Hana Michels (Coaching Account)

Kids Don't Always Know Something's Wrong Whether it's an issue with family dynamics or their own bodies, kids have nothing to compare their experience to. What happens behind closed doors, physical & psychological pain can all go unchecked.

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Hell, we out competed all other hominids- probably NOT by killing them (in fact there were probably more than a few romances or at least some weird sex) but by using cooperation and creativity to adapt to extreme climate changes and spread across the globe.

Zoologist YouTuber Lindsey Nikole talks about how this helped her put things in perspective too, and has a whole series about the history of Earth that we know of that’s easily understandable and funny if you’re not a zoologist. (I don’t know her so this is not some nepotism.)

This may not work for you- in fact it may make things feel more doomy & gloomy depending on who you are-

But when I get scared of global warming & such, I look at the long arc of Earth history. How many extreme climates have come and gone. How many mass extinctions we’ve had. And life perseveres.

If you also have ADHD I can relate & we can come up with solutions together like a giant ring to put all your stuff and car and pets on

Personally, I’m going to see about taking calls for the LGBT center it’ll also help my guilt over being a sleeper cell who has straight cis privilege (and also for thinking a neighbor who was one of the heads of the center was a scientologist bc I misheard a roommate & avoiding him accordingly)

If you want to alleviate guilt for doing nothing about the state of the world, but can’t protest I wanna remind you protesting is important but it’s not the only form of activism. And that local acts radiate globally. And that there is probably something that plays to your strengths.

One time I told my therapist I was too neurotic for anyone to tolerate me. She looked me dead in the eyes & said

“People tolerate WOODY ALLEN.”

I had nothing to say to that. It still stops me from having that insecure thought. So I thought I would share in case you also have it.

ACAB includes the part of your brain that won't let you start a new project because it's not gonna be perfect.

(But mostly it's cops.)

If any of my writer friends are interested I can vouch for the fact that this is a very good deal!

I need it but refuse. Plus, you don’t know what you’d be getting into. I think I went my whole childhood undiagnosed w/miscalculia. No one could teach me math. I needed tutors to stay in the easy classes. I got a near perfect score on my English SATS & the math portion brought me down to Syracuse.

I probably will at some point. If I do well enough getting back into Spanish as an adult with brain fog, I may go for becoming a polyglot and seeing if my great grandpa was exaggerating his proficiency in some of the seven languages he spoke (he definitely was)

I’m wondering if anyone is willing to trade free coaching sessions for free tutoring in Spanish. Since it’s a trade and since I was near a conversational level in college I just need to get back, teaching/tutoring background not required.

a cartoon character with the words i dont know im not a scientist Alt: a cartoon character with the words i dont know im not a scientist

Also:

a man with glasses and a green tie says " i live in a van down by the river " while talking to two people Alt: a man with glasses and a green tie says " i live in a van down by the river " while talking to two people

I’m still uncomfortable marketing myself as a coach. I know I’m a good coach, but when it comes to marketing, I feel like this

Ok I added a footnote that I think captures how I actually feel. I think. Bye 20 more people!!

Also the brain fog is strong today so sorry for run on sentences and extra words and such

Our Cultural Obsession With Thinness Is Hurting People As clients and friends share stories of blatant discrimination, I can't imagine this isn't clear to most people- but just in case it's not, I'll write about it. Photo by Annushka Ahuja.

Honestly I think I went way too middle of the road here. I'm afraid to be as firm in my beliefs as I'd like to be and I'd like to be harsher on fatphobia but I'm afraid because I'm in a 'wellness' industry and I lose people for shit like this. Let me know how you think I did.

(I’m also offering more discounts these days because most people simply don’t have money. If you know someone who needs help achieving their goals or enacting the insights they learn in therapy who’s rich lmk, SOMEone has to pay full price so I can get my meds!)

Sometimes it doesn’t feel like enough, but regular people did not create this mess, so don’t feel bad if you need to take care of yourself first or more often. You’re not my client so I don’t know what works for you in terms of true relaxation & recharging, but I hope you find it.

If you struggle to think of what you can do, think about what you’re good at. Activism can come in many forms and we need all of them. Personally, I’m looking into places I can volunteer & currently offering free sessions to activists who need to recharge.

If you are able to help around any of the things you feel terrible are happening, even in tiny ways, this can help those feelings. But if you are unable/don’t have the opportunity, there’s no reason for guilt & it helps no one. People in power created these circumstances, THEY alone are responsible.

Daily reminder that it is normal, even empathetic and healthy to have a strong reaction to unprecedented times. With so many crises happening worldwide, if your nervous system is out of whack or you’re struggling to be productive and/or maintain composure, THAT’S normal. No matter how society reacts

And that’s how you excuse a pile of crap!!

Spectrum of ego with penis shaped graph. Oh, you didn’t think of a penis? Oh…oh no…

Please pretend to read this to inflate my numbers while the world's on fire and you're putting out the fires in your nervous system thank you

The world is in many different crises and if you react badly to that that’s normal no matter how much society reacts otherwise

When Your Partner Becomes Chronically Ill: What may happen when you're trying to care for someone and suppress unhelpful expectations. Image credit: Odonata Wellnesscenter on Pexels

1 in 1000 articles in which I acknowledge "I only know that I know nothing about your unique circumstances except what it obvious but I must market myself and I prefer to do so in written form." sparklifecoaching.substack.com/p/when-your-...

Life is pretty funny. Not Ha ha funny more like “oh my god really??? NOW???” funny