Goals. Even just the word can stir up all sorts of feelings. And any resistance to working on goals can stir up enormous disapproval for self. #gentlelovingkindness will effectively lead to movement forward on goals. Disapproval or harsh self talk will make forward movement even harder. 💗💗💗

Disapproving of ourselves for not letting go doesn't help letting go. It constricts us and we end up holding tighter. Welcome everything and everything will let go. Remember, letting go is an internal energetic process. It does not mean we are giving up.

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Internal controversies are successfully addressed by unravelling energy disturbances in the body. Energy disturbances are resolved simply by bringing awareness to the sensations and that supports needed clearing or rebalancing adjustment in flow direction.

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Just bringing awareness to the breath, letting it do whatever it is doing and just tracking it, observing it, without trying to fix it or change it, will change it organically into a deeper more satisfying experience. 🥰

Notice how the body is presenting, sensations etc, & the mind, thoughts etc, & as best you can, bring awareness to the current experience without trying to change any of it. Let it be as noisy or quiet as it is in this moment. And remember to visit & simply notice the breath every now and again. 🥰

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Just for now, could you let go of referring to the past to remind yourself of who you are? Would you let go of referring to the past to remind yourself of who you are if you could? When might you do that, if you could?

It's going to take awhile for supportive self-talk to feel normal or comfortable. Most of us survivors & addicts in recovery are used to internal dialogue that is cynical, sarcastic, & critical.

Honing an internal voice that is supportive AND authentic is going to take a minute.

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Letting go isn't an idea. It's an actual action step. The reference we use is like letting something we are holding in our hand, like a pen or a ball, simply drop.

Releasing is both a modern process of self inquiry and an energy modality. It dissolves stuck and supports getting into flow and flow helps everything.

Can you be open to the possibility that you are already that which you are working so hard to become?

We exist, well, even that is questionable in some contexts, however, existence as we assume to experience it can and does occur both in the world of form as well as in the realm of the formless. The ability to shift focus from one to the other at will can be very helpful.

Safe people don't shame or yell at us for needing to take the time we need-- whether it's to speak, to act, to trust, or to heal.

Just for now could you let go internally of everything you think you know about everything just for now so that any self sabotaging programs can be rapidly dissolved.

Reminder: Letting go is an internal process. It doesn't mean we are giving up. It means we are releasing all internal programs accumulated over our life times that are working cross purposes and against our goals.

"What are you going to do, cry about it?"

Yes, actually. There is zero shame in crying, & lots of well-established reasons why it's one of the healthiest things to do when we need to. People who mock crying are advertising their ignorance & insecurity. Bad look for them.

You're not "stupid," your reactions aren't "stupid," & your decisions, even the ones you don't love or that didn't work out, aren't "stupid." Improving our ability to make recovery consistent decisions does not start by pretending either trauma or recovery is about intelligence.

People misunderstand compassion & validation as they apply to trauma recovery. They are not warm & fuzzy ways to make "excuses." They are clear eyed, reality oriented tools that empower us to face truths we've been tricked by trauma into denying & disowning for too long.

Patience is an indispensable trauma recovery tool for the sole reason that changes that "stick" realistically take time & occur in increments. Trauma Brain really wants us to believe we "can't" stay focused & consistent long enough for meaningful change to "take."

It is wrong.

Letting go is an internal process. It doesn't me giving up on or submitting to anything. It means letting the internal chaos that seems so intelligent and important fall away so there is room for understanding, insight and revelation.

Aww, so sorry to read this. 👍💔

It's not unreasonable to want approval, control and safety. So as best we can, let's let go of feeling like we are doing something WRONG when we want these things. Welcome wanting them fully and notice what that feelings like in the body.