The Link of Ancient Greece and Toxic Masculinity The False Stoic

I decided to decode how modern stoicism has warped the true philosophy and the harm it does to men in this current climate. Come give it a read and tell me your thoughts!

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The 12 Steps Conflict for Addiction Recovery in Neurodivergence Where I see the flaws

The 12 Steps Conflict for Addiction Recovery in Neurodivergence

Come explore with me where I see a flaw in this service.

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Addiction and neurodiversity need a better connection My personal thoughts on services provided for addiction

So, I've done a thing. I wasn't expecting to do a thing but I did. If you could give it a read and let me know how you feel about it and if you'd like more. Thanks!

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Abusers does a disservice.

Now obviously I am still learning so I hope that I can learn a lot more and make a lot more sense of this. And at the same time process the fact that my mother might just be a cruel person that enjoys hurting people for their own satisfaction. After all abuse is a choice.

The demonising of this condition makes it hard for them to seek out help, and if we are being honest, it's got additional layers of ablesim and saneism.

We see similar when talking about the autism spectrum or ADHD or the combination of the two. Not every human is the same and marking all as

I placed all emphasis on this possible condition. I can understand that a lot better if she has that. The problem is that there removes a scary element to it. Choice.

There are loads of people with NPD and they don't abuse or hurt people, they have to navigate the world and deal with this alone.

And there was the typical blame game that came from that. "You made me do that!" "If you behaved better that wouldn't have happened!" "You should be grateful for a home and a loving mother!"

All that stuff and more. With access to the Internet, studying psychology, and needing a reason,

Many of us have experienced some form of abuse, usually from those that are supposed to love us and to protect ourselves and make it make sense we use labels and pretty boxes with boys.

My mother put myself and my sister through mental, emotional and occasionally physical abuse.

The problem comes in the way we discuss abuse and the access to the language on the Internet. I too have been guilty of it. I personally have marked my mother up as a narcissist because it fits a very nice box in how myself and my sister were treated buy her as children. But is it accurate?

I've been having soke thoughts and those thoughts have been wonderfully addressed by some creators over on Threads.

The rhetoric or language used when discussing narcissistic personality disorder or NPD, is being excessively harmful.

I am sure the folks on the Internet will be surprised!

And shut it down as hard as they can. Keeping them angry so they continue to isolate and need a place to demand respect and obedience because that's their love language. And it's so dark and damning that they do it. My goal is to address this and open spaces for men to talk honestly and freely.

Discovered that the concepts of stoicism is actually to process your feelings, not repress them. But that is not what is getting taught to young lads these days and it makes grifters like red pill broflakes have an easy target audience. They latch on to the anger and need for expression

And yet each and everyone one of them if something was said in the wrong tone would lead to outbursts of violence that they then cried about and blamed other people for. Now, as I've gotten older and sober, had my own spat but no violence or abuse from me. I've done healing and learning.

My brain. Especially when my mother remarried abusive men. The pattern they I noticed with each of them is that they didn't talk about their feelings and that the concept of respect was obedience. That they were 'stoic', their word. They were real men because they weren't bogged down by feelings.

It down. As I grew up it was referred to as manning up, I started hearing and learning this phrase from 9 years old, when my parents divorced and I was announced as head of the house. The burden of responsibility placed on a child to protect an abuser and my little sister. Now this obviously had an

Understanding that I felt my emotions deeply. What I didn't have was guidance on how to process them. I was raised by an alcoholic and abusive mother and an emotionally unavailable father. And during that time was the first introductions to emotional suppression. To silencing my mind and shutting

Let's have a little talk about how I see that mens mental health has been warped from stoicism into what gets called stoic behaviour.

Growing up I have always been quite in tune with who I was and how I felt. With a strong sense of fairness to others. What I had to deal with was the backlash of

As long as what he wants to be isn't a nazi, I'm down for that.

As someone who's great grandfather's fought in the war for Britain, I would ask it to be a civic duty to do so. Especially with the words.

Honestly, I hope the day has been a bit better. Seeing all of this in the UK is a massive cause for concern.

Bonjour!

Or I could make the point that my grandma told me to never have your arm completely straight as that's what the nazi's did. Be more relaxed and friendly.

Don't fucking salute!!!

So I'm going to be starting to post in here a lot more. So for my first post. I'm Tom from the UK. I'm studying to become a therapist and active roller derby player. I'll chat about both and cooking.

I'm also making it clear that Nazi's are apparently gaining confidence so here is my stance.

Brushing teeth songs are also seriously infectious to the mind.