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PhD student studying neurodivergent culture and the neoliberal standard of β€˜normal’ within universities. Neurodivergent, pan, sea enjoyer, lady-in-waiting to Astrid and Fin the cats. Belle and Sebastian fan, 6music Dad. πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ in πŸ‡³πŸ‡Ώ

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Essentially as a term for β€œthing which is not accepted by society”

02.03.2026 21:12 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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Default Emotions Missing CaffΓ© Nero obviously isn't a failure. But it feels like one.

Just a small piece I've been thinking about for a while. It's about homesickness feeling like failure, and how I do miss CaffΓ© Nero and bird hides, but don't miss mandatory shoes and Farage's smug face. Somehow, this is about perfectionism. open.substack.com/pub/puzzledb...

02.03.2026 07:06 β€” πŸ‘ 5    πŸ” 2    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 1

Ahh that is very pleasing!

02.03.2026 11:35 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

Do you know, do not @ me to say "oh it's a foundational text or of its time". Guess what? Sociology moves on! We don't have to cite old dead white guys who said objectionable things! (Although, tbf, there is some good stuff in this that I potentially may use. So.)

02.03.2026 09:00 β€” πŸ‘ 5    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

Definitely leaves it open for a sequel!

02.03.2026 08:16 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0

Have I mentioned I HATE bureaucracy?

02.03.2026 08:16 β€” πŸ‘ 2    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

I've got a really horrible feeling based on an automated email I just got that the doctor's letter I paid for as medical evidence for my visa isn't going to be valid as my doctors isn't a "panel physician". So I'll have to pay a different doctor to say the same thing.

02.03.2026 08:15 β€” πŸ‘ 3    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0

Oh man, How to Get to Heaven from Belfast was SO GOOD. Really, really enjoyed that.

02.03.2026 08:07 β€” πŸ‘ 2    πŸ” 1    πŸ’¬ 2    πŸ“Œ 0
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Default Emotions Missing CaffΓ© Nero obviously isn't a failure. But it feels like one.

Just a small piece I've been thinking about for a while. It's about homesickness feeling like failure, and how I do miss CaffΓ© Nero and bird hides, but don't miss mandatory shoes and Farage's smug face. Somehow, this is about perfectionism. open.substack.com/pub/puzzledb...

02.03.2026 07:06 β€” πŸ‘ 5    πŸ” 2    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 1

I do obviously know it is of its time, and I understand its importance. That doesn't mean I have to like it, though.

02.03.2026 04:50 β€” πŸ‘ 3    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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Managing the Emotions of Reading Goffman: Erving Goffman and Spencer Cahill Looking at Disability AbstractPurpose. The purpose of this paper is to highlight both the value and critiques of Erving Goffman’s conceptualization of stigma as well as the emot

This is just an overview (unless you have access, which I don't), but I thought this was an interesting take www.emerald.com/books/edited...

02.03.2026 02:56 β€” πŸ‘ 3    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0

Quite!

02.03.2026 02:44 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

Guess I must be there too!

02.03.2026 02:43 β€” πŸ‘ 2    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

Eventually, he does get there a bit, but, frankly, the stigma is coming from inside the room. How is this the most often-cited text on stigma??

02.03.2026 02:43 β€” πŸ‘ 3    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0

Barring one missing document, which I have now uploaded, my ethics application passed pre-screening without any other issues. So that's promising.

02.03.2026 02:42 β€” πŸ‘ 2    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
Section of Stigma by Erving Goffman reading:

One method of disclosure is for the individual voluntatily to wear a stigma symbol, a highly visible sign that advertises ho failing wherever he goes. There are, for example, hard of hearing persons who wear a batteryless hearing aid,' the partly blind who affect a collapsible white cane; Jewesses who wear a Star of David as a necklace. It should be noted that some of these stigma symbols, such as a Knights of Columbus lapel button indicating that the wearer is Catholic, are not frankly presented as disclo. sures of stigma, but purportedly attest rather to membership in organizations claimed to have no such significance in themselves.
It should be noted also that militant programmes of all kinds can be served by this device, for the self-symbolizing individual ensures his being cut off from the society of normals.

I have written β€œerrrrr” next to this cos ffs.

Section of Stigma by Erving Goffman reading: One method of disclosure is for the individual voluntatily to wear a stigma symbol, a highly visible sign that advertises ho failing wherever he goes. There are, for example, hard of hearing persons who wear a batteryless hearing aid,' the partly blind who affect a collapsible white cane; Jewesses who wear a Star of David as a necklace. It should be noted that some of these stigma symbols, such as a Knights of Columbus lapel button indicating that the wearer is Catholic, are not frankly presented as disclo. sures of stigma, but purportedly attest rather to membership in organizations claimed to have no such significance in themselves. It should be noted also that militant programmes of all kinds can be served by this device, for the self-symbolizing individual ensures his being cut off from the society of normals. I have written β€œerrrrr” next to this cos ffs.

