@tygersongbird.bsky.social
I'm aromantic asexual. I'm a trivia writer, audiophile, and substack writer, basketball fan, and LGBTQIA+ rights writer. You can find me at your local trivia night, winning probably! https://tygersongbird.substack.com
Yeah, I am pretty immune to all that, I guess. I've never had anybody say they had a crush on me. I'm not the attractive kind, I guess. I can't imagine what it's like being a woman in our hypersexual culture. That sounds nightmarish, honestly.
Same. I didn't know I was ace until I was 26 years-old. It was because no one ever told me that I could be anything otherwise. They said if you weren't straight, then you were gay. I didn't feel the same way my other straight friends did. I never was into sex like them.
#asexual
#kekepalmer
I made a video of myself sharing my thoughts on Keke Palmer coming out as asexual, calling out the people who seem irate at the possibility of a person discovering they're ace later in life after having been in relationships. It's my first true video. Take a listen.
www.youtube.com/watch?v=x7VL...
I made a video of myself sharing my thoughts on Keke Palmer coming out as asexual, calling out the people who seem irate at the possibility of a person discovering they're ace later in life after having been in relationships. It's my first true video. Take a listen.
www.youtube.com/watch?v=x7VL...
I just never really tried, because I just assumed that nobody would ever really want to date me, since I'm asexual. I just never thought anyone would ever want to be interested in me, since I just assumed "everyone wants sex". So, I just never bothered trying.
Question to my fellow asexuals: How do you date without feeling hopeless? Is trying to date even worth it? Can anyone relate?
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Do you ever feel like dating is hopeless? Do you ever feel like there's no point in trying to date?
I wish I could someone who would be okay with having a relationship where sex wasn't involved, but I sincerely don't know if that is even possible. I don't know.
I just feel like dating is a hopeless endeavor somedays, even as loneliness grips me. I feel like if I even tried dating, it would just end in disaster.
Part of me wants to try dating now, perhaps because I've never even been on a date. However, part of me wonders if it's even worth giving it a try, knowing the sexual expectations that come from that.
I used to avoid dating in the past, because I always just assumed that dating = sex. So, I just avoided dating to avoid having sex.
I've never been in a relationship before. Heck, I've never been on a date or even had a first kiss!
Question to my fellow asexuals: How do you date without feeling hopeless? Is trying to date even worth it? Can anyone relate?
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You say it's horseshit, but my experience says that it's true. Every person I've ever met has told me that the only way to truly find love in life is if you have sex, and that a relationship without sex is just a friendship. That's what they told me. So, I just don't try to date for that reason.
I know mine has been more than damaged. I haven't had a hug in ages. It's been years since I had a hug. I've never even had a first kiss. It's definitely a touch deprivation for me.
Same. Some days I just am like "Why bother trying"?
I feel the same way. I feel dating another asexual may be the only way for me, but I also feel it's impossible to even find another ace in the first place.
Yeah, I feel you. I always felt there would be pressure to "put out" when dating, as I was always told that you can't have romance without sex being involved.
I don't think I can do polyamory. I feel I'd be a bit too jealous and want my partner to love me solely.
Finding other aces has been hard, honestly. It's been almost impossible to do so. I keep looking, but so far, nothing has come of it.
Yeah. I have never dated, because I feel that if I were to date, it would never go well, since the other person would want sex at some time.
For so long, I shut myself off to dating, because of my asexuality.
I basically assumed that if I ever even tried to date, that it would never work out, since any prospective partner would want to have sex at some point.
So, I gave up on dating.
Part of me wants to believe that there is someone out there for me as an asexual person, but I also have a bit of pessimism towards the idea. I don't know.
If you're ace like, tell me what you think.
—Songbird ♠️🂡💜🏹
For so long, I shut myself off to dating, because of my asexuality.
I basically assumed that if I ever even tried to date, that it would never work out, since any prospective partner would want to have sex at some point.
So, I gave up on dating.
In church, I remember being told the verse 1 Corinthians 7 that says that you can't "deprive" or "withhold" your partner of sex, because that's a sin.
Because of all that, I gave up on dating as an asexual, and it's why I've never been on a date in my life.
I wonder if anyone can relate to that.
Throughout my life, I was told that I could never date because "sexual compatibility" is a huge deal in relationships, and that if you're not having sex with your partner, you can't date anyone.
Question for my fellow asexuals:
Has anyone else besides me ever felt resigned to being single because they're asexual?
Has anyone else besides me given up on dating, because society says sex is a prerequisite for dating?
Anyone besides me?
—Songbird ♠️🂡💜🏹
In church, I remember being told the verse 1 Corinthians 7 that says that you can't "deprive" or "withhold" your partner of sex, because that's a sin.
Because of all that, I gave up on dating as an asexual, and it's why I've never been on a date in my life.
I wonder if anyone can relate to that.
Throughout my life, I was told that I could never date because "sexual compatibility" is a huge deal in relationships, and that if you're not having sex with your partner, you can't date anyone.