Cordial but Firm Anti-Creep Phrases
”This is a [professional space] and I’d really appreciate it if you’d act accordingly.”
“I’m not interested in discussing my personal life.” AND/OR “I keep my personal and professional life separate, thanks.”
“I really don’t think that’s appropriate behavior/to say at a [professional conference]. Is there something else we can discuss?” OR phrase it as a rhetorical question: “Do you think that’s an appropriate thing to do/say at a [professional conference]?”
“That is not what I’m here for. Let’s change the subject.”
Due to recent discussions: when I worked at a library, I was trained on how to politely but directly respond to unwanted sexual comments. Unfortunately commonly-marketed fantasies about librarians mean it happens a lot.
Rehearse these. Be comfortable saying them forcefully, but politely.
18.02.2026 17:34 — 👍 441 🔁 142 💬 8 📌 6
Does anyone know what happened in 2003? Was the GWB admin more friendly to religious vaccine exemptions?
16.02.2026 19:52 — 👍 2 🔁 0 💬 1 📌 0
What a gem to read tonight
11.02.2026 04:24 — 👍 1 🔁 0 💬 0 📌 0
So brilliant! I loved this
10.02.2026 16:47 — 👍 1 🔁 0 💬 1 📌 0
what the cicada said to the black boy by Clint Smith ive seen what they make of you
how they render you a multiplicity
of mistakes
they have undone me as well
pulled back my shell & feasted
on my flesh
claimed it was for their survival
& they wonder why I only show my face every seventeen years
but you
you're lucky if they let you live that long i could teach you some things, you know have been playing this game since before you knew what breath was
this here is prehistoric why you think we fly?
why you think we roll in packs?
you think these swarms are for the fun of it?
i would tell you that you don't roll deep enough but every time you swarm they shoot
get you some wings, son
get you some wings
“what the cicada said to the black boy” is an opportunity for science and English to merge. Occasionally, a group of students will read “get you some wings, son / get you some wings” and be inspired to attempt flight. Grateful to Dr. Clint Smith for this.
28 poems for Black History Month day 4
05.02.2026 03:53 — 👍 111 🔁 36 💬 1 📌 1
again we do not really do a good job of explaining how wealthy people like Jeff Bezos are
his net worth is $253.2 billion.
so he could take one million dollars, and just light it on fire
and then do it again tomorrow
and again the day after that
and then do it every day for 693 years and 8 months
04.02.2026 17:41 — 👍 5877 🔁 2101 💬 187 📌 187
The only thin blue lines I respect are my local rivers and estuaries
evergreen
12.01.2026 19:40 — 👍 1330 🔁 284 💬 7 📌 19
Inside Chicago’s Neighborhood ICE Resistance
Residents have organized a formidable network to protect immigrant communities from Trump’s brutal deportation program. Their efforts are making a genuine difference.
One of the most important pieces I've read this year. A lot of journalists tried to capture what it was like on the ground, as Chicagoans resisted an onslaught of federal agents attacking our neighbors, and @melissagiragrant.com pulled it off.
01.01.2026 00:23 — 👍 383 🔁 162 💬 6 📌 4
Somehow though it doesn't include something very serious a parent had checked out last week
I definitely needed to know about great aunt Linda's glaucoma but not the "really very small" heart attack you had last month that you haven't mentioned in any phone call since
19.12.2025 13:32 — 👍 9 🔁 0 💬 1 📌 0
I don't know, Aaron. I think we need to take this seriously. In fact, after surveying hundreds of years of history in the past few days, I've written an article assessing the originalist case here:
papers.ssrn.com/sol3/papers....
