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writer | editor | therapist* | musician| dad | founder & eic @bwdr.bsky.social | curious about everything | πŸ€ forever *posts β‰  professional advice

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agreed!

11.08.2025 19:34 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
David Mamet Has Left the Building | Talk Easy with Sam Fragoso
YouTube video by Talk Easy with Sam Fragoso David Mamet Has Left the Building | Talk Easy with Sam Fragoso

i’ve watched this so much the last few days, and am so proud to know @samfragoso.bsky.social, maybe the best interviewer on the planet right now

11.08.2025 19:30 β€” πŸ‘ 3    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

kenneth lonergan movies are happy places for me because they feel like the real actual world, and if attention is a form of love (and i believe it very much is) than each of his movies abound with it

11.08.2025 05:13 β€” πŸ‘ 4    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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in my happy place

11.08.2025 05:06 β€” πŸ‘ 6    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0

ps: everyone is struggling, even if they don’t tell you

09.08.2025 03:45 β€” πŸ‘ 7    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

100 percent this. I love editing and being edited and can always spot which pieces/outlets don’t actually do much, if any, editing and it drives me bonkers and makes everyone involved look worse. Collaborative editing is one of the best parts of the writing process, truly. And copy editors are vital

08.08.2025 18:03 β€” πŸ‘ 4    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

"It is astonishing how elements which seem insoluable become soluable when someone hears; how confusions which seem irremediable turn into relatively clear flowing streams when one is understood."

- Carl Rogers

07.08.2025 23:32 β€” πŸ‘ 2    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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jonathan demme's THE MANCHURIAN CANDIDATE is a modern american masterpiece, a prescient slice of paranoia and disinformation that understood how much of our political landscape was, & will, be based on lies. honored to write about it for @bwdr.bsky.social.

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06.08.2025 16:53 β€” πŸ‘ 100    πŸ” 32    πŸ’¬ 4    πŸ“Œ 6

Such an honor to have you writing for the Demme issue Roxana! And on such an overlooked and powerfulβ€”and sadly prescientβ€”film.

06.08.2025 17:59 β€” πŸ‘ 2    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

naked gun good

04.08.2025 01:49 β€” πŸ‘ 4    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

superpower πŸ’ͺ

03.08.2025 17:10 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

when someone says in a comforting way β€œi mean, what’s the worst that could happen?” i don’t think they get where an anxious brain goes with that line

03.08.2025 00:59 β€” πŸ‘ 6    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0
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i am *still* upset that jon hamm’s FLETCH movie never got a proper theatrical release fwiwβ€”and that they cancelled the sequel. we used to be a proper country

02.08.2025 23:05 β€” πŸ‘ 10    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

Telling anybody born after 2000 that they used to put comedies in theatersβ€”& that you had to see them opening weekend so that you could laugh with the biggest crowd possible & entirely forget about your life and the world for 85 minutes or soβ€”feels like telling them about the stone age

02.08.2025 18:44 β€” πŸ‘ 15    πŸ” 1    πŸ’¬ 2    πŸ“Œ 0

My brain is perpetually convinced that doing work late at night will somehow save me from having to do quite as much work tomorrow, only to find that tomorrow always comes with its own separate, additional work that I also don't have time for.

02.08.2025 06:11 β€” πŸ‘ 6    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0
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A study of 68,000 people has determined what women really look for in a partner, and it's not money or a muscular body "Kindness" was the most important trait, with nearly 90% of women thinking it was a top priority, followed by "supportiveness" and "intelligence."

And, like, basic research will tell you the exact opposite of what the manosphere does:

β€œResearchers analyzed the answers from 68,000 people in 180 countries

… an attractive face, ambition, assertiveness & financial security all came secondary to whether or not someone was KIND and CONSIDERATE.”

01.08.2025 23:39 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0

Very much so, as both a therapist and a man.

It’s just a whole lot of guys who are bad at relationships pushing the exact wrong message for how to live a truly happy & fulfilling life. That happens through relational joyβ€”not by being an aggrieved, selfish, emotionally unintelligent manchild.

01.08.2025 23:13 β€” πŸ‘ 7    πŸ” 2    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0

😑 😭

01.08.2025 20:18 β€” πŸ‘ 3    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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Cinema. πŸŽ₯

01.08.2025 07:24 β€” πŸ‘ 225    πŸ” 46    πŸ’¬ 5    πŸ“Œ 18

Scoring 7 goals in one half against a quality team without Morris or Frei? I’m telling you, these Sounders are onto somethingβ€”playing 3 of the world’s best teams closely in June, despite losing all 3, unlocked something for sure. Their last loss was way back on 6/23…against PSG. πŸ”₯ ⚽️

01.08.2025 19:55 β€” πŸ‘ 3    πŸ” 1    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

Absolutely cannot wait to see this with my son and laugh ourselves silly, just like my dad and I did with the original ones. Beyond thrilled that critics are loving it too, and that seeing an actually funny movie in a packed theater might briefly be a thing again! No better medicine.

30.07.2025 23:24 β€” πŸ‘ 43    πŸ” 3    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0
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Where to Look: The Silence of the Lambs (1991) Consider how The Silence of the Lambs revolves around vision. Not only perception, but empathy and hindsight, and the non-empirical prick of intuition.

New today on the site!

β€œConsider how THE SILENCE OF THE LAMBS revolves around vision. Not only perception, but empathy and hindsight, and the non-empirical prick of intuition, where vision exceeds the reach of training.”

- Veronica Fitzpatrick

(art by @bturnerinfo.bsky.social)

29.07.2025 17:18 β€” πŸ‘ 77    πŸ” 12    πŸ’¬ 2    πŸ“Œ 3
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I swear Google keeps adding more and more AI nonsense whenever I open a document. I know how to write! Fuck you!

28.07.2025 20:53 β€” πŸ‘ 2038    πŸ” 191    πŸ’¬ 69    πŸ“Œ 48
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he’s here inside my camera (took this yesterday)

28.07.2025 07:16 β€” πŸ‘ 9    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0

this is so much happier than i’ve ever seen him look playing basketball, by like… a lot

28.07.2025 02:56 β€” πŸ‘ 2    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

I think that if you're a writer and you don't invent a word every now and then you're missing out on a solid chunk of the fun.

27.07.2025 00:11 β€” πŸ‘ 1070    πŸ” 114    πŸ’¬ 67    πŸ“Œ 30

surprising absolutely nobody, it’s Joe, still, always

26.07.2025 23:39 β€” πŸ‘ 6    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 1
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25.07.2025 21:32 β€” πŸ‘ 24    πŸ” 20    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 5

i have no response to that πŸŒ‹

25.07.2025 07:49 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0

tell me a poem you have memorized

25.07.2025 06:22 β€” πŸ‘ 2    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 3    πŸ“Œ 1

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