Toby

I started writing the first chapter or what I hope will turn into a book at some point, early days but it’s something I’ve wanted to do for a while now.

2025 has been WILD and SHIT in equal parts. Some things are ending, others may open new doors. Cryptic for now, but I’ll share soon. I even touched on one in my podcast (Toby Honest). This has nothing to do with the pre-shower pit/himbo pic, just me trying to post more. ❤️ #lifeupdate #armpit #himbo

All the best for tomorrow ❤️

Listening and revisiting #björk’s entire discography, currently listening to the #Post album, so good!

I’m in an interesting process of streamlining all of the online alter-egos I’ve had for years for different creative outputs into one, Toby Huxley - I think I spread myself out so thinly and want to bring everything back under my name properly

Thanks lovely!

I am more than ready for the summer and it’s hot weather to do one, give me cold crisp and cosy weather please!

Yes :D

I really hope those affected understand. Things are slowly lightening. And if you do want to reach out, I’m more likely to reply now. Thanks for your patience 💙

So if I’ve been quiet, slower to respond, or not my usual self, I’m sorry. Please know it hasn’t been about you, just me trying to survive a storm of health, neurodivergence, sleep struggles & work stress.

I’ve now raised a formal grievance, with Union & ACAS support. It’s been exhausting, draining, & has affected every part of my life but I’m still standing, just about.

That meeting blindsided me: failings I’d never been told of, my adjustments used against me. I left traumatised & suicidal. I appealed & won again, as it was found procedurally flawed.

While all this was going on, work became very difficult. I was given a disability-related absence warning, appealed, & won. But the next day I was hit with a Stage 2 performance meeting, skipping Stage 1 entirely.

At the same time, I’ve had new physical health issues that leave me fatigued & less mobile. I’m also being tested for sleep apnoea (NHS waits are 54+ weeks).

To complicate things, I’m in the small % where ADHD meds just… stop working. I’m now waiting in a long queue before I can trial a new one, which makes everything harder.

In 2023 I was re-diagnosed with ADHD. In March this year, I was also diagnosed Autistic. Since then I’ve been unmasking, learning how I really function, & dealing with the burnout that came from years of masking.

I’ve been quieter than usual, both socially & in-person. I want to share why & also apologise if I’ve seemed unresponsive. It hasn’t been intentional, just a lot to deal with. (Thread 🧵)

I’ll happily come back!

Tired af 😴

On Hold Forever by Huxorhythm Listen now on your favorite streaming service. Powered by Songlink/Odesli, an on-demand, customizable smart link service to help you share songs, albums, podcasts and more.

“Hi, thanks for your call, please hold, I just wanted to let you know that we’re on the line - forever, forever, forever” song.link/onholdforever

Who’s that in the artwork? 👀😅😂

symphöbias & Huxorhythm - Paternal Ghost Choose your preferred music service

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“WHIFF-A-RAMA!” 😂

if you fancy more chaos, thoughts, or just wanna get a better sense of what’s going on in my brain, the podcast’s at tobyhonest.com and the blog’s at blog.tobyhonest.com. hoping it helps someone feel a bit less alone.

and while i’m here—support trans people, always. fuck terfs, fuck jk rowling, and fuck anyone who makes life harder for people just trying to exist. trans rights are human rights.

don’t know how i’d get through half of this without my partners. their love and support means everything—through all this crap and everything else life’s thrown at me. genuinely don’t know what i’d do without them.

might do a full blog or podcast soon—too much going on and these little posts don’t cut it. not that anyone listens or reads, but still… might help me get it all out.

feels like i’m constantly fighting just to stay afloat—and while i’m fighting, more crap just keeps getting thrown at me. like, how am i meant to deal with it all when i can’t even catch a break?

my legs are getting worse and i’m barely able to move some days. stuck waiting on nhs appointments that keep getting cancelled and never rescheduled. feels like i’m just being left to get worse with no support.