Rebecca Wong

Screenshot essay titled 'Some People Will Never See The Real You. Stop Trying To Please Them. Please Yourself Instead.' The body includes poignant reflections on feeling invisible and unacknowledged by others. It discusses the pain of being misunderstood, and highlights how some people prefer a version of you that brings them comfort instead of accepting your true self. The essay emphasizes the importance of self-love and recognizing one's own energy, ultimately advocating for self-acceptance. Key points include the realization to stop seeking validation from those who cannot see your struggles, and to prioritize your own needs and authenticity over others' expectations.

When you focus on pleasing others, you lose yourself.

So, stop trying to be perfect.

Instead, be messy, complex and unpredictable.

Be the real you, and please yourself.

It's an important distinction. If you often worry about what others think of you, you don't need a new mantra, affirmation, or meditation session.

A person with low self-worth cares about what others think of them. A person with self-love cares about how others treat them.

A person with low self-worth cares about what others think of them. A person with self-love cares about how others treat them.

A person with low self-worth cares about what others think of them. A person with self-love cares about how others treat them.

A person with low self-worth cares about what others think of them. A person with self-love cares about how others treat them.

Learning to love yourself is a big, first step as you attempt to heal. It's so important.

Because once you can make that step, so much else begins to change.

A screenshot essay titled 'The 4 Distinct Characteristics Of A Heroine' discussing the portrayal of women in film and TV. The text critiques how women are often depicted as sidekicks or objectified, lacking authentic female representation. It outlines four key attributes of female heroines: 1) Fighting to save others instead of seeking vengeance. 2) Healing and nurturing rather than killing evil. 3) Valuing community and teamwork over being solitary. 4) Utilizing emotional intelligence and resilience rather than just physical strength. Examples of female characters such as Furiosa from Mad Max: Fury Road, Ripley from Aliens, and Katniss Everdeen from The Hunger Games are presented. The essay emphasizes the importance of recognizing and valuing women's unique strengths in heroism, advocating that women can change the world as themselves, not by conforming to male standards.

Don't be a hero. Be a heroine.

We fight differently, and win on a grander scale.

We are what the world needs right now.

The time of women has just begun.

I may have started out afraid, but I was able to find my center and push past it.

In so doing, I awakened the true heart of bravery, and smiled at fear.

#4: I had to understand that no one else was going to save me. If the memorial service was going to happen, I was going to have to be the one to arrange it. The responsibility was mine.

As Chogyam Trumpa has said, fear is not the enemy. It's actually the starting point.

#3: I needed to understand my basic goodness. To know, all the way through to my core, that even if I failed it would be alright. I would still have the love of my husband, my friends, my children. Nothing could ever change that.

And, perhaps most importantly,

#2: I had to stop protecting my heart from pain. Years of meditation conditioned me to feel the entire kaleidoscope of my emotions - including those I used to hold in check. This has allowed me to be comfortable with vulnerability.

#1: I needed to face all my undesirable parts and become comfortable with them. I have plenty of imperfections. But over the years, I've learned to accept and even love them.

How did such a shy wallflower as myself do these things?
I'm still in amazement.

A lot of groundwork needed to be done before I was capable of managing such a feat.

Here's what I needed to learn:

Until one day, I did it myself.

I organized, and led a funeral service/concert for my mother. It required me to badger my brothers, co-ordinate volunteers, and make decisions on the fly. Most astounding for me, I stood in front of an auditorium full of people, acted as emcee, and even sang a solo.

I used to think that people who were brave didn't feel fear.

They couldn't possibly. How could they accomplish all the marvelous things they did if they were afraid? I simply could not imagine feeling something as incapacitating as fear, and yet still find a way to move forward.

"The ground of warriorship is fear itself." ~ Chogyam Trumpa

If you let go a little you will have a little happiness. If you let go a lot you will have a lot of happiness. If you let go completely you will be free. ~ Ajahn Chah

Holding on is grasping.
At its root is fear and lack.

Letting go is freedom.
It's the ultimate power move.

"There is nothing on this earth more to be prized than true friendship".

~ Thomas Aquinas

"One loyal friend is worth ten thousand relatives".

~ Euripides

"The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness.....that is a friend who cares".

– Henri Nouwen

“A friend is someone who makes you laugh when you think you’ll never smile again.”

– Unknown

“A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out.”

– Walter Winchell

5 Ways Chronic Illness Sufferers Can Reframe Their Experience With Kindness, So Healing Is Possible You already know how to tough it out. What you need to learn is how to be kind to yourself.

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You already know how to tough it out.

What you need to learn, is how to be kind to yourself.

Sorry to my US friends.

This is what the majority of US citizens voted for. This is what you wanted.

Empathy is an ability of great power, that when lost, turns us into monsters.

What will you bring to life today?

"Let us then be up and doing
With a heart for any fate;
Still achieving, still pursuing,
Learn to labour and to wait".

~ Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

"Each of us is like a flower in God's garden, blossoming in our own time, and in our own way, each in different seasons of our spiritual and physical life. Each of us has been given a special gift - just for entering. Remember, you are already a winner."

~ Lama Surya Das

"It is by doing down into the abyss that we recover the treasures of life. Where you stumble, there lies your treasure."

~ Joseph Campbell

"Life is a form of not being sure, not knowing what next or how....the artist never entirely knows. We guess. We may be wrong, but we take leap after leap in the dark."

~ Agnes de Mille

"You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you stop to look fear in the face...you must do the thing you cannot do".

~ Eleanor Roosevelt

"The whole is greater than the sum of its parts. I am greater than the sum of my parts".

~ Deng Ming-Dao