The drunk uncle theory.
You donโt argue with the casually homophobic uncle at Thanksgiving dinner to change his mind; you argue so that the closeted cousin at the kids table knows thereโs safe people and better possibilities out there
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American in London. Feminist. Engineering Executive. Creative technologist, social pollinator, keynoter, and sketchnoter.
The drunk uncle theory.
You donโt argue with the casually homophobic uncle at Thanksgiving dinner to change his mind; you argue so that the closeted cousin at the kids table knows thereโs safe people and better possibilities out there
And while I'm a massive Grateful Dead fan, I don't love their redention. ๐
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Is this from Me & Bobby McGee!?!? My favorite is the Janis Joplin's version (my go to karaoke song).
17.02.2026 00:10 โ ๐ 3 ๐ 1 ๐ฌ 1 ๐ 0Short musings on "cognitive debt" - I'm seeing this in my own work, where excessive unreviewed AI-generated code leads me to lose a firm mental model of what I've built, which then makes it harder to confidently make future decisions simonwillison.net/2026/Feb/15/...
15.02.2026 05:22 โ ๐ 444 ๐ 84 ๐ฌ 42 ๐ 17I enjoyed the wood block printing, but the fashion show snaked through a whole section of the house and made it hard to move around.
15.02.2026 10:57 โ ๐ 1 ๐ 0 ๐ฌ 0 ๐ 0It was my first after hours event (except Christmas at Kew) and not sure if I'd go back for another!
It didn't feel well organized (sent us to the wrong gate requiring an extra 30 minute walk), was overcrowded, had limited food options, and only allowed access to the smallest area of the gardens.
Dragon sculpture of plants in the Kew glass house.
Koi sculpture from plants at Kew glass houses
Hanging red lanterns with some purple lights and some plants
Fun star shaped orchid
Went to Kew Gardens last night for Orchids After Hours. It was interesting, but I would recommend seeing Orchids during the day instead. The lighting didn't do much for the flowers and the programming was a bit meh.
15.02.2026 10:56 โ ๐ 3 ๐ 0 ๐ฌ 1 ๐ 0How was one of the most loved programming languages - Kotlin - created, and what is next after it? This is a rare and special conversation with Kotlin creator Andrey Breslav, with so many fascinating details on how Kotlin became the global success as it is today.
youtu.be/ZggUn2mNqMU
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You have to resist that pull and invest energy into making sure you have the time to do the things you want to do.
So I annoyed myself when I said โI donโt have timeโ because itโs not true. I didnโt make the time. Me. Through my decisions. I should have said โI havenโt made the time yet.โ
I feel like a lot of people think about time wrong. Been bugging me since I talked about side projects the other day and was complaining about it.
I had to remind myself that at no point in my adult life has time been given to me, or materialised out of nowhere. You have to actively create time.
Weep not, for thrill is in the noble pursuit. You will find pens that closely approach the perfection you seek, close enough to strengthen your resolve to seek further.
PSA: this post was not sponsored by the pen makers of the world.๐ฌ
Itโs a never-ending quest, to find the pen to rule all pens, the pen that fits your hand and no other, is of delightful heft and beautiful in the writing.
Youโll never find such a pen, but youโll never stop looking.
I find I can do deep, difficult analytic work for some amount of time followed by some people/management work. I seem to have a different reserve for creative work and sometimes can do several hours post work.
09.02.2026 23:23 โ ๐ 2 ๐ 0 ๐ฌ 0 ๐ 0I straight up don't believe anyone who says they do actual, brain-involving work 12 hours a day. After about hour 5, I am an empty vessel with no remaining thoughts. I can do like email at that point, but any real thinking is done until tomorrow
09.02.2026 20:06 โ ๐ 129 ๐ 15 ๐ฌ 5 ๐ 2Study: Majority Of Humans Happiest When Rest Of Family Still Asleep
Study: Majority Of Humans Happiest When Rest Of Family Still Asleep https://theonion.com/study-majority-of-humans-happiest-when-rest-of-family-1819579602/
08.02.2026 20:00 โ ๐ 1720 ๐ 154 ๐ฌ 19 ๐ 26๐ค I wonder how long it takes to feel like you're your new nationality? I don't identify as British. I'm also still American.
