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Bridal Getaway Cars, Vol. 25, Issue 11 — Etiquetteer As we approach the end of National Weddings Month, let’s look at a neglected area of wedding etiquette, the getaway car. It has been many years since Etiquetteer observed or participated in preparat...

For the end of #nationalweddingsmonth, Etiquetteer looks at a neglected area of #wedding #etiquette: the getaway car.

Could shrimp in the hubcaps be Perfectly Proper?!

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#manners #weddings

Neighbors, Vol. 25, Issue 10 — Etiquetteer Dear Etiquetteer: My neighbors, a couple and their middle-school-age daughter, moved in about a year ago. At Christmas, they brought my husband and me some cupcakes and other holiday foods. We wrote ...

Today Etiquetteer advises a reader on how to manage the awkwardness of periodic food gifts from new neighbors who don't speak the same language:

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#etiquette #manners #neighborhood #neighborliness

Wine, Vol. 25, Issue 9 — Etiquetteer   Come, fill the Cup, and in the Fire of Spring The Winter Garment of Repentance fling: The Bird of Time has but a little way To fly—and Lo! the Bird is on the Wing. -- The Rubaiya...

For #nationaldrinkwineday, Etiquetteer offers a few pointers on #wine. Bonus points if you get the James Bond reference.

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#etiquette #manners #drinking

Dinner Is Being Recorded, Whether You Know It or Not

Restaurants are going to have to start posting "Recording with smart glasses is strictly prohibited" signs. What is being described here is Not Perfectly Proper.

#etiquette #manners

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For #PresidentsDay, enjoy this bit about James K. Polk and the #etiquette of shaking hands:

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#manners #handshake

Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper Presidents Day.

Best wishes for a successful outcome in your current struggles!

Thoughts on Gracious Living, Vol. 25, Issue 8 — Etiquetteer Etiquetteer first heard the term “gracious living” in Judith Martin’s wise, stern, but lighthearted Miss Manners’ Guide to Excruciatingly Correct Behavior ; it turns out Mrs. Martin’s major at Welles...

Today Etiquetteer has a few thoughts on #graciousliving, and how it differs from elegant living. (They are not mutually exclusive.)

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#etiquette #manners #courtesy #kindness

"At one point during the match, Mr. Sapienza used a misogynistic vulgarity to describe his opponent’s wife, which her husband took exception to, the arrest affidavit said."

Obviously none of this sordid, vulgar brawl is Perfectly Proper. Etiquetteer hopes the guilty parties get jail time.

How to React to an Unwanted Marriage Proposal in Public Etiquetteer offers some advice on how to react when receiving an unwanted marriage proposal in a public place, such as a restaurant, stadium, or concert hall. A…

Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper Valentine's Day.

From ten years ago, how to deflect an unwanted marriage proposal:

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#etiquette #manners

And remember dahlings, a mint is a hint.

#etiquette #manners #badbreath

If you are planning to mail valentines to anyone special, it is Most Perfectly Proper to get those in the mail today or tomorrow if you want them to arrive by Saturday.

#etiquette #manners #doitinow #valentinesday

Dear Mother (may she rest in peace) always said "If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all."

Some people who didn't like the halftime show ought to reflect on that. "The only thing stronger than hate is #love."

#etiquette #manners #badbunny #superbowl

Public Transportation, Vol. 25, Issue 7 — Etiquetteer My goodness, Etiquetteer certainly struck a nerve when asking Instagram readers what they disliked most about public transportation. Mostly it’s about noise, but it’s all clearly about Other People. I...

Today Etiquetteer looks at the complaints his Instagram readers have about public transportation:

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#etiquette #manners #hellisotherpeople #kindness #getoutoftheway #cellphones #speakerphones #publictransportation #publictransit

A man holds in both hands a footed bowl colored sage green and decorated with white classical figures.

Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper Super Bowl Sunday. Why yes, Dowager Countess, it IS by Wedgwood.

Whether you're watching for the game, the halftime show, the ads, or just to be w/ friends, remember it's just a game, and it's all in good fun.

#etiquette #manners #sportsmanship

"The #dandy enlists distinction — in dress, speech, #manners — along with distance, to create a masterpiece: himself."

— from Chopin's Funeral, by Benita Eisler

#etiquette #dandyism

Ask Wirecutter: How Should I Clear the Piles of Dangerous Snow Off My Car? Don’t be the person with chunks of snow and “ice missiles” flying off the roof of your car.

Don’t be the person with chunks of snow and “ice missiles” flying off the roof of your car.

#heatedrivalry #heatedcourtesy

Public Marriage Proposals, Vol. 25, Issue 6 — Etiquetteer This year Valentine’s Day falls on a Saturday, which to Etiquetteer dramatically raises the possibility of the Public Marriage Proposal. Etiquetteer understands it, of course — the romantic appeal of ...

With the risk of Public Marriage Proposals a little higher this month, Etiquetteer offers a couple alternate solutions that reduce the risk of humiliating anyone in public.

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#etiquette #manners #marriage #public #humiliation

Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper National Strike.

Etiquette Book Oddities, Vol. 25, Issue 5 — Etiquetteer This being the fourth Wednesday in January, it’s Library Shelfie Day according to the National Day Calendar. So what could be more Perfectly Proper than to review some of the, shall we say, rarer ...

This being Library Shelfie Day, let’s take a look at some obscure etiquette titles in Etiquetteer’s library.

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#etiquette #manners #shelfie #libraryshelfieday

Hugging, Vol. 21, Issue 2 — Etiquetteer The classic advice has always been “A gentleman never forces his attention on a lady.” And in the workplace, this classic advice becomes gender neutral and also more behavior specific: a colleague nev...

Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper National Hugging Day with this piece from Volume 21 about hugging, mostly in the workplace. Do you identify as a hugger, or a non-hugger?

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Parental Pride, Vol. 25, Issue 4 — Etiquetteer Dear Etiquetteer: I am a parent of three college students. I am proud of them and if you ask I’ll let you know about their progress. Unfortunately, a friend has only one topic: her children in...

Have you had with parents who can’t stop talking about their children? Today Etiquetteer advises a long-suffering reader on how to redirect a friend who is completely absorbed in the lives of her college-aged offspring.

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#etiquette #manners #bragging

Share a TV show that raised you.

Letter Writing, Vol. 25, Issue 3 — Etiquetteer Universal Letter Writing Week just ended yesterday — oopsie! — but it still gives Etiquetteer an opportunity to discuss that most Perfectly Proper of personal communications, the handwritten letter. ...

Universal Letter Writing Week just ended yesterday, so Etiquetteer is a wee bit late with some thoughts on personal handwritten letters:

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#etiquette #manners #putitinwriting #correspondence

These are dark days, to be sure.

What could be more Perfectly Proper on a Saturday night?

#bathrobe #pastyourbedtime #dinnerparty

It is Not Perfectly Proper to reply all to an email when you have been bcc:d on it.

#businessetiquette #etiquette #manners #fauxpas #menhavebeenhangedforless

"Well, it's not what I would have chosen" says it all without actually saying it.