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Nicole Gathany

@softest-engineer.bsky.social

Software engineer at #MournTogether | “Certified geek; 5 days a week. DRY ... code. Got them GitHub squares green!” http://nicolegathany.com | https://mourntogether.com/ https://www.twitch.tv/softest_engineer

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One thing I feel safe enough to talk about publicly is it felt like lots of men in what I’m calling 99SWEs just trauma dumped on me when it was just supposed to be a coffee chat or I was teaching DSA. Not why I left but it’s certainly a reason I’m glad I did. Idc about ur breakup or ur wife cheating

15.02.2026 19:49 — 👍 0    🔁 0    💬 1    📌 0

Lol it’s only my bad. I wonder if I’ll ever feel comfortable telling my story. Lol

15.02.2026 19:36 — 👍 0    🔁 0    💬 1    📌 0

Lol I thought I deleted all the posts

15.02.2026 19:18 — 👍 0    🔁 0    💬 1    📌 0

No! It’s a good thing. I like the names. I remember Cocomelon Camp and there was another one I liked.

12.02.2026 21:25 — 👍 1    🔁 0    💬 1    📌 0

Maybe it’s your energy? Or facial features? Or the type of name you pick? Idk actually.

12.02.2026 18:37 — 👍 0    🔁 0    💬 1    📌 0

Now that I’ve decided to start meeting people where they are (two days ago), I realized everyone is basic to someone in some area. Everyone’s special interest is different.

12.02.2026 17:07 — 👍 2    🔁 0    💬 0    📌 0

It’s weird. Even when you change your name and profile pic, I know it’s you. And I may have said that already.

12.02.2026 17:05 — 👍 0    🔁 0    💬 1    📌 0

Dang! I didn’t realize he died! RIP

11.02.2026 22:24 — 👍 0    🔁 0    💬 0    📌 0
Preview
a man is making a funny face and says `` i don 't want your life '' . ALT: a man is making a funny face and says `` i don 't want your life '' .

Me when someone gives me advice based on their goals

11.02.2026 20:17 — 👍 1    🔁 0    💬 1    📌 0

I really, really did feel the love

11.02.2026 11:53 — 👍 0    🔁 0    💬 0    📌 0

Despite my 1000 day streak on Duolingo, I didn’t catch much of what Benito said but I know he told me to believe in myself.

10.02.2026 14:03 — 👍 5    🔁 0    💬 1    📌 0

I loved that Bad Bunny said “God bless America!”

Then listed countries and islands in the western hemisphere starting from Columbia and Ecuador and ending with the US and Canada. Thus demonstrating that the western hemisphere is the Americas and giving US a social studies lesson many need.

10.02.2026 13:19 — 👍 9    🔁 2    💬 0    📌 0

Amy Adams was dope in this. Her and Meredith taught me to ashamed and then unashamed about loving Legally Blonde.

29.01.2026 21:03 — 👍 1    🔁 0    💬 0    📌 1

What will go down in history as a worst investment:

NFTs or Beanie Babies?

29.01.2026 21:00 — 👍 2    🔁 0    💬 1    📌 0

What’s the book?

21.01.2026 19:15 — 👍 1    🔁 0    💬 0    📌 0

Uhhh I am. When I don’t, sometimes I guess the wrong thing.

15.01.2026 13:30 — 👍 0    🔁 0    💬 0    📌 0

To other software engineers:

Do you get a lot of messages from financial advisors?

How do you deal with them?

08.01.2026 17:13 — 👍 2    🔁 0    💬 0    📌 0

When women don’t eat, it’s anorexia but when Jack Dorsey does it, it’s “intermittent fasting”?

06.01.2026 06:00 — 👍 2    🔁 0    💬 1    📌 0

Hot take: many tech bros need to heal their relationship with food

This includes but is not limited to:

-biohackers
-keto evangelists
-intermittent faster

Go to therapy!

06.01.2026 05:58 — 👍 8    🔁 0    💬 1    📌 0

I will say…I loved the director’s other movies especially The Lobster and Poor Things. I haven’t seen the deer one because that’s scary.

02.01.2026 14:49 — 👍 0    🔁 0    💬 0    📌 0

Stranger Things (a show), Scream, Blair Witch Project.

02.01.2026 02:30 — 👍 1    🔁 0    💬 1    📌 0

Ppl always say that about movies I end up finding scary

01.01.2026 22:00 — 👍 1    🔁 0    💬 1    📌 0

So one of my biggest takeaways for 2025:

Everyone knows something. No one knows everything.

I keep repeating that.

Credit goes to someone named Justin but idk if wants me to credit him by last name too.

01.01.2026 20:47 — 👍 6    🔁 0    💬 0    📌 0

Ohhhh I wanna see it but I’m scared

01.01.2026 20:44 — 👍 0    🔁 0    💬 1    📌 0

Christmas Chronicles 2 reminds me of that episode of The Boondocks where that little girl chants “Praise Santa!!” in the church.

27.12.2025 02:01 — 👍 1    🔁 0    💬 0    📌 0

You were so great in What We Do in the Shadows. That’s like my favorite episode. I didn’t recognize you at first. Or the second time or the tenth time I saw the episode.

27.12.2025 02:00 — 👍 1    🔁 0    💬 0    📌 0

Tonight i was simply having a wonderful Christmas time with @ericastanley.com and many others

19.12.2025 05:04 — 👍 3    🔁 0    💬 0    📌 0

I have an education fund at work that starts over on Jan 1. I need to spend all the money or I lose it. It’s like Brewster’s Million over here except it’s only $576 more dollars only on education. Books, courses, conferences all count. I’ve already gotten Scrimba Premium and Great FE. Drop your recs

12.12.2025 15:08 — 👍 1    🔁 1    💬 0    📌 0

Wow. The “Double Dutch Bus” song is so relatable if you ever had to rely on public transportation in a car dependent city.

But reading about the song made me raise -izzle slang didn’t originate in Long Beach with Snoop Dogg.

09.12.2025 01:33 — 👍 6    🔁 0    💬 0    📌 0

Yeah! I was only a substitute for four months and I’m scared for my babies.

22.11.2025 16:47 — 👍 49    🔁 2    💬 0    📌 0

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