16.12.2025 03:58 — 👍 2351 🔁 536 💬 242 📌 221
Nothing backfires like
a) running late and trying to rush the 4yo
b) trying to get her to bed early when she isn't VERY sick
Today I got both 🙃
10.12.2025 03:40 — 👍 1 🔁 0 💬 0 📌 0
I also think that, for as many awful things have come with it, the Internet and social media have enabled kids from more homogeneous places engage with and befriend folks with way more diverse backgrounds and identities. The kids who want to be kind are so much more knowledgeable than I was
04.12.2025 15:13 — 👍 165 🔁 5 💬 1 📌 0
I can't tell which posts about the Macy's parade are real and which are jokes and I fear they're all real
27.11.2025 15:40 — 👍 2 🔁 0 💬 0 📌 0
every time the pediatric adhd medication discourse starts up, i gotta remind folks that getting pediatric adhd behavioral therapy is nearly impossible to get for many families. one of the worst shortages out there. medication is often the only realistic option available to desperate parents
20.11.2025 15:12 — 👍 200 🔁 30 💬 3 📌 12
Elon Musk is set to make more than every U.S. elementary teacher combined
See how your profession stacks up against Musk’s pay.
By Alyssa Fowers and Leslie Shapiro
Every elementary school teacher
On average, Musk will make $3 billion more per year than the 1.4 million elementary school teachers in the U.S. combined.
Each figure represents 1,500 elementary school teachers. Together, they made $97 billion last year
Humans are bad at big numbers. Which makes it easier for billionaires (and trillionaires) to get away with hoarding wealth. Because most people just can't comprehend how much money that is.
So, I appreciate this WaPo effort to help people visualize what ridiculous amounts of wealth really mean.
19.11.2025 17:51 — 👍 150 🔁 58 💬 3 📌 4
Rent: $3,200
Health Insurance: $2,600
Avocado Toast: $8
Someone who is good at the economy, please help me with my avocado toast budget 🥑
10.11.2025 19:29 — 👍 109 🔁 16 💬 5 📌 0
It's like all they thought was 50>30 so 50 is better than 30?
09.11.2025 16:07 — 👍 2 🔁 0 💬 0 📌 0
Remember when we had three coequal branches of government?
That was fun.
08.11.2025 13:39 — 👍 1 🔁 0 💬 0 📌 0
These are merely historical facts that interpol might find useful should I be kidnapped at the age of 43.
07.11.2025 02:20 — 👍 126 🔁 6 💬 2 📌 0
I’d like my passport and driver’s license changed to say I’m 22 inches long and 7.5 lbs, please.
07.11.2025 02:19 — 👍 194 🔁 16 💬 1 📌 1
And why exactly is the sex at birth, as opposed to their sex now, at all relevant to identifying, say, a fifty year old woman on DOCUMENTS THAT IDENTIFY HER.
I had blue eyes at birth. You know what my driver’s license says? Hazel. Because they changed, and one is useless for identifying me.
07.11.2025 02:18 — 👍 547 🔁 120 💬 15 📌 6
Congrats! This was a great piece
06.11.2025 03:23 — 👍 2 🔁 0 💬 0 📌 0
Forgetting to go to ultrasounds is such a funny detail
19.10.2025 14:39 — 👍 1 🔁 0 💬 0 📌 0
I would rather watch commercials of the Brewers game then the badgers tonight. Yikes
12.10.2025 01:32 — 👍 1 🔁 0 💬 1 📌 0
having thought about this for three days, my current status is:
what the FUCK are we doing trying to ban social media for kids and not banning AI use? we are literally telling them not to use the computer to talk to their real friends but instead to the imaginary technology monetisable 'friends'.
19.08.2025 19:04 — 👍 2643 🔁 867 💬 33 📌 44
In New Orleans we complained so much about never knowing the NOLA specific content that they wrote a WI round just for us
Also another team of regulars was retirees who were in MENSA and they only drank diet coke
20.08.2025 02:56 — 👍 1 🔁 0 💬 1 📌 0
mf said ooples and banoonoos
16.08.2025 08:10 — 👍 500 🔁 114 💬 18 📌 2
Dolly Parton has sent my daughter a new book every month for years as she does for thousands of children. She help fund the development of the Covid vaccine. She’s not a billionaire. I think as non wealthy people it’s hard to even imagine how much billionaires *could* be doing with their money.
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Also so many comfy chairs!
13.08.2025 19:43 — 👍 1 🔁 0 💬 0 📌 0
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