Yolanda- Parenting Decolonized

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An Adult’s Guide to Social Skills, for Those Who Were Never Taught (Published 2020) It’s a shame so few of us are taught the basics of how to interact constructively with each other. If you never were, we’re here to help.

Those same kids turn into adults who don't know how to communicate with other adults or listen to understand....even in online settings www.nytimes.com/2020/01/23/s...

I notice that when parents have rules for the sake of power and control, little thought goes into intentional teaching about how to communicate, and children learn by default what not to do or do what was modeled.

This. THIS. I saw so many clips of the nazis walking. So many people up in arms about it. So many shocked (😒) by it.
What I didn’t see? Action steps like this to counteract their moves.
This is what we need to uplift.

It is definitely a shelf

Sunday check in, anxious babes. A reminder that even with the near future seeming so ominous, you still have today. We still have today. And today, we deserve to have joy. Today, we deserve to feel some calm. Today, we deserve to feel loved.
You deserve joy.
You deserve calm.
You are loved.

Hey fren!!

I love this! This is how you accommodate your child's adhd.

For those I assess if I even need them then if I keep em, I find a place

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Hey Jennie!! Aww I miss chatting with you on our calls!

Thank youuuu!! Things are looking up for 2025 despite the election shit. Hope things are going well for you too!!

"The Five Things Tidying Method helps the brain know exactly what it is looking for, so instead of seeing a sea of clutter and being paralyzed, it can start to see individual items."

I followed it and it helped me so much!

Cliffs notes: there are actually only five things in any room: (1) trash, (2) dishes, (3) laundry, (4) things that have a place and are not in their place, and (5) things that do not have a place.

Page heading: "chapter 4 gentle skill building: the five things tidying method" Main text: "When you look at very messy space, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. Take a few minutes to speak some compassionate words to yourself and take a deep breath. Although it looks like a lot, there are actually only five things in any room: (1) trash, (2) dishes, (3) laundry, (4) things that have a place and are not in their place, and (5) things that do not have a place. 1. The first step is to take a trash bag and pick up all the trash. Throw it away into the bag. Take large trash items like boxes and stack them together and place the trash bag with it. Do not take the trash out. 2. Next gather all of the dishes and place them in your sink or on your counter. Do not do the dishes."

Continuation of steps: "3. Take a laundry basket and pick up all the clothes and shoes. Place the laundry basket next to the trash pile. Do not do the laundry. 4. Next pick a space in the room like a corner or a desk and put all the items there that have a place back in their place. Then put the items that have no place in a pile. Move to the next space and repeat until all things are back in their spots. 5. Now you will have a pile of things that do not have a place. It will be easier now that the space is clear to tackle this category. You may choose to get rid of some items that have no place and are contributing to clutter. For important things, you can find them a permanent place. 6. Take out your trash to the bin; throw laundry into the wash or laundry room. Now your space is livable. I always save the dishes for another day." Additional section heading: "why the five things tidying method works" Explanation: "The Five Things Tidying Method helps the brain know exactly what it is looking for, so instead of seeing a sea of clutter and being paralyzed, it can start to see individual items." Page footer: "20 how to keep house while drowning"

If you have ADHD or have a child with ADHD, these cleaning tips in the book "How to Keep House while Drowning" by @strugglecare are so helpful. I did this 5 things method the other day and it really helped me get things in order much quicker.

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Like people really heard him speak and said "yep, that's my man."

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Heyyy fren!! Missed you since I've been off Twitter. Also this picture

Heyyyy fren. I guess I'll post over there so ppl can follow me

I appreciate the library so much!

Listen Libby app is the only reason I've been able to read any books in the last year.

Black parents and caregiver are valid in their fear of their Black autistic child losing their life or their freedom from disobeying authority or miscommunication

Aww lol. I'm happy to be over here! I've been cuttin up on Threads for a lil bit now. Tryna gauge the atmosphere over here.

Hey frennnn

Hiiii. Why do I feel like it's been a min since we last spake?

Picture of Yolanda sitting in her car in the school pick up line

Oh hello! I didn't know I even had followers on here. How yall doing??