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—cowardly-bisexual

an idea which you cannot escape and which profoundly shapes your life and your understanding of yourself as a person, nah, why would that count

and never encompassing anything so trivial as merely living in a society structured around the idea that you are less human and fundamentally defective and dangerous and shouldn’t exist,

i’m baffled by the people i keep seeing defining “experiencing homophobia/transphobia” as restricted to like, having interpersonal homophobic/transphobic abuse directed at you personally,

TOUCH

open.spotify.com/track/2w3yu5...

vocês têm que parar com essa narrativa de que o ilya é evil bisexual

galera esquece que celebridades também têm pais e que não é só porque o artista conseguiu papel lgbt, que a família é de boas com isso. a pessoa tem que lidar com a mídia, com o público e com a família.

—cowardly-bisexual

building identity and community around who you’re attracted to? vital to our organising, activism, communities and survival.

building identity around how you’re attracted to people? self indulgent, individualist and politically completely useless.

so when you redefine sexual orientation to mean not who you’re attracted to but how, you’re just displaying your ignorance of historical and societal context of gay, lesbian and bisexual communities and your ignorance of why they are still vital for us today.

these historical labels and movements exist because they are how we survived, they are why we are here and why we have the rights that we do.

lesbian, gay and bisexual movements? were created to stand up to that oppression, reclaim and redefine the labels that were forced onto us and fight for our lives, our safety and our dignity.

sexual orientation is who you’re attracted to not how. and i’m not just saying this to be an asshole, sexual orientation is a social construct that was historically created to medicalise, criminalise and kill gay and bisexual people.

—cowardly-bisexual

How and why would bisexuality reinforce binaries when binaries are the main reason bisexuality is so oppressed and invisible?

To accuse bisexuality of being binary because of its prefix is to display a complete ignorance not only of bisexual history but of the nature of bisexuality itself.

A lot of these bisexual books also talk about the natural alliance between bisexuality and trans identities (including non-binary ones) because they both occupy the same liminal space and undermine the same binary frameworks.

Bisexuality is inherently liminal and one of the reasons why bisexual erasure is so prevalent is because its mere existence threatens a society based on heteronormativity and the gender binary.

The reason why any bisexual book from the last 50 years that you pick up will inevitably at some point rail against sexual and gender binaries is because binaries hurt bisexuals.

—cowardly-bisexual

so when you’re accusing bisexuality of being binary you’re missing the whole point because you’re looking at it through the perspective of the wrong axis (gender instead of sexuality)

bisexuality is not only just as subversive as non-binary, it has also always shared a natural alliance with non-binary because they’re parallel to each other

they’re both erased, fetishised and misunderstood because they’re seen as both/neither/in between the binary options.

a lot of the problems that bisexuals and non-binary people face are similar because they share their position on their separate axis, they’re both accused of not being real, being a trend, being temporary or a stepping stone,

non-binary exists outside the gender binary, outside of male and female. bisexuality exists outside of the sexual binary, outside gay and straight.

another thing that really annoys me about this “bisexuality is binary” thing is that bisexuality absolutely is not and never was binary, except bisexuality is defying a sexual binary because you know, it’s a sexuality

—cowardly-bisexual

I'm begging you, please stop telling people that struggling to accept you're LGBT isn't a thing and that we should just try on new, less stigmatised labels that help us run away from stigmatised old ones instead of facing our own shame, guilt and internalised LGBT-phobia.

as if shame, fear and internalised stereotypes about LGBT people aren't feelings that influence what we want to call ourselves and how we want to present to the world...

I also love everyone saying the main criteria for chosing a label should be that "it feels good" and that "your feelings are valid and important"