Psychoanalytic theory has long posited that the ego structures itself in relation to danger: defenses that consistently alleviate anxiety are preserved, practiced, and ultimately internalized as “who I am” rather than “what I learned to do.
You won’t meet a quality dating partner if you’re unfriendly and don’t show kindness.
Toxic positivity and authentic positivity may look similar on the surface (affirmations, optimism) but at their core? They operate on opposite attitudes toward the self. One is denial; the other is integration.
Toxic positivity and authentic positivity may look similar on the surface (affirmations, optimism) but at their core? They operate on opposite attitudes toward the self. One is denial; the other is integration.
It’s more important now than ever before to remind yourself DAILY of your goals, values, and personally relevant commitments, to avoid being sucked into someone else’s narrative and to resist being transformed into a human battery 🔋
Your time and emotions are your two most precious personal resources.
These are constantly manipulated and tempted by marketing tactics aimed at dehumanizing you and extracting your effort while offering little in return.
Trauma’s not just a memory. It’s a lens. Therapy doesn’t erase it; it refocuses. How can you adjust your view today?
What’s the most unhinged thing a therapist has ever said to you?
#mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealth #emdr #therapy #psychology #anxiety #depression
What’s the most unhinged thing a therapist has ever said to you?
#mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealth #emdr #therapy #psychology #anxiety #depression
This is the power of bilateral stimulation for healing trauma
Hi new Blue Buds,
Time for an introduction. I’m a trauma therapist and researcher specializing in:
🧠EMDR
🧠peak performance/high achieving individuals
🧠applied neuroscience
🧠men’s mental health
🧠spiritual issues in therapy
🧠relationship wellness
🧠ego state/parts work
Church hurt and spiritual abuse come in the form of being told “you’re a bad Christian if you experience depression,” when depression truly means you’re overwhelmed and need support.
What other forms of church hurt and spiritual abuse have you noticed? What should I address next?
Church hurt and spiritual abuse come in the form of being told “you’re a bad Christian if you experience depression,” when depression truly means you’re overwhelmed and need support.
What other forms of church hurt and spiritual abuse have you noticed? What should I address next?
If you would like to support my efforts to be a positive force for psychology, please follow me on substack. It’s free. Here’s my latest article, about how the mental health field has arisen in response to our fragmented, atomized, digitized culture.
open.substack.com/pub/psychfox...
If you would like to support my efforts to be a positive force for psychology, please follow me on substack. It’s free. Here’s my latest article, about how the mental health field has arisen in response to our fragmented, atomized, digitized culture.
open.substack.com/pub/psychfox...
Does anyone need therapy for Yuletide season arguments with family this year?
Philosophically-inclined people often cling to the “rational choice” model of human behavior, which is a huge miscalculation and will not help you to understand many or even most human beings. Here’s why:
Many people behave based on a cocktail of habit, emotions, and reactions.
If Adam Smith’s rational choice/actor model were fully true, human beings could immediately answer the question “why did you do that?”
As we know, people are often mysteries to themselves on important matters, such as romantic partner selection or other preferences.
There is not some grand design that is fully understood and acted out in an incremental fashion, but rather the struggles of the day and responses to momentary challenges.
Philosophically-inclined people often cling to the “rational choice” model of human behavior, which is a huge miscalculation and will not help you to understand many or even most human beings. Here’s why:
Many people behave based on a cocktail of habit, emotions, and reactions.
Crucial wisdom I have to remind myself to heed:
Lay down your worries after you’ve done all you can to address them. Focus on the talents and passions you can control at present. Build the now, rather than focusing on what was wrong then, or what could happen next.
Essential question to ask while dating 👇
"Am I hoping that over time this person will change to better meet my needs?"
Therapists of bluesky, what’s your spiciest, hottest take? No holds barred, let it out.
Online dating app creators should be sentenced to using their own platforms to find a partner. #dating
Connections from content that resonates seems more satisfying than “pity follows,” anyway.
Always the Mellow never the Yellow
Bring on the GAME
Some red flags in dating:
🚩putting you on “do not disturb” for long periods of time
🚩treating you like a last resort
🚩refusal to take phone calls
🚩unavailability to meet or spend quality time
🚩defensiveness when you make any requests
What else would you add?
Hi new Blue Buds,
Time for an introduction. I’m a trauma therapist and researcher specializing in:
🧠EMDR
🧠peak performance/high achieving individuals
🧠applied neuroscience
🧠men’s mental health
🧠spiritual issues in therapy
🧠relationship wellness
🧠ego state/parts work
