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Ru Callender. Undertaker, ritualist, raver and author of "What Remains? Life death and the human art of undertaking." Described as "Best undertakers of all time, by a country mile." by Charles Cowling of Good Funeral Guide.

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A review of the first article I ever had published. Interested in more of this? β€œWhat Remains? Life, death and the human art of undertaking.” Published by Chelsea Green.

24.02.2026 10:25 β€” πŸ‘ 6    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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Never too young to fill in your grandpa’s grave.

22.02.2026 11:05 β€” πŸ‘ 18    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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Last boat trip home for a lovely man. Beautiful woven hazel coffin and shroud, planted with spring flowers.

21.02.2026 10:24 β€” πŸ‘ 16    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

Fab album.

09.02.2026 18:39 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

Uncle Bill: β€œAh, Pook is here..”

07.02.2026 13:23 β€” πŸ‘ 3    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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The unknown ancestor. A photograph I picked up at a stall in the souk at Marrakech. Good to bring in strangers to your family altar. Also a fossil predecessor, an ammonite I found on the same trip.

03.02.2026 20:44 β€” πŸ‘ 5    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
A line from Sophie Gilbert's review of the new Melania movie.
"Melania shows off her custom-made inauguration gown, stark white with black ribbons overlaying it, a dress that now looks unavoidably like the redacted Epstein files."

A line from Sophie Gilbert's review of the new Melania movie. "Melania shows off her custom-made inauguration gown, stark white with black ribbons overlaying it, a dress that now looks unavoidably like the redacted Epstein files."

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01.02.2026 17:46 β€” πŸ‘ 139    πŸ” 29    πŸ’¬ 5    πŸ“Œ 2
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Happy Imbolc. A Tibetan ritual dagger, a Phurba, the tent peg of the world, the Axis Mundi, bears down on San Pedro, the gateway to the heavens.

01.02.2026 15:31 β€” πŸ‘ 11    πŸ” 2    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 1
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Polaroid of Jimmy Cauty and Bill Drummond ceremonially opening the KLF/JAMMS memorabilia shipping container that had been sealed for 23 years. Inside were boxes of DAT tapes, fan letters, crumbling foam costumes from Top of the Pops appearances..

01.02.2026 13:43 β€” πŸ‘ 21    πŸ” 6    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

Prince What a mess I believe..

26.01.2026 09:10 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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Altar details. Corpse bride, left over coffin nails, eyes from ventriloquist dummy, ammonite, Krishna and the butter ball, a Centaur listening to Pan, Death in various forms, Gorse buttonhole from a funeral, cat skull, slate Lingum from the river Dart, Gods and Goddesses galore.

18.01.2026 14:05 β€” πŸ‘ 18    πŸ” 1    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

Etc June..

17.01.2026 19:19 β€” πŸ‘ 3    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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Photo by Pierre Lavie. Yes this is me. And I threw my Leica. It landed on the bass plate with hardly a scratch. Another Photographer grabbed it along with my phone and I was able to track him later. I was held face down tear gas deployed right in front of me and pepper sprayed directly into the eye.

17.01.2026 14:57 β€” πŸ‘ 40049    πŸ” 14704    πŸ’¬ 1322    πŸ“Œ 1049
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The Quaker style funeral of Lindsey Stewart. Lindsey sung with the Moorheart Threshold Choir who sing to the dying. Here they are singing to her.

17.01.2026 10:41 β€” πŸ‘ 15    πŸ” 2    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

Competitive indeed…

16.01.2026 08:27 β€” πŸ‘ 5    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

Yup. He filled in for my dad too.

14.01.2026 23:24 β€” πŸ‘ 2    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0
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What Remains? by Rupert Callender This is a truly superb and ground-breaking book. And very well-written - it's hard to believe that someone who isn't a many-times published ...

A lovely review from the amazing Dave Lee.

14.01.2026 21:04 β€” πŸ‘ 7    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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Casting my shadow over the grave for once instead of the other way round.

14.01.2026 15:27 β€” πŸ‘ 15    πŸ” 1    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

Hey Kath, I’ve migrated too..

11.01.2026 11:05 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

We're going to need a bigger Hague.

03.01.2026 09:51 β€” πŸ‘ 3122    πŸ” 804    πŸ’¬ 21    πŸ“Œ 15

β€œOwls” don’t exist Tom..

02.01.2026 18:32 β€” πŸ‘ 4    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 2    πŸ“Œ 0

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25.12.2025 13:11 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0
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See for yourself, listen for yourself, think for yourself.

22.12.2025 23:51 β€” πŸ‘ 9    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0

I have a friend who is a palliative care nurse who is as brilliant and gifted and comically kind as this character. Pray you meet one of these edge of the village don’t give a fuck healers should you be dying like this.

22.12.2025 21:34 β€” πŸ‘ 13    πŸ” 1    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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Continuing with the mildly blasphemous posts, (please don’t be offended, British β€œhumour”) kitchen nativity mural, with myself, my wife and her daughter as three wise thems, my dog as Mary, and our elderly malevolent cat as what is clearly the Antichrist. Someone call Peter Theil. They’re heeeerre.

18.12.2025 19:59 β€” πŸ‘ 7    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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What a Gede Christmas looks like.

18.12.2025 16:37 β€” πŸ‘ 8    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

No Rutherford, I want you to make it and somehow get it shipped to me nicely frozen..

13.12.2025 11:16 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

I want some mandarin Campari sorbet..

13.12.2025 11:03 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0
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β€˜He was struggling with his breath. I sat beside him and sang’: the choir who sing to people on their deathbeds Just as lullabies send babies to sleep, so songs can help those at the other end of life on their way. The leader of a Threshold Choir reveals what they do – and the personal tragedies that convinced ...

Today we opened our premises for an all day vigil for lovely Lindsey Stewart. I idly opened the Guardian and lo, there she was. A few members of The Threshold Choir sung to her in our chapel of rest. Incredibly moving.

12.12.2025 16:29 β€” πŸ‘ 21    πŸ” 6    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 1
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An American funeral on Dartmoor. Ceremony in an old cow barn, burial in the churchyard. Coffin made by boat builder son.

12.12.2025 09:47 β€” πŸ‘ 18    πŸ” 1    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 1