Apostate Abish

😢 that is terribly sad and I’m so sorry.

Ha! 3 by 20yo is wild. Were your parents happy?

Whoa!

Sorry feels a bit hollow, tbh. But my heart goes out to you.

I’m so sorry. 😪

Love this.

I was in seminary in the 90s too, outside the Mormon belt. Graduated HS in ‘96.

Same. I was taught to believe their marriage was the gold standard love and respect.

I was taught polygamy was restored by JS, but not practiced it like BY did. That he ‘married’ a few women to be obedient but that’s it. That it was a choice women could make. I had zero clue about the teens, the coercion, or sending men on missions and marrying their wives until my 30s.

Congrats!

Rothenburg, Germany. Followed by Innsbruck, Austria.

Wishing you a good recovery!

I understand all these feelings.

Sounds dreamy!

Thank you, Alli. 💜

Thank you. 💛

Thank you, Sara. I’m glad it resonated with you.

Happy Mother's Day to those untangling their inheritance and choosing what to carry forward.
To everyone who inherited a plan that didn't quite fit and dared to draft their own ending. We are the mothers of our own souls.
7/7

Some of us come from a long line of women who prayed. Some of us come from women who asked questions. My matrilineal line is made of both. It's woven together with sacrifice, rebellion and reverence, and defiance. It's messy, unfinished, and beautiful.
6/7

I honor the women who raised me: those who survived within the system and those who dared to challenge it. The women who nurtured my curiosity and mind, who gave me a tender heart and the strength to carve my own path, even when my version of holy looks different from theirs.
5/7

This Mother's Day, I'm honoring a lineage that holds both devotion and defiance. The woman who chose faith. The woman who chose freedom. And the work it takes to reckon with both.
4/7

I was taught a woman's worth lived in fulfilling the roles of wife and mother. That heaven was a reward for submission and obedience. But like the woman who came before me, I chose a path different from the one l inherited. Not because it was easier, but because it didn't fit.
3/7

Another woman chose religion. She stepped willingly into Mormonism and found comfort in its structure, and purpose in its promises. I don't fault her for that. The system gave her safety, identity, and answers.

For a while, it gave those things to me, too.
2/7

Thinking today about the women who shaped me.
One rejected the religion of her ancestry and turned down an arranged marriage, walked away from tradition, and bravely built a life on her own terms. Her 'no' was a quiet, radical act of rebellion.
🧵

When you’ve spent your entire life being taught there’s only one way to be happy, it takes incredible courage to say “I’m not happy here”.

To all who have left the religions that harmed you and built a new life for yourself, I see you. I honor you.

We have risen. ❤️

Oh wow, that is a lot to process. I’m sorry 😢

After I was assaulted, I was taught my virtue mattered more than my life. If church leaders are truly inspired, why do they fail victims of abuse? This is a story of a 14-year-old victim who was disci... TikTok video by Apostate Abish

www.tiktok.com/t/ZTjd4d36U/ the story Kate Whitaker shared on Mormon stories is about a victim who was exed. Part of it is stitched in my video here.

Real divine inspiration from church leaders would look like protecting victims. It would not look like shaming them, blaming them, or demand they forgive their abusers. It certainly would never include excommunicating them. Inspired leadership would never lead to punishing the wounded.

That’s encouraging the hear!

Awkward!