Cody Daigle-Orians

On Childs, on Nauls, on Blair and MacReady!

On Palmer, on Norris, on Clark and the Thingy!

You (or, How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Love My Asexuality) What I mean when I say, "I'm glad you're here."

Here’s why I always sign off with “I’m glad you’re here.”

Allo people need aspec literacy, too. There's value in extending our education efforts to catch allos up to speed on our lives and experiences.

Aspec language being used by allo people in ways that erase their aspec meanings point to the necessity for expanding aspec literacy for allo people.

My sentiments exactly

Second acts of musicals are HARD, and it's a rare one that's not kind of a mess. I think Wicked's is a little messier than some. I'm not keen on 3 hours of it.

a man is saying sorry bout it in front of a purple lip ALT: a man is saying sorry bout it in front of a purple lip

Me watching people discovering Act Two of Wicked is a little bit of a mess:

First semester at my Ohio university under SB1, and this question now appears on the course evals.

Sorry, Ohio. Not gonna be a narc.

Super excited for BEING ARO!

Respectfully: Ace/allo relationships work under the specific circumstance of people coming together with good, respectful relationship skills. If they weren’t respecting boundaries and you were people pleasing against your needs and wants, that’s under any circumstance going to lead to bad outcomes

"I don't know where to begin forming a relationship with an allo person. Help!" What to do when it's hard to imagine how an ace/allo relationship might succeed.

"Instead of spending your time trying to figure out how to please an imaginary partner, focus your time on imagining what you want out of a relationship and a partner. Think about the things that make a relationship fulfilling and nurturing to you."

It was so much fun to reread! Thanks for doing it, friend.

Horror, Telling Stories, and Aspec Power... with Ell Huang In this One on One, I talk to my lovely friend and fellow horror fan Ell Huang about our shared love of horror, bringing an aspec lens to the genre, and reclaiming the power of our stories as aspec pe...

I deeply enjoyed talking horror, reclaiming stories, and aspec power with my friend @nocturnalxlight.bsky.social. This was an absolute delight, and Ell delivers so many gems here. Gotta read it.

can someone recommend a therapy theory-minded book about trauma? I'm interested in a text that will explore trauma from the angle of how therapy understands it and how it approaches it treatment-wise.

sadiq @SadiqoJN • Follow Why do bash "dead-beat" dads for not being there for their kids but we never question if the child has bad vibes? Or if they're just unpleasant to be around?

Frankenstein (2025)

"I'm worried I'll never get what I need from my relationships." Sometimes, the complexity of our experience can make seeing our full selves (and what we offer) difficult.

From the advice column: "Enter new connections as you. Live in that good space of your interests, your sense of humor, your care for other people, your curiosity about their lives. Don’t forget: you are not exclusively your challenges."

Had to postone, so this workshop is now coming up on Sunday!
www.crowdcast.io/c/aspecfree

I’ve had a few interactions recently with people who say they’re demisexual and then describe wildly not demisexual experiences, and I fear allo people are gonna render that word meaningless for actual ace-spec demi folks.

Sex-favorable asexuality *is* asexuality. Being sex-favorable isn't an "easier" form of asexuality.

There's often a suggestion that sex-favorable ace people have an easy road. But sex-favorable asexuality is still asexuality.

I'm of course very happy the Supreme Court won't hear the case to overturn Obergefell v Hodges. That's great news.

I would not be surprised, however, if the dismantling of marriage equality shows up in some other form down the road.

Therapists I’ve jived with in my life have all been men I thought, “that’s a gay man, Maury” but were married to women and had children.

That’s my new screening question going forward.

"My roommate has a new boyfriend, and it's changing our relationship." Tackle the changes head-on, and be honest about what you're feeling.

New on the advice column: there are ways to navigate a changing landscape with a close friend when romance enters the picture.

A thing that always cracks me up on the gay apps: guys who have screen names like "BIGDADDY202" or something and they're like 21. Mama, help me.

THAT WOULD BE DOPE. You're one my ace heroes, so yes please.

Hey friend, thank you! it's inspired by a playwright friend of mine who did something similar with playwrights. It was such a cool way to connect to a sense of "community." I thought it might be cool for our communities!

Thank you for participating! I think it's so valuable to hear a lot of aspec voices and see that we're living all different sorts of lives. I'm glad you're here!

High Five: Aspec Interviews — Ace Dad Advice

Since it's the 5th, it's a great day to launch the first set of High Five interviews!

You can't read a life written in invisible ink. Asexual invisibility, intelligibility and learning to read ourselves.

Aspec invisibility isn’t the only obstacle in figuring ourselves out and embracing who we are.

Attack on Titan (2013)

* joke made by @neilmakesthings.bsky.social

This is a phenomenal thing I wish was real

Merci!