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@emilybynight.bsky.social

writer, biker, dancer in the bay. editor at The Ick emilybynight.substack.com

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Times of fragmentation call for a legible sense of order.

We’re pleased to introduce the 02025 issue of Pace Layers, Long Now’s annual print journal of long-term thinking. It explores the ancient past and distant future of the present moment.

A preview of what's inside ->

19.11.2025 19:00 β€” πŸ‘ 10    πŸ” 4    πŸ’¬ 2    πŸ“Œ 2
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How I Got Canceled by the Left and Right What cancel culture reveals and conceals about redemption

If anyone can teach us about the real-world consequences of cancel culture, it's @lydialaurenson.bsky.social

For the season finale of The Ick, her essay brings down the house: www.emilybynight.com/p/how-i-got-...

06.09.2025 17:35 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 1    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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How the Left Gagged on Sex Work And dismantled a revolution

what happens with the radical left kicks you out for being too radical?

on The Ick: Kit reflects on fighting for sex worker rights in New Orleans, and the Marxists who turned their backs on her www.emilybynight.com/p/the-left-g...

20.08.2025 16:05 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

ty!!

20.08.2025 16:01 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

coming out today about having an eating disorder, and how this was related to/ caused by?/ exacerbated by my "tummy issues" aka IBS

06.08.2025 19:59 β€” πŸ‘ 3    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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You Don’t Have IBS, You Have An Eating Disorder But why not both?

"hot girls have tummy issues" is a funny meme, sure...but when you learn that 90% of women with IBS also have an eating disorder the meme seems morbidly twisted

06.08.2025 19:59 β€” πŸ‘ 4    πŸ” 2    πŸ’¬ 2    πŸ“Œ 0
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The Idiot’s Guide to Mystical Interactive Theater A fortune teller's attempt at dramaturgy

what happens when a sidewalk fortune teller performs ego death on stage during an improv occult play?

one of the greatest disaster stories of our time!

New on The Ick: a story from @joetforhire.com that smashes the gas and doesn't let up
www.emilybynight.com/p/the-idiots...

24.07.2025 18:24 β€” πŸ‘ 5    πŸ” 1    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 1

lucky

14.07.2025 02:33 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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The 'Moist' Mind Virus: Why We Hate Wet Sounds On misophonia and socially transmitted disgust

Why do you hate the word "moist"? why do wet sounds like teeth-sucking, slurping, and swallowing evoke a sense of disgust and rage?

@jakee.bsky.social explains in dazzling detail on The Ick...
emilybynight.substack.com/p/the-moist-...

13.07.2025 20:41 β€” πŸ‘ 2    πŸ” 1    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0
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The Politics of Contagion Dispatches from the immune system of a failed utopia

I lived at an anarchist commune for 3 years and learned a lot about β€œgoing viral”. Here's a story in three plagues.

Read my new piece in The Ick:

open.substack.com/pub/emilybyn...

02.07.2025 15:34 β€” πŸ‘ 51    πŸ” 13    πŸ’¬ 2    πŸ“Œ 3

It's hard not to agree with that one

18.06.2025 16:19 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0
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Is The Ick Real? An investigation of female primatological filters

Everyone knows laziness is unattractive.... but why is rolling dice off a table unsexy? running into a screen door?
@etirabys.bsky.social has such a fun and interesting explanation
Read it here -> www.emilybynight.com/p/is-the-ick...

18.06.2025 15:42 β€” πŸ‘ 4    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

2. Distance from a masculine archetype icks
- femininity or neoteny (e.g. wearing lip balm, eating sippy yogurt)
- physical fragility (e.g. standing naked waiting for the shower to get hot, blowing on food to cool it down)
3. Shirking work icks
(e.g.tried to fob off preparing food he wanted to eat)

18.06.2025 15:42 β€” πŸ‘ 3    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 2    πŸ“Œ 0

Is "the ick" real? @etirabys.bsky.social investigated and found that women's icks fall into 3 main categories:

1. Raw fitness icks
- manual dexterity, tool use (e.g. rolling dice off table, running into screen door)
- cognitive inability (e.g. bad at spelling)

18.06.2025 15:42 β€” πŸ‘ 8    πŸ” 1    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0

thanks, I created a midjourney model - I'm generating and graphic designing it myself

18.06.2025 15:37 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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Men Want to Be Sons, Not Parents Your assumptions about motherhood give me the ick

Why do men's feelings about motherhood often feel so idealistic and rigid? Why do they thought police the image of motherhood? what's going on? are men ok?

Season 4 of The Ick kicks off today with an absolute banger from
@eurydicelives.blogsky.venki.dev -> www.emilybynight.com/p/men-want-t...

11.06.2025 17:17 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0

my non-gardener friends never ask about my bone meal or NKP ratio - like do you even care about me

06.06.2025 16:27 β€” πŸ‘ 3    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

I would love it!

05.06.2025 15:54 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

ty joe! so inspired by the concept country work fr (also do you want to write for this issue???)

04.06.2025 23:58 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0
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Announcing The Ick Season 4: The Magazine Big news for the new season!

Plus a PRINT magazine and reading event at the end of the season. this is truly my dream come true. tune iinnnnnnn substack.com/home/post/p-...

04.06.2025 20:29 β€” πŸ‘ 4    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0
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Thrilled to announce Season 4 of The Ick, featuring writing from @eurydicelives.blogsky.venki.dev, @jakee.bsky.social, @lydialaurenson.bsky.social, @ninatummyache.bsky.social, @deepfates.com.deepfates.com.deepfates.com.deepfates.com.deepfates.com + more surprise guests TBA!

04.06.2025 20:28 β€” πŸ‘ 9    πŸ” 3    πŸ’¬ 2    πŸ“Œ 0
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or if you can't, you could contribute to the fundraiser? ily tysm mtyc.co/r7e1kf

22.05.2025 20:15 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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ps you should come to the show πŸ’‹πŸ’‹πŸ˜ŽπŸ˜Ž

22.05.2025 20:14 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0

starting a burlesque career in my late 30s, you can just do things

21.05.2025 18:13 β€” πŸ‘ 8    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0

Hiiiii πŸ₯°

21.05.2025 16:09 β€” πŸ‘ 2    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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Why No Elbows on the Table? History of a not-so-arbitrary rule, plus updated guidance

do you put your elbows on the table, heathen? www.emilybynight.com/p/why-no-elb...

06.02.2025 02:39 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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How to Compliment a Stranger Why this small grace has such big social effects

It's easier and harder than you think to give a good compliment to a stranger. Don't make it weird. Here's some advice, with help from @iwsfutcmd.bsky.social www.emilybynight.com/p/how-to-com...

11.12.2024 19:56 β€” πŸ‘ 2    πŸ” 1    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

Compliments you should NOT give to strangers:
- An obvious, striking feature ❌ "You're so tall"
- Transactional ❌ "I love your eyes, can I have your number?"
- Assumptions about age/gender ❌ "Wow, you look great for your age.”
- Body size ❌ "You're so pretty for [body size/shape]"

11.12.2024 19:54 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0

Compliments you should give to strangers:
Specific βœ… β€œYour tie and vest are so well-coordinated.”
Related to taste/style βœ… β€œThat book is my favoriteβ€”great choice.”
No strings attached βœ… "You have such a warm smile!" said as you pass walking the opposite direction

11.12.2024 19:49 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0