I hate this bloody book. (CN for ableism/antisemitism/general shittery)

01.03.2026 22:50 β€” πŸ‘ 45    πŸ” 2    πŸ’¬ 12    πŸ“Œ 0

I told everyone at primary school that I'd been served a Bender sausage and a Brown Derby by Lady Diana. It turns out that she didn't waitress at Wimpy. The waitress just had the same haircut and I can't tell faces apart.

26.02.2026 12:20 β€” πŸ‘ 194    πŸ” 8    πŸ’¬ 18    πŸ“Œ 3

The only reason I'm such a "cinema buff" is because I watched so many foreign movies in BBC2 and Channel 4 in the pre-internet 90s. Foreign films had boobs in them.

26.02.2026 18:20 β€” πŸ‘ 355    πŸ” 13    πŸ’¬ 25    πŸ“Œ 4

To embarrass my kids I started doing stupid elaborate sneezes - sudden, screaming, shrill, performative, whole-body convulsive sneezes. I can't stop though, it's no longer an act. This is me now. Did one in a meeting at work last week, which terrified 8 people in the room.

01.03.2026 21:20 β€” πŸ‘ 243    πŸ” 6    πŸ’¬ 16    πŸ“Œ 1
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Very nearly went for this one but then remembered I have an identity outside of my PhD.

01.03.2026 22:18 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

Describe your Bluesky account in a single image.

01.03.2026 22:18 β€” πŸ‘ 6    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 2    πŸ“Œ 3
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a man playing a keyboard with the words " that is how the world works " behind him ALT: a man playing a keyboard with the words " that is how the world works " behind him

Now I have Bo Burnham and Socko stuck in my head.

01.03.2026 22:16 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

Already very tired of this β€œwell people are probably more open to conspiracy theories because the Epstein files showed there is a paedophilic elite” discourse.
That one was never all that contested, and you should absolutely vaccinate your kids.

01.03.2026 22:12 β€” πŸ‘ 2    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0

Oof. I just read your post in the most uncharitable, pedantic way possible, and I gotta tell ya: it's not looking good for you.

01.03.2026 15:04 β€” πŸ‘ 9940    πŸ” 2082    πŸ’¬ 57    πŸ“Œ 58
Over the last two years, there have been assaults, violent attacks on mosques, and anti-Muslim rhetoric from prominent figures on the far right.
But there's also been renewed scrutiny of issues within Muslim communities, and how well integration has happened.
There are questions about how well successive governments have engaged with Muslims to deal with issues in their own communities, and Islamophobia from outside.

Over the last two years, there have been assaults, violent attacks on mosques, and anti-Muslim rhetoric from prominent figures on the far right. But there's also been renewed scrutiny of issues within Muslim communities, and how well integration has happened. There are questions about how well successive governments have engaged with Muslims to deal with issues in their own communities, and Islamophobia from outside.

So the BBC did an article about a Muslim man who got hideous racist abuse for appearing in a β€œWelcome” advert at Heathrow airport…

…and they included this passage. What the actual fuck is wrong with them?!

01.03.2026 20:13 β€” πŸ‘ 454    πŸ” 129    πŸ’¬ 23    πŸ“Œ 23

Souvenirs: kimono, camera, car

01.03.2026 21:25 β€” πŸ‘ 33    πŸ” 2    πŸ’¬ 2    πŸ“Œ 0

Kind of a nutty line from a 1958 Japan travel guide:

"Japan is now mass-producing very good small cars (Nissan Motor Company, Toyota Motor Company, etc.) suitable for the country's narrow roads and you may wish to buy one and ultimately bring it home as a second car."

01.03.2026 21:22 β€” πŸ‘ 86    πŸ” 12    πŸ’¬ 6    πŸ“Œ 0

Shop called Placemakers having a β€œmonster tool sale”. Saw a small child, a baby really, wearing a sticker which read β€œI’m a monster tool”.

01.03.2026 05:25 β€” πŸ‘ 5    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0
FlightRadar24 screenshot showing a Dubai bound Airbus A380 from Auckland returning to Auckland after being turned around north west of Australia.

FlightRadar24 screenshot showing a Dubai bound Airbus A380 from Auckland returning to Auckland after being turned around north west of Australia.

This flight to Dubai got quite a long way there…not sure Singapore is where they are diverting to. Probably the longest scenic flight ever!

28.02.2026 23:45 β€” πŸ‘ 3    πŸ” 2    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

As my supervisor pointed out the other day, this is why I am using Sara Ahmed’s β€œEthnography of Texts” and not Foucault’s genealogy/archiving.

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