in the historical roots of anti-blackness and misogyny (misogynoir) in the medical field. open.substack.com/pub/jmpurnel...

21.06.2025 01:32 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

My heart is broken by the decision to allow states to ban trans care for young people. However, I’ve lived long enough to see tides turn over and over, and this isn’t the end. Trans people are here, trans youth are loved. This regime can’t permanently change that, just throw up temporary obstacles.

19.06.2025 14:55 β€” πŸ‘ 2    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

Yay! Thanks for the post 🌈

18.06.2025 20:20 β€” πŸ‘ 2    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

So exciting to get a shout-out from @cuddlist.bsky.social! 😁

18.06.2025 20:20 β€” πŸ‘ 2    πŸ” 1    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

The loneliness epidemic has made the world feel smaller, but touch and connection can give a sense of belonging and being seen.

17.06.2025 13:33 β€” πŸ‘ 2    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

Detransition fear mongers often skip over this point.

16.06.2025 02:24 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

Absolutely surreal to be in LA for a wedding today of all days. My family and I are gonna at least tune in for the livestream!

14.06.2025 14:14 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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Not able to march with us tomorrow? Tune into the livestream!

June 14th starting at 9:30am PST, hosted by Jessica Denson of Lights On.

Everyone has a role in this fight: tinyurl.com/50501LiveStr...

#lightson #iceoutofla #fiftyfiftyone #socal #losangeles #losangelesprotest #live

13.06.2025 21:21 β€” πŸ‘ 136    πŸ” 55    πŸ’¬ 3    πŸ“Œ 1

This looks awesome!

13.06.2025 21:04 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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What am I up to the next few months, you ask?! It’s so exciting to be working with such awesome orgs and collaborators! If you’re interested in having me come to your org for a workshop or are looking for a keynote for your upcoming event, please reach out: julesmpurnell.com or linktr.ee/jmpurnell

12.06.2025 15:40 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

Love Dr. Eli Sheff’s work!

11.06.2025 23:13 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0

What is the triadic model? Simply put, it’s when two professionals and a client collaborate on the client’s goals. This is broadly applied to touch therapy when a client’s β€œneck-up” therapy requires additional support from a touch pro.

06.06.2025 21:26 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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06.06.2025 21:23 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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Exciting announcement! I’m launching my new intimacy coaching practice and can’t wait to book new clients! Feeling adrift and like you could use some time to connect with your body? Hoping to overcome shame/anxiety related to touch? Check out my new website and book with me! julesintimacycoach.com

06.06.2025 16:11 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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Next Week! Register for Understanding Non-Monogamies: ENM & Libido Differences. Great for therapists and educators or folks who are curious to understand more about the intersection of things like polyamory and asexuality. June 12th, 6:30-8pm EST

Link: www.eventbrite.com/e/understand...

05.06.2025 12:45 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
Sexuality Mini-Lecture Series - Agriculture & Monogamy
YouTube video by Jules Purnell Sexuality Mini-Lecture Series - Agriculture & Monogamy

If you’ve been around me for longer than 45 minutes, you’ve probably heard me (very glibly) say β€œAgriculture was a mistake!” In this video I dig into the connection between agriculture and monogamy with a side quest into the roots of patriarchy:

youtu.be/BpVcO9XNc14?...

04.06.2025 15:26 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0