Kiri Allan

Ps - tax is love. Super important. Just learning all the rules as new business owner. And for purposes of distraction!!

I’m now distracting myself from the Barnsey debacle by looking at the ird site to work out what is appropriately tax deductible. 🤷🏽

Game changer after red card. Can now imagine half time yarn with be focussed on lifting spirits of ABs and motivating psyche of player to focus on their strengths for remaining 40.

Holy shiz. Saw the emotion on Sam’s face. Didn’t anticipate that. This is going to be a mental game for 45min. First ever 🟥 in RWC final. Moreso for the captain. Straight into scoring opportunity for ABs - that has to lift morale.

2 yellow cards in less then 30min. IMO one was rubbish, but one was legit. Can imagine half time chats are going to pretty ‘robust’.

Barnesy starts us off with a classic Barnsey. 🥴

On the stats, BFs should be winning BUT FOR THE FACT of the French epic tackle rate.

I so wish I was going to that game!!! Shall enjoy your SM commentary while cheering from the mighty East Coast though!!

My pleasure! Happy long weekend!

Tunnels are funny ole places, huh! Best part is you get to be quiet and hide for a little bit… and when you’re ready to emerge, you can 🤍

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100% - love this. 🤍

Completely get that. I’m also at this point where I think the lows have ‘refined’ me - in that they can be completely transformative pivots to take us back home to ourselves if we let them. Ya know? The shitty times were shit. Don’t get me wrong! But what an opportunity that has turned out to be. 🤍

Grateful for the gentle folk, of which there are many more then the other kinds folk. Ngā mihi e te tuahine 🤍

Wise words for us all 🙏🏽

Hey! It’s so cool seeing so many BC’ers out there doing our thing. DF and I caught up recently and it was just fun. Hope you’re doing well my mate X

That’s the place I’d want us all to live in. Our kids deserve it :)

Completely my friend - being just silent in the same place can be a game changer.

Aē e hoa, kōina!

Thanks, and hope it’s all going ok! It does, but heartbreak was just the end of a crappy ride following tonnes of health crap and all the other stuff happening in life. Thank you!! ❤️

*excuse the typos - sick kid on me sleeping so one handed typing is what I’ve got! 😂

Just some random reckons which may or may not land or be helpful. But leaning in when the tunnel is dark feels so bloody hard… and as trite as it is to say, is the best gift you can ever give to yourself.

Happy long weekend whānau!

TRIGGER WARNING *self-harm

5. If you feel your absence in the world is best thing for your kids, your whānau and the people you love - as much as you feel you’re right & the world would be easier for them all - it won’t be. It will shatter them. You are loved, you are wanted and you are needed. ❤️

4. If you’re feeling deeply alone in your spirit, soul and mind - I promise you, you’re not alone. You’re not as shit as you’re head is telling you. And you will get through this, whatever ‘this’ is. You are worth of love, life and being whole.

3. Feelings are temporary - let them wash over and bring yourself back to centre / the present. What can you see? What can you hear? What can you physically feel? What can you smell? Bring yourself into right now. Your head doesn’t have to always be the boss.

2. Compassion - loving yourself is shitty and hard esp if you’ve got crazy unprocessed trauma to deal with it. But go easy on you - loads of others out in the world will be stink to you, so be you no. 1 cheerleader. You are a child of God & aspirations of your ancestors. Loving you is loving them.

Top tips if life feels like rubbish I’ve had to learn pretty quick.

1. As crap as it feels, try finding even one person you trust to just have your back. Go hide. Go cry. Go fall apart. With someone who just loves you for you.

Now, don’t get me wrong - election results were terrible (apart from a few little highlights) and what’s happening in Gaza is horrific. BUT, I’m all about celebrating the wins when I see them atm. So thought I’d share given I don’t really hang on many other SM sites these days.

This week has been the first week I’ve genuinely felt joy and peace in such a calm, genuine way. The early part of this year shattered me into a 1000 pieces (the crash was the end of a long road most folk didn’t see), but the healing has been the most incredible journey. #FindingJoy #FeelsGood 🙏🏽🥹❤️

Cheers :)