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Gramma, a Galápagos Tortoise at the San Diego Zoo, Dies at About 141

Not the obituary I wanted to read today.

www.nytimes.com/2025/11/24/s...

This is brutal. (The subscription notice.)

Sometimes news breaks and you know immediately that @dansavage.bsky.social will use it for the intro to the next week’s Savage Lovecast.

Wait — what is it? Help a guy out!

Sign outside an oil change shop in Brooklyn that reads BROOKLYN LUBRICANTS

This sounds like the country’s worst minor league team

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The caller dated her neighbor for a while, until it became clear that she couldn’t enjoy s*x with him because his giant p was too big for her. Now that she is starting to date other men, should she tell them the history of her friendly neighbor? Listen to answer at 9min mark: savage.love/lovecast

Would love to have you on the show to talk about this — and your book. Can you DM me an email address where I can reach you?

Thank you — great suggestion. Will reach out to the study's author!

It's a Complicated Issue: A Qualitative Study Investigating the Decision to Enter Sex Work in the United States and the Meaning Behind It is the best title ever for a new study! Listen to our interview with the study author, marriage and family therapist Ashley Bloomberg. savage.love/lovecast.

They’re just making up pop stars to fuck with us, right?

So, you use “wee little” like I use “assless chaps”?

Missouri Youth Pastor Arrested On Child Sex Charges - Joe.My.God. Kansas City’s ABC affiliate reports: An associate youth pastor in Clay County, Missouri, is facing several charges for sex crimes involving a teenager. Donald Aaron Axtell has been charged with felony...

Are we still arresting youth pastors for fucking 15 year olds? Huh. Looks like we are.

www.joemygod.com/2025/11/miss...

Wee little? WEE LITTLE?!? Billy!

I got an actual "Your silence on this subject is deafening" message this AM, so, super-quick: Nobody here owes anyone commentary about anything. This is a public park. It's full of interesting people. We hang out here, make friends, and chat, and then we leave to do whatever it is we do. That's it!

No more big city mayors who hate big cities.

Trump Fragrances Trump Fragrances

This alone would've gotten a previous president laughed out of office so fast there wasn't time to impeach him.

gettrumpfragrances.com

Sometimes on a sex advice podcast, you have to call a veterinarian. A man’s new girlfriend lets the cat hump her leg to completion. He thinks this is kind of gross. We bring on a veterinarian from Seattle’s Urban Animal to confirm if it is indeed “gross.” Listen at savage.love/lovecast

Colorado Pastor Charged With Sexual Assault Of Minor - Joe.My.God. Denver’s CBS affiliate reports: Fort Collins police have arrested Matthew McGinley, 30, accusing the former worship pastor and teacher of sexual assault of a minor by a person in a position of trust. ...

If kids got raped by clowns as often as they get raped by preachers it would be against the law to take your kids to the circus.

www.joemygod.com/2025/11/colo...

It's the turducken of conspiracies.

More than 80 nonprofits receive $250M for global women's health from Melinda French Gates More than 80 organizations that provide health care for women all over the world received grants Wednesday totaling $250 million from Melinda French Gates after a y…

I've been sitting on this and trying not to leak but...

It's us. We were one of the 80+ :)

financialpost.com/pmn/more-tha...

He would make history as our first gay-baiting member of Congress. (And our 11th or 12th Kennedy.)

I used "pegging" in a zoom marketing meeting today, thinking it meant targeting a donor group. I've never seen so many heads snap up at once at the use of a word.

But what about… girth? Sex researcher Dr. Debby Herbenick is on the Lovecast today to talk about the physiology of female pleasure and the continuing popularity of choking.
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Former Church Youth Director Sentenced to 30 Years for Child Exploitation and Pornography

Church lock-ins! What could go wrong?

www.justice.gov/usao-wdmo/pr...

Take that, coastal elites!

They shouldn't be allowed to live near schools or parks. Or churches. They should definitely be kept out of churches.

I hope someone, somewhere is writing on opera based on this story.