08.02.2026 10:37 โ ๐ 1 ๐ 0 ๐ฌ 0 ๐ 0I'm an old school programmer who LOVED the CLI, but I also LOVE the IDE.
Haven't been orchestrating swarms of agents yet, but feels like it's easier to have multiple "threads" going in the CLI instead of an IDE โ which is more of a 1:1 experience of implementing a thing in focused mode.
Do not make art if you don't enjoy the process of slowly getting better at making art. That is the gate. Consider yourself kept.
06.02.2026 18:54 โ ๐ 334 ๐ 90 ๐ฌ 3 ๐ 6Me! ๐๐ปโโ๏ธ
06.02.2026 18:06 โ ๐ 2 ๐ 0 ๐ฌ 0 ๐ 0When you design a life or business strategy around Pivot Points, it's magical. You're 'doing your calling.' Youโre more efficient, effective, and having more fun.
What are they, and why are โstrengths and weaknessesโ the wrong way to think?
I'm so happy being back in a Google Workspace world (instead of Microsoft hell). One accommodation I'm loving is when my brain can't read and translate words into ideas anymore, there's a little button to read stuff aloud to me. ๐ฃ๏ธ
03.02.2026 14:52 โ ๐ 1 ๐ 0 ๐ฌ 0 ๐ 0The great thing about February is that it has only 28 days, unlike January which had 10,000
02.02.2026 16:48 โ ๐ 356 ๐ 48 ๐ฌ 9 ๐ 4โImagination is everything. It is the preview of lifeโs coming attractions.โ - Albert Einstein
01.02.2026 16:43 โ ๐ 105 ๐ 14 ๐ฌ 0 ๐ 0ICE murdered Renรฉe Good in broad daylight. Less than 3 weeks later, they killed Alex Pretti, shooting him 10 times. Every day, we watch as people are ripped from their cars, their homes, their lives.
We can't allow ourselves to look away from this cruelty. Abolish ICE.
Illustration by KitsuneArt, limited colour palette (blue and yellow/gold). Frodo and Sam from the Lord of the Rings movie (the Two Towers) standing in the ruins of Osgiliath, holding hands. On top of their heads Sam's words, handwritten by KitsuneArt: "There is some good in this world and it's worth fighting for".
"But in the end, itโs only a passing thing, this shadow. Even darkness must pass. A new day will come. And when the sun shines it will shine out the clearer. [...]"
"...Thereโs some good in this world, Mr. Frodo. And itโs worth fighting for."
those who predicted authoritarianism were both dismissed, & deeply misunderstood, by the media
my latest for @newrepublic.com
newrepublic.com/article/2042...
I was in the market for basics and got some great pieces!
Not pictured โ another white blouse (which I haven't had in YEARS), 2 pairs of straight slacks, and a OTT jean shirt that I am going to wear the hell out of.
Last piece that's missing is a pair of black (or red!) flats.
Pleated skirt, white ruffled shirt thingy that almost looks like it belongs in a marching band.
Light blue blouse, fun trousers
Paper bag shirt and the top that almost, but not quite fits. Got a similar shirt.
Cashmere green sweater over the first outfit
Went for a personal shopper appointment yesterday, which is a much nicer way to shop! I struggle to find stuff that fits and having someone handle all the selection, sizing, and putting stuff back is ace. Some favorites โ
26.01.2026 17:51 โ ๐ 2 ๐ 0 ๐ฌ 1 ๐ 0You donโt know your role yet maybe, but we are all finding out just what we have to offer.
In Minneapolis, one man knew immediately what he could offer and said โBring me your clothingโ.