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We need more grounded men. Men who can lead with empathy and understanding. Men who are not afraid of their inner world. Men who can hold and contain the complexities & intensities of emotions.

"Men who can feel deeply, think clearly, and act decisively."

We must step up and lead this charge.

The 3A Model of Emotional Intelligence:

1. Awareness - Name it to tame it. Understand your inner world.

2. Alchemize - Regulate yourself before you respond. When your nervous system settles, clarity follows.

3. Action - Action w/o awareness is reckless. Awareness w/o action is avoidance.

Healthy masculine leadership contains emotion. It doesn't cut itself off from it.

This means we can hold space for our own emotions and others. Whether it be a partner, family, or friends.

When we can hold this space, we become trustworthy and can guide the connection between us and others.

Also learn empathy. When we can empathize, we can acknowledge someone's emotion and understand what they're going through. But you can't allow the other person's emotions to dysregulate you.

Again, not suppressing. Not stoicism. But real empathy without becoming dysregulated.

Here's how!

Learn emotional intelligence. It's being aware of and being accountable for what you feel.

Have self-awareness of your emotions - Know what you're feeling & why.

Learn self-regulation to manage your emotions instead of letting them manage you. Managing is NOT suppressing.

3. The Outsourcer - A subconscious expectation to have others interpret or bear our emotions.

4. The Avoidant Achiever - Distracting from emotions through things like work and pursuing money & status.

Do any of these resonate with you?
If so, now that you're aware, you can do something about it.

There are 4 traps men fall into:

1. The Stoic Mask - A cold and emotionless approach to leadership.
One end of the spectrum.

2. The Emotional Flutter - Emotions are let out wildly with no introspection or control.
The other end of the spectrum

The first step in learning balance is to actually embrace your emotions. Stop suppressing.

When we suppress, we are actually giving our emotions a level of control over us.

So learn to balance listening to your emotions without letting them rule you and your ability to make effective decisions.

Wild, right? So many of us have been taught to forego our emotions when it comes to leading or making decisions.

We need balance.
To lead effectively, you can't forego all emotions. But you can't allow your emotions to completely dictate your decisions either.

Balance is key!

YouTube video by ManTalks Becoming an Emotionally Intelligent Masculine Leader

🤜MMHM🤛 - Men's Mental Health Mondays!

Knowing how to lead is crucial for a man. Yet so many have a misunderstanding or no real knowledge HOW to lead.

Here's a tip - Listen to your emotions!

youtu.be/pRYGhOXhSVU

#MMHM
#mentalhealth
#emotionalhealth
#masculinity
#dothework

No MMHM post for today. But I plan to post tomorrow.

I got a promotion and a couple other changes in my life that I've been adjusting to.
Also realizing it's harder for me to do these posts following the weeks I have my daughter.

So my apologies for the lack of consistency lately.

That question hurts my middle age... 😭

A photo I took a few weeks back.

Finally, the one small promise. Just do 1 thing in the day. Even if it's getting out of bed. You did something. Be proud that you fulfilled that promise to yourself.

Being constantly in the dark is draining and can lead us down even darker paths. Give yourself these moments of light.

You got this!

The next step after awareness is action! For depression, it's movement!

I know... The last thing you wanna do when depressed. But movement is key. It wakes up our body and keeps us going.

Jumping up and down. A quick dance. Or a simple walk can do wonders in interrupting our depressive state.

Our mind is powerful. Our thoughts are just thoughts but when we dwell on them. They can become reality.

Constant negative thoughts will affect our body. We struggle to take care of ourselves. Getting out of bed takes monumental effort. Showers are too much activity.

Take care with your thoughts.

Your body shuts down to protect itself to conserve its energies while in this survival state.

Notice when this happens. But notice and give yourself love and kindness. The world is harsh enough. You don't need to be your own enemy.

So build the awareness to notice. You are not your depression.

Depression can be misconstrued as not feeling anything. You see life with dull eyes and move through it with lethargy.

But depression is actually overwhelm. You're feeling too many things. Experiencing too much stress.

Depression is the symptom of the above and your body shutting down.

To be very clear, you can work on your depression. But give yourself grace and kindness when you can't follow through when you're in heavily depressed states.

Working on yourself takes a lot of time and very intentional effort. And motivation is extremely low when depressed.

So be kind to yourself

YouTube video by The Holistic Psychologist Understanding depression as a response

🤜MMHM🤛 - Men's Mental Health Mondays!

Depression is heavily linked to childhood trauma. It affects our viewpoint in life and our daily behavior.

But there's a way out. We are not what has happened to us.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=5hwD...

#MMHM
#mentalhealth
#emotionalhealth
#masculinity
#dothework

The Sanderlanche has begun...

#Mistborn
#BrandonSanderson

homer simpson is looking out of a window with his mouth open and a carrot in his mouth . ALT: homer simpson is looking out of a window with his mouth open and a carrot in his mouth .

I would like to has!

Then that scammer is just straight up out for blood.

You really should've let them have your pin

🥲 Can't buy tix right now. But I hope I get good rates when I'm able to. Tho I also hope their economy improves.

We'll see what the future holds. Always wanted to go to Japan.

He's streaming?! I wanna watch!!!

So wild!!! I had 2 different friends go to Japan around the same time. Like within the past couple weeks.

One was in that Ramen Museum. I started scanning the ppl to see if I could spot them. Lol.

I do not see them. 😒

Aww... Y'all so cute!

Hah! Thanks, @homotopycoder.bsky.social! Really appreciate the reminder