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Is Valentine’s Day a Co-Parenting Holiday? Is Valentine’s Day a co-parenting holiday? Learn how it usually fits into custody schedules and how to handle it without extra stress.

💌 𝐈𝐬 𝐕𝐚𝐥𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐞'𝐬 𝐃𝐚𝐲 𝐚 𝐂𝐨-𝐏𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐇𝐨𝐥𝐢𝐝𝐚𝐲? 💌

Usually it isn't, but co-parents who want to cause trouble may use it against you.

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“You can’t control a difficult ex, but you can control how peaceful your side of the parenting road is.”

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“Even when co-parenting is hard, showing up calmly and consistently is the gift your child will remember.”

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“Co-parenting isn’t about your feelings toward each other, it’s about your commitment to your child.”

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“Co-parenting isn’t about keeping score with your ex, it’s about keeping stability for your child.”

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Co-parenting with a difficult ex is hard. When you’re co-parenting with a narcissist, it’s even harder with constant blame, no accountability, and endless drama. Keep it short, document everything, and save your energy for your kids, not the fights.

𝘾𝙤-𝙥𝙖𝙧𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙖𝙨 𝙛𝙧𝙞𝙚𝙣𝙙𝙨…𝙞𝙨 𝙞𝙩 𝙥𝙤𝙨𝙨𝙞𝙗𝙡𝙚?

Co-parenting as friends can work, but only if both parents have moved on, respect each other, and keep clear boundaries. It’s less about hanging out and more about keeping things kind and low-stress for the kids.

What do you think?

Using trackers for co-parent communication, visitation, expenses, and more can help you keep things clear and reduce conflict.

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It depends on your custody agreement.

If you have joint custody or shared decision-making, they usually need your consent for out-of-province/state or international travel.

Even with sole custody, most agreements require notifying the other parent about travel plans.

How to handle last-minute summer schedule changes:

🗓️ Let your co-parent know what kind of notice you need for changes and what’s non-negotiable

🗓️ Write down every change in writing

🗓️ If the same patterns keep happening or your co-parent takes advantage of your flexibility, it’s okay to say no

Quick and neutral texts you can send your ex when they try to cause shit:

📱 "Got it. I'll take a look and get back to you when I can."
📱 "I'm not going to argue."
📱 "If this isn't about the kids, I won't be replying."
📱 "I'm not getting into that."

Need help today? Check out this free cheat sheet with quick text scripts and ways to keep your cool when you want to snap:

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How to deal with counter-parenting:

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Signs of a toxic co-parent:

☢️ Constant criticism and blame
☢️ Manipulation and control
☢️ Undermining authority
☢️ Refusing to communicate
☢️ Disregard for boundaries

Successful Parallel Parenting Strategies Juggling co-parenting with a tricky ex? Learn tips for stability and support in high-conflict co-parenting situations that focus on your child.

Parallel parenting with a toxic co-parent isn’t a perfect strategy, but it can be successful.

☑️ Avoid Manipulation
☑️ Address Inconsistent Parenting
☑️ Deal With Poor Communication
☑️ Keep Your Emotions in Check
☑️ Support Your Kiddos

Tips for dealing with a high-conflict co-parent:

🥊 Don't discuss personal matters and only talk about the kids.
🥊 Keep communication written and document all conflicts
🥊 Use the BIFF method to communicate (Brief, Informative, Friendly, and Firm)

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Here are some #parallelparenting tips if you're having a tough time with your ex:

✅ Keep communication brief
✅ Stick to the plan
✅ Document everything
❌ Don't argue
❌ Don't send messages through the kids
❌ Don't expect cooperation

Learn more here: motherhoodandmayhem.online/parallel-par...

5 Signs You're Co-Parenting with a Narcissist:

1️⃣ Everything’s a power struggle.
2️⃣ They blame you for everything.
3️⃣ The kids get used as pawns.
4️⃣ They rewrite reality and gaslight.
5️⃣ Boundaries? They bulldoze them.

How to Talk To Your Toxic Co-Parent Explore effective parallel parenting communication strategies when co-parenting with a narcissistic or toxic ex. Minimize conflict and prioritize your child's well-being.

Here are some tips to help avoid chaos when communicating with a toxic co-parent:

💬 Keep communication in writing
💬 Establish clear boundaries
💬 Take a moment before you respond

Parallel parenting in the summer can seem like a nightmare, but there are ways to avoid conflict! ☀️

Start by establishing "summer rules" ahead of time (how plans are made, when, how time is made up, etc.) and be flexible and open when it makes sense

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Need some words of wisdom to help you co-parent with a toxic ex? Here are some quote to help you through:

Are bad co-parenting toxic or just bitter?

🍋 Brings up old arguments and holds grudges
🍋 Makes passive-aggressive digs
🍋 Is rigid about agreements just to "stick it to you"
🍋 More focused on making you uncomfortable

A bitter co-parent lashes out from unresolved hurt and their behavior often fades.

Why do co-parents sabotage the parenting plan?

💣 They want to get you in trouble.
💣 They want to control the situation.
💣 They want to cause arguments.

Learn how to deal with it here: motherhoodandmayhem.online/parenting-pl...

Are you butting heads with your ex over how to raise your child? Frustrated by their parenting decisions?

💜 Focus on your own parenting skills
💜 Focus on discipline, not punishment
💜 Explain your rules to your child

Overall, it's about parenting in your own lane and controlling what you can.

🏛️ Child Custody 🏛️

The thing people often get confused with is custody, which isn't about who sees the child and when (that's "parenting time").

And sole custody doesn't mean the other parent loses access to their kid.

It's more about legal decision-making.