Stephanie Garcia

It's funny what you pay attention to while untangling necklaces.

You notice where you're was forcing things.
You notice where you could pause instead.
You notice how quickly clarity comes once you stop pulling.

I learned that healing isn’t soft.

It’s not candles and calm seas,
it’s storm waves and silence.


It’s screaming into the deep
until
you remember you were never meant to drown.

Healing wasn’t calm seas —

it was salt in every wound,

currents pulling at everything I thought I was.


But I kept swimming.

I learned to float.

When did you last rehearse a hard conversation before it was high stakes?
What’s shaping your judgment this quarter: a mentor, a book, a class?

If the answer is “nothing,” that’s the constraint.
Fix that before you buy another seat at a mastermind.

Open your calendar.

When do you flex your leadership muscle?
What reps are you putting in for feedback, standards, and decision speed?
Who’s coaching you on leading humans (not just scaling offers)?

Can you cast a clear vision and repeat it until it sticks?
Can you coach without coddling?
Can you give feedback that’s direct, humane, and on time?
Can you make a call with 70% of the data and own the outcome?
Can you turn a room full of individuals into a team that moves as one?

You’re hoarding strategies and systems while ignoring the one skill that makes them work.

Leadership.

Funnels don’t inspire trust.
SOPs don’t resolve conflict.
Dashboards don’t set standards.

Do you even know how to lead?

11. Your imagination is more powerful than your logic.

Your subconscious mind responds to mental images, not reasoning.
If you constantly imagine failure, your brain makes it real.

Flip the script:
Visualize the win.
Train your mind like it already happened.

10. Your mind is the control panel of your life.

If you only upgrade your tactics but not your identity, you’ll always hit a ceiling.

Rewire your mental blueprint → unlock your potential.

9. You are not your past.

Your old self-image was formed by random events,
childhood moments, and other people’s opinions.

You can rewrite the story.
Create a new identity on purpose.

8. “Happiness is a habit. So is depression.”

Your emotional states are reinforced by repetition.
Smile. Breathe. Interrupt the negative pattern.

Happiness is a skill—one you can practice.

7. Relaxation is the secret weapon.

Peak performance doesn’t come from tension—it comes from calm focus.

Train yourself to be relaxed in stressful moments,
and you’ll make better decisions than 99% of people.

6. Mistakes are feedback, not failures.

Maltz compares humans to guided missiles:
We go off course constantly, but that’s part of the process.

Correct and adjust. Keep moving.
That’s how success works.

5. You act like the person you believe you are.

The key isn’t more willpower.
It’s changing the internal script.

Want to become a confident speaker?
Don’t fake it—be it first in your mind.

4. The unconscious mind doesn’t know the difference between real and vividly imagined.

Visualizing success, confidence, and joy conditions your brain to act like it's real.

Practice mental rehearsal like an athlete. It works.

3. Your brain is a goal-striving mechanism.

It’s like a heat-seeking missile.

Feed it a clear goal (or mental picture), and it works to make it real.
You already use this every day—either to fail or succeed.

2. You can't outperform your self-image.

If you see yourself as a failure deep down, your subconscious will sabotage every win.

Change how you see yourself, and everything else starts to shift.

1. Psycho-Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz isn't just about "thinking positive."
It’s about how your self-image literally controls your success, habits, and happiness.

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Because in the moment that matters most,
confidence isn’t a feeling.

It’s a structure.

So listen, if you want to reduce filler words,
don’t start with your vocabulary.

Start with your framework.

That’s why feedback from a speaker coach isn’t about removing “ums.”

It’s about rewiring how your ideas flow under pressure so your delivery feels grounded, your thoughts stay clear, and your audience stays with you.

When your message has a clear architecture:
An intentional opening, defined points, and a strong close...
your brain doesn’t have to scramble for the next word.

You’ve already decided what matters.
You can focus on how you deliver it,
not what to say next.

...while your brain is busy managing you, your audience is making judgments about YOU.

Are you really confident?
Can they really trust you?
Should they keep listening?

That’s where structure comes in.

Filler words buy your brain milliseconds to catch up with your mouth.

They’re the linguistic version of buffering.
A momentary pause while your mind organizes meaning.

But here’s the catch ⬇️

Most people think filler words are a bad habit.
They’re not. They’re a signal.

When you say “um” or “uh,”
your brain isn’t malfunctioning.
It’s multitasking.

You’re retrieving words, structuring sentences,
regulating emotion, and monitoring social cues all at once.

Whew! 😰

Start treating your small audience like gold.

They're not just followers.
They're your business foundation.

Who else is building with intention?

The secret?
Learn to sell to 100 before trying to reach 10,000.

Because when you finally scale…
You'll have systems that actually work.

Not just theories.
Not just hope.
But proven formulas.

And here's what most don't realize:
Small audiences give you something invaluable - direct feedback loops.

While others are lost in vanity metrics, you're building a conversion machine.

Your small audience will expose every flaw in your:
• Messaging
• Offers
• Positioning
• Sales approach