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Don't believe everything you think “Don’t believe everything you think.”This little quote, on a pin badge my other half bought me for Christmas, has been sitting with me today.It’s a powerful reminder that some thoughts we have don’t d...

Don't believe everything you think - your brain gets it wrong sometimes.
A blog - 1 minute read

#acceptancecommitmenttherapy #act #cognitivebehaviouraltherapy #cbt #thoughts #reframing #metacognition #williamjames

www.elainenichollsnvr.com/post/don-t-believe

I don't like who I become I had a conversation with a parent this week they said “I don’t like who I become when my child pushes me to my limits?”It got me thinking - we are all that person. And if you think you’re not, you ar...

I don't like who I am when my child pushes me to my limits
A blog - 1 min read

#secondarytrauma #burnout #blockedcare #survivalmode #parenting #adoption #fostering #kinship #trauma #developmentaltrauma #attachment #attachmentdisorder #fasd #autism #adhd

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Vigilant care I was talking to a friend yesterday - an adopter and fellow NVR practitioner. I can’t tag her because she doesn’t have a page.The conversation was around how we often don’t know what we’re dealing wit...

Therapeutic parenting - stepping in and stepping back during the teenage years
A blog - 3 minute read

#nvr #nonviolentresistance #vigilantcare #therapeuticparenting #parenting #teenagers #parentingteenagers #cse #grooming #gangs #onlinesafety

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Into pastures new It’s been a bumpy ride over the past few months. My girls lost their mum unexpectedly late last year. There’s this idea that children who don’t grow up with their parents aren’t impacted, or are less ...

It's been a bumpy road - into pastures new
A blog - 2 minute read

#adoption #grief #loss #birthparent #birthmum #birthfamily #birthparentloss #birhfamilycontact #nvr #nonviolentresistance #parentingteens #parentingadoptedadults

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Courageous parenting Happy New Year from one courageous parent to another.This year, I’ve seen so much quiet courage - tough decisions that needed to be made, hard conversations that needed to be had, limits that needed t...

Happy new year from one courageous parent to another
A blog - 1 minute read

#happynewyear #parenting #therapeuticparenting #nvr #nonviolentresistance #cpva #teenagers #boundaries #connection #anchor

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Clear is kind “Clear is kind. Unclear is unkind” – Brene BrownThis quote comes to mind often, because it’s so true - for our young people but also for us adults. We all feel safer when our environments and the peop...

Clear is kind - holding boundaries compassionately and making space for the emotions

#nvr #nonviolentresistance #parenting #teenagers #therapeuticparenting #boundaries #communication #compassion #connection #brenebrown #cleariskind

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How was your Christmas? How was your Christmas?I’m not sure that a drama-free Christmas is possible for families raising children with significant early trauma. Because trauma isn’t something that lives in the past. When the...

How was your christmas as an adopter, foster parent, or kinship carer?

#christmas #trauma #adoption #fostering #fostercare #kinship #therapeuticparenting

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A photograph of the heroic Gisele. A survivor and fearless champion of women.

“When you’re raped there is shame, and it’s not for us to have shame, it’s for them. It’s true that I hear lots of women, and men, who say you’re very brave. I say it’s not bravery, it’s a will and determination to change society”

- Gisèle.

What a woman.

Street art showing Gisele Pelicot looking badass with the phrase written next to her “the shame must switch sides” in French

Literally crying hearing how French women applaud Gisele Pelicot every day as she walks out of court. #r4today

Everywhere around the world women watch & applaud her bravery too. She stood up for all of us.

Because the shame has to switch sides.

A Trauma-informed Christmas As we get ready for the magic of Christmas, here’s a helpful list for mums and dads - a reminder that the joyful season isn’t always so joyful for children who’ve had a lot of disruption in their litt...

It’s beginning to look a lot like Christmas - how can we create a trauma-informed Christmas
A blog - 4 minute read

#trauma #traumainformed #christmas #santa #elfontheshelf #sensory #anxiety #meltdowns #feltsafety #growthmindset #adhd #fasd #autism

elainenichollsnvr.com/post/christmas-24

Good morning, it's Socialist Sunday.

Does your child have an AI friend? Content warning - suicide.Having recently discovered and started to engage in the world of AI, I'm impressed. Chat GPT and Copilot are transforming my work and personal life in small but significant ways. But there is a dark side. A recent news story talks about the experience of a 29 year old student. He was asking an AI platform for help and received an abusive response. www.cbsnews.com/news/google-ai-chatbot-threatening-message-human-please-die/In another news story, a parent is suing an AI c

AI is here to stay and there's a dark side - especially where our children are concerned. Does your child have AI friends?
A 2 minute read blog.

