The New Happy

Just because it hasn’t happened yet Doesn’t mean that it’s not going to happen soon

Keep going.

One choice at a time, you are cultivating a new way of being, replacing old patterns and instincts with new ones that are aligned with your values, hopes and true self.

Our lives are short But they’re long enough to do a bit of good And there are enough of us to add up to a lot of good

We can make change happen.

You don’t have to follow the prescribed path You can make a path that is uniquely your own

Don’t get so caught up pursuing The Perfect Life that you forget to create Your Life.

They were a big part of your life And now they’re no longer here You miss them so dearly But you can still love them Stay connected with them And build a life that honors them

For those who are grieving:

Someone’s day (16 colorful dots) What we see (15 turn grey except for the yellow one) What we assume (they all turn yellow)

We miss so much.

I’m scared I’m unsure I’m not ready I’ll try anyway

It’s the courage to try that matters most.

You’re procrastinating on this task to avoid the feelings it will bring up

It’s not a willpower problem.

You’ve been told your worth increases the more you achieve The truth is it never changes no matter what you do

It never changes.

It’s not about how long a relationship lasts but whether or not it helps both people to grow find joy and become better people

Is it good for you?

“Change can feel like two steps Forward one step backward but that doesn’t mean that you aren’t making progress towards everything you want” Next to an abstract image showing that pattern in blue and pink

When we zoom out, we can see how those backward steps fit into the remarkable progress we have made, and we can use that perspective to stop judging ourselves so harshly.

It’s always bumpy at the start

Keep going and it will get easier

Starting something new will always bring disruption, challenges, and complexity. There are no exceptions.

It doesn't mean that you're incapable, that you're not good enough, that you should give up, or that you'll never figure it out.

You do something embarrassing (a red square) How long someone else spends thinking about it (a sliver of the square) How long you spend thinking about it (the red square extends into a very long rectangle)

All that time you spend worrying about what other people are thinking of you... and, lo and behold, no one is really thinking about you—because we are all busy thinking about ourselves.

Curiosity is everything.

What are you feeling?

www.thenewhappy.com/feelings-wheel

You want to get here but believe this must happen in order to achieve it, but there are many ways to get where you want to go

Open your mind to other possibilities.

How their journey looks on the outside How their journey feels on the inside

No one’s path is straightforward or smooth.

From lonely to loved Someone reaching out

All it takes is one message.

As you get older You will change These transformations Are a wonderful thing Some people may recall An older version of you But that’s not you anymore You don’t have to go back You can be you now You can keep transforming

Keep transforming.

You don’t achieve goals by doing it all perfectly You achieve them by trying and learning

Be willing to try

If you could only see everyone’s journeys You’d stop judging yours so harshly

It’s so easy to forget, and so important to remember: you only have visibility into your insides and everyone else’s outsides. You don’t see everyone else’s ups and downs, witness their challenges and struggles, or experience their fear and uncertainty.

What we think a happy life is (a square of yellow dots) What a happy life actually is (a square of colored dots)

A meaningful, happy life will inevitably involve difficult experiences and emotions. You can’t work towards a cause that you care about without feeling stress; you can’t craft a fulfilling relationship without tending to your wounds; you can’t grow as a person without experiencing fear.

Discouraged and hopeful separated Someone who believes in you connecting the two

Don’t give up. Ask for help.

What people see of your journey What your journey was actually like

Honor your journey.

You can have your opinion But if you learn new information Be willing to change it

Sentences that we should all be comfortable saying:
“I don’t know enough about that yet, can you tell me more?”
“I’ve changed my mind on that topic.”
“I was wrong. Thanks for helping me to learn.”

You can figure it out one day at a time

I don’t want to just get through today I want to fully experience today

Attending to each moment as it comes, accepting and embracing it for whatever it is, letting it go in order to move on to the experience of the next, and then repeat…

Asking for help isn’t giving up It’s continuing to persevere

You should ask for help with that ❤️

Thinking about how to do it perfectly Taking action imperfectly

One imperfect action taken today is far better than a perfect action never taken.

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