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Etiquetteer would like to wish you a #PerfectlyProper #WorldKindnessDay.

Etiquette has changed a lot in the last 50 years, to be used less as a tool for exclusion and more as a way to include as many people as possible in pleasant community.

We can all of us do better. When in doubt, #bekind.

Tips for Holiday Orphans, Vol. 24, Issue 34 — Etiquetteer The Time of Great Feasts is almost upon us; November 27 is Thanksgiving this year, less than three weeks away. So right about now hosts will start checking in with friends, relations, and colleagues w...

Have you been a Holiday Orphan? Etiquetteer has a few tips for how to get through a Great Feast with someone else's family.

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#etiquette #manners #thanksgiving

Seasonal Decorations, Vol. 24, Issue 33 — Etiquetteer “To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven.” — Ecclesiastes 3:1 “It’s decorative gourd season, [Insert Excessive Profanity Here].” — Colin Nissan, McSweeney’...

Now that #Halloween has passed, Etiquetteer meditates on the seasons of seasonal decorations, Christmas Creep, and when it's #PerfectlyProper to start listening to Mariah Carey.

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#etiquette #manners #decorativegourdseason

Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper Hallowe'en.

Etiquetteer Reviews Clarissa: Muse to Power, Vol. 24, Issue 32 — Etiquetteer Hugo Vickers became Cecil Beaton’s biographer* partly at the recommendation of a woman who became a mutual friend, the subject of his latest work, Clarissa, Muse to Power: The Untold Story of Clariss...

Today Etiquetteer takes a look at Clarissa: Muse to Power, the new biography of Clarissa Eden by Hugo Vickers:

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#etiquette #manners #bookreview #greatbritain #politicallife

Etiquetteer Tours the White House, Vol. 14, Issue 41 — Etiquetteer Last week Etiquetteer had the great good fortune to tour the White House , and would like to recommend that you do so as well. Requests for White House tours are handled through the offices of your e...

For #FlashbackFriday, and considering the demolition of the East Wing, let's go back in time to #2015 and Etiquetteer's tour of the #WhiteHouse:

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#etiquette #manners #obamaadministration

Today Etiquetteer sympathizes with a reader who believes a meal should be shared — even if that means waiting to start until everyone has been served:

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#etiquette #manners #tablemanners #patience

Bless You! Vol. 24, Issue 30 — Etiquetteer Dear Etiquetteer: What can we do about the, to me, ridiculous need to say “bless you” when someone sneezes — even when it’s someone in the audience saying it to someone on stage at a conference who i...

A reader has HAD IT with people who say "Bless you!" after someone sneezes. Etiquetteer shares wisdom from Dear Mother, and more.

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#etiquette #manners #achoo #sneezing #patience

a black and white photo of a man in a pinstripe worsted suit, white shirt, and textured necktie. the tie has a nice dimple under the knot.

a photo of donald trump upside down. there is also a nice dimple on his red tie

when you tie a tie, try to put in a dimple, like so

National Dessert Day, Vol. 19, Issue 59 — Etiquetteer Etiquetteer will admit to feeling a little down this morning, looking at an empty inbox bereft of queries. But then a glance at the calendar brought the sunshine, because October 14 is National Desser...

Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper National Dessert Day with some Rhapsodic Wax from Volume 19:

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#etiquette #manners #mignardise

YouTube video by World Control A HANDBAG??! (high quality)

If it's October 10, then it must be time for Etiquetteer to wish you a Perfectly Proper National Handbag Day with the traditional posting of Dame Edith Evans as Lady Bracknell.

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#etiquette #manners #handbag #handbagday #theimportanceofbeingearnest #linereading

Too Many Photos, Vol. 24, Issue 29 — Etiquetteer Dear Etiquetteer: What should I do when trapped with someone who wants to show me ALL THEIR VACATION PHOTOS? I was at a party not long ago where someone had just checked something off his bucket lis...

Have you been trapped by someone eager to show you every single photo on their phone? Etiquetteer recommends a weapon in the Etiquette Arsenal to help extricate yourself.

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#etiquette #manners #kindness

Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper National Orange Wine Day. No, it's not made from oranges, silly! In winemaking, when the grape skins are not removed from white wine grapes, the resulting color is this delicate orange or amber. Serve as you would other white wines. #delicious

"Punctuality is the politeness of kings."

Asking About Scent, Vol. 24, Issue 28 — Etiquetteer Dear Etiquetteer: Is it rude to inquire of someone, upon expressing admiration for the scent that they are wearing, what the name of the scent is? When I was working in a downtown office, the boss’s ...

Is it rude to ask someone about their scent? Etiquetteer offers an opinion, and of course has to drag in Charlotte Vale and Nancy Mitford:

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#etiquette #manners #perfume #cologne #mystery #discretion

Etiquette for the End of Civilization, Vol. 24, Issue 27 — Etiquetteer “I guess things like hands and ladies don’t matter so much any more.” — Carreen O’Hara “Let all things be done decently and in order.” — Corinthians I 14:40 “Where are we going, and why am I in ...

Etiquetteer is just in a dire mood today considering the Current State of things. This column is little more than a daydream of old etiquette books, current examples of heckling, and the need for all of us to represent the behavior we most want to see. #manners

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How exciting! You could also summon John Singer Sargent from there . . . ❤️

Passion IS exhausting . . . and rarely #PerfectlyProper. That must be why we love it so, and seek it out.

How marvelous that you enacted this, and at the Café Royal! That's why I referred to "Gentlemen of the Oscar Wilde Sort" in my post 😉. I like to wear mine every Saint Patrick's Day in defiance of all the Irish-American homophobes.

Do you prefer Dorian Gray, Mrs. Erlynne, or Mrs. Cheveley?

Some restaurants do, and most welcome it is indeed.

Which only proves that a queen's heart is as blind as anyone else's, alas.

Bravo, that's the spirit! What could be more #PerfectlyProper?

At home I use mugs on weekdays and break out the large “breakfast coffee” cups from the good china on weekends.

Etiquetteer would like to wish you a #PerfectlyProper #nationalcoffeeday. The problem with a #coffee mug is, where do you put the spoon if there's no saucer? It's bad manners to put used silverware directly onto the table. Maybe it's time to Bring Back the Saucer?

#etiquette #manners #tablemanners

Invitation Basics, Vol. 24, Issue 26 — Etiquetteer Let’s think about our invitations today, as it will soon be time to think about holiday parties, both giving and going to them. As you create your invitation, use a Who What When Where checklist to b...

Today Etiquetteer offers a checklist of invitation basics before you start sending out your holiday party invitations. It’s never to early to consider the details.

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Quite possibly one of the most disgusting things one can see or hear on #publictransportation is someone clipping their fingernails. Faugh! For the sake of Perfect Propriety, don’t leave home until your grooming is complete.

#etiquette #manners #decency #courtesy

"My husband lets me play" is the new "My wife doesn't understand me." 🙄

#etiquette #manners #adultery

Blocking Nazis, trolls, and fascists doesn’t make it an “echo chamber.” People need to stop gaslighting us into thinking we have to listen to Nazis and debate trolls in order to be informed.

Richard Cromwell, briefly Mr. Angela Lansbury.

"Why Aunt Belle, I wouldn't dream of denyin' any subjects to my guests." And we see what the result of THAT was . . .