#ai #aifriends #smartphones #onlinesafety #teenagers #parenting #nvr #nonviolentresistance #cathknibbs

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Where are you?

If you went up a step what changes would people see, what changes would you see, how would you feel?

Let’s Talk about .... coaching Cards for Teens & Adults #solutionFocused
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I love a picture advent calendar. Today I got a Christmas tree. Excited for tomorrow. 🎄 🔔
#christmas #advent #adventcalwndar #christmastree #brianbilston

DfE claims Lilac Sky investigation report 'does not exist' The government had promised for years to publish its investigation report into a scandal-hit trust

After an eight-year investigation that allegedly uncovered £3 million of 'improper' academy trust spending and led to the banning of two heads, the government has bizarrely claimed an investigation report into the scandal 'does not exist'

The sun sets on Bloemgracht, Amsterdam. The sky is orange and the sun s behind a spire in the centre of the picture.

It’s been a tough old week but I’ve been rewarded with this absolute beaut of a sunset on my street as we head into the weekend.

Fijn weekend, folks.

The Engagement Is Better on Bluesky - Bluesky Bluesky is the lobby to the open web. Find and build your community here.

We could go on about how we welcome publishers, we don't demote links, we encourage independent developers to build apps and extensions on top of Bluesky's network.... but instead, we'll show you.

All thanks to the incredible community here! 🦋

Hoping you had a Happy Thanksgiving, love Grandma #aiart #midjourney #Grandma

Chat GPT - I like it but I didn’t mention Christmas??? 🎄

#chatgpt #ai #chatgptpoetry #aipoetry #artificialintelligence #dogs #dogsofbluesky #cavapoo #shihtzu #malshi #christmas

a brown dachshund is a loaf on a cream-colored sofa. none of his legs or paws are visible. he appears to be biting the corner of his lip, perhaps nervous that he's misplaced all four legs at once.

This is Arthur. He seems to have misplaced his legs and needs your help to find them. They are about one inch long and Arthur-colored. 13/10

If you're residing in the UK & home educating or seriously considering home ed I can highly recommend this fab support group. Full of great advice regarding your legal rights,peersupport in your home ed journey & much more
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#homeeducation #sen #electivehomeeducation

YouTube video by Jabba MTA Delboy "It's bullshit"

Kent County Council have announced a new draft strategy for education. Based on collaboration.
I, many SENDCos and Heads can produce examples of so many breaches of law that their “strategy” is

www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rg-j...

What is social health? The little-known idea that could make all the difference Research has proven that social health – wellbeing that comes from connection – is as essential as food and water, but it is vastly underappreciated

The power of connection..
www.theguardian.com/wellness/art...
#socialhealth #connection #supporters

Chat GPT - I’m playing a board game with the wife - as we listen to music - can you write a poem?

#chatgpt #copilot #ai #artificialintellegence #aipoetry #poetry #rummikub #boardgame #family #marriage

Now you see me... I saw this on Bluesky and was very moved. It's hard living with children who were hurt in the most awful ways and still respond from that hurt - because that's what happens with early trauma - it impa...

Wonderful video being shared "I wonder if you see me" - must watch powerful depiction of trauma.
A blog - 3 min watch & 1 min read

#trauma #childhoodtrauma #shame #abandonment #curiosityforexperience #therapeuticparenting #traumainformed #edusky

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Chat GPT - Katie has a plan & these are the responses from mum’s Emma & Elaine & sister Sophie.

Asked for a rework of “family she’s outgrown” (nope) and then “family she’s always known” (not quite)

Almost made my eyes leak 🥰

#chatgpt #copilot #ai #aipoetry #poetry #teenagers #familywhatsapp

Ha ha. This made me laugh a lot!

#starterpack #blueskystarterpack

Chat GPT - can you write a poem about this rare cuddle with my pampered prince Tony?

#chatgpt #copilot #ai #artificialintelligence #aipoetry #poetry #shihtzu #dogs #dogsofbluesky

NVR - evidence base and adaptability NVR as a parenting approach was developed in the 1990s to help parents take a firm stance around harmful behaviours - like drugs, drinking, violence, crime, opting out of school and work, and opting o...

NVR family support - what's it based on and what's it good for?
A blog - two min read

#nvr #nonviolentresistance #therapeuticparenting #autism #adhd #fasd #trauma #pda #evidencebasedpractice #familysupport #challingbehaviour #cpv

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